TTC baby no1. Looking for fellow crazy TTC friends!

[CAG14]

Hey

This is my 9th month TTC my first baby and I'm 33. I got static smiley on Friday on OPK, and now I'm in my TWW - again! I'm currently on furlough so the wait seems even longer and more painful and I definitely end up going a bit crazy 🤪

Anyone else in similar boat and need keeping sane?! Also any TTC tips you've heard of? I will literally try anything at the moment haha.

Sorry if this is stupid question but what does IC stand for?
I'm so impatient....I've still not had any signs I'm going to ovulate any time soon.

@Mia1985x femometer emailed back to say they have enough testers but will email in the future big anything comes up. Worth a try though!

@CAG14 ahhh that is incredibly frustrating. Do you think you'll try temping?

@butterfly5291 ic just means internet cheapie!

@stabal yeah I think temping is the way forward for next month and going to try SMEP as well. Driving me mad all this.

@CAG14 that is so confusing but good to know so thanks for sharing. I have been temping for over a year now and taking this freak current cycle out of the equation my spike in temp has always happened either 1 or 2 days after the static smile on CB. It's definitely handy to temp and see if your body follows a pattern, you will get used to it quickly I'm sure.

Ive also wondered with the CB taking your first reading of the month as a 'base' and the following days being dependent on that initial reading, what if by the time you do your first CB your LH has already started to gradually rise. Could CB be looking for a bigger surge and that way miss it or show it alot later? Does that make sense?

I used to always not want to waste the expensive CBs so sometimes started them later than the recommended day but think this method actually hinders what they are doing.

@butterfly5291 that's s shame but good they got back to you and I'm sure you will get something appear in the future as they are doing them all the time. You can pick up basal thermometers on Amazon from about £6, I would def say it's worth getting one 👍🏻

@Mia1985x yes I think that is what happened and I ovulated early and missed my rise as used the CB too late. But I am definitely going to buy a thermometer for next month and start temping.

@CAG14 I'm excited for you to try the temping! I'm pathetically involved in studying charts, it's just so crazy to me how everything works. A lot of people just assume you get pregnant and don't think about all the background stuff going on in your body

@stabal what thermometer did you buy? I will be asking for all the advice on here!

@Stabal I'm with you on that, I find it utterly fascinating. Even though it is frustrating this TTC business.

What's everyones thoughts on FMU not actually being the best for pregnancy tests? I've read some interesting articles showing much higher % of positives early in confirmed pregnancies for not using FMU.

@Mia1985x I always wonderEd this, and when I was pregnant before I tested the day my period should have been due with a frer using FMU and got a strong positive almost immediately - then in the afternoon (because I didn’t quite believe it!) I tested again using a Tesco test and got a negative - I think it was probably a combination of the fact your urine is more diluted during the day and Tesco tests being a bit shit possibly! Because I still wasn’t quite convinced I then did two clear blue tests the day after - slightly overkill but I wanted to be sure 😂

@CAG14 I have the femometer bluetooth one but it's really not necessary, they have a cheap one that you just enter the temperature manually to the femometer app after you've read it

@Mia1985x when I was pregnant my strongest lines weren't FMU. I tested twice a day over 3 days because I couldn't believe it and they were always stronger on SMU. But I do drink a lot of water before bed and in between FMU and SMU I wouldn't have drank as much so I dunno if that's anything to do with it. Plus I've said before my sleep is awful so sometimes when I waken during the night I'd go for a pee too so maybe not best to listen to me actually 😂

@Mia1985x @Pippy20 @Stabal girls I didn’t know this about FMU and SMU, but I’ve never really got that far in this process, AF usually arrives.
As if this process isn’t confusing enough then we also have to think about the best time to take a pregnancy test, why is it so cruel.
if I ever get BFP I’m still going to disbelieve it anyway haha do we think SMU is the better bet?

Me and OH have just agreed to go for a meal 31st for a friends birthday with a couple of others, it’s the first tome we will have been out in what feels like forever. AF is due before then so at least I’ll know if I can have a drink, but now I’m worried, if I am pregnant how do I get out of the not drinking situation... But I’m thinking too far ahead how aren’t I 🤦🏼‍♀️

@stabal thanks for the advice chick

@LMA27 God I always worry about this as I'm always a "drinker" and my friends know this. However a meal out isn't too bad as it is more common for people not to drink with a meal than say a bar or party. I wouldn't make a big deal about it and just order a soft drink. If anyone says anything just say you are having a dry couple of weeks as you drank quite a bit during lockdown??

Sooooo the opk drama continues guys 😆. I got a positive IC this morning so it is just a day later than the CB after all. This has actually reasured me that I haven't missed my peak and have just ovulated a lot later than normal this month!!

@CAG14 yeah probably a good idea! I could maybe just nurse one alcoholic drink so it looks like I’ve been drinking all night when In fact I’ve been downing the water haha but if AF arrives I’ll be drowning my sorrows!

Well that’s good news that it makes more sense why IC wasn’t dark until today but you’ve covered DTD both days anyway didn’t you so should be all good 🤞🏼 Do you feel better about it now?

@LMA27 Or just could say you are hungover from the previous night?! That’s one I’ve used before lol. People are so bloody nosy aren’t they - I wouldnt dare say anything even if I did notice someone was drinking less or non alcoholic 😂

I remember once going to a hen party and it was seriously lame so I nursed a beer and then decided to just have soft drinks as it wasn’t worth a hangover - especially as I had to sleep on the floor. There was also a tiny hot tub where we were staying which I couldn’t be arsed with going in - so the whole night I had comments about ‘obviously being pregnant’ because I wasn’t drinking alcohol or sitting in a warm tub of everyone’s dead skin and germs lol - and this was before we even started ttc!

@LMA27 I also think maybe FMU doesn't work as well on the IC so may have been why it was lighter yesterday but CB was solid smiley. Yes we DTD yesterday morning but haven't done it today yet so hopefully will get an afternoon sesh in 🤣

@Pippy20 people just love being rude don't they!!! Ergh even if I thought something I just wouldn't say anything as you never know what people are going through

@CAG14 I always had a real hit and miss relationship with the IC opks - I’d get zilch on them and then a smiley on the CB. I think time of day definitely makes a difference and they do say start testing twice a day as soon as you get a smiley - I never bother with that mainly as cb is so expensive - although saying that on amazon a box of 20 were only £16 at the minute instead of £28 - bargain! Can’t even imagine how much money that company makes annually 😂

What’s everyone up to this weekend? Weather looks like it’s going to be nice so I plan on sitting in the garden and reading for most of it :-)

@Pippy20 I think you're right. Apparently in the afternoon around 2pm is the best time to test with them. But the CB says after your longest sleep! Oh wow I might head off to amazon then...

We are having a fish and chip dinner tonight from our local which I love so it is a real highlight haha (god I'm old) and then tomorrow heading over to my brother in laws house for a bit so hope it is nice weather!

Well, I’m 11 dpo no symptoms and took a test this morning and def negative. Due period on Monday. Would you take that as a pretty definitive negative? I wana drink this weekend now as being told of possible redundancies on Tuesday and honestly just wana get drunk now! 🙈😭 I really hoped it would be a bfp this month as well, pretty gutted even though I knew I had literally not a single symptom. But def doing smep next time!

@CAG14 our highlight will be fish & chips tomorrow too 🙌🏻 Hopefully at the seaside if it stays dry! I really get so excited about takeaways!

@Faith82 so sorry about BFN. I'd say just have a drink. They say that the first few weeks of pregnancy it doesn't matter if you have had a drink etc because the embryo isn't getting any of your "food" yet as hasn't attached. A lot of women get drunk before they know they are pregnant in this time anyway. Obviously if you find out you are next week then stop drinking straight away but don't worry about enjoying yourself this weekend.

@Faith82 I agree with @CAG14 in that a couple of drinks aren’t going to really do any damage and if it makes you feel a bit better and relax it’s probably worth it!

Sorry about the BFN, it’s always gutting :-(. I normally have a couple of days of sulking and then gear myself up and get excited for the next cycle! It’s good to try new things so definitely worth looking at SMEP, these things can’t help to try! Like me and my wheatgrass lawnmower juice shots 😂 actually don’t mind the taste of it anymore! And it’s packed with so much goodness I figure even if it doesn’t do much for fertility I’m at least getting the other health benefits of it 😅

@Faith82 sorry for the BFN 😔 despite what threads on MN would have you believe, it's not all that common to get a positive test 11 DPO. You're not out until AF arrives. And as @CAG14 says, no nutrients come from us in the early weeks so please don't stress yourself if you drink now and get a BFP later on!

Thank you @CAG14, @Pippy20 and @Stabal

I so need to relax this weekend. Like I say I’d be so surprised if I was pregnant right now anyway as 100% doesn’t feel like it but I know I guess whether af comes on Monday is the only way of knowing for sure! After which, time to pick myself back up and get ready for trying again.

@Faith82 I hope you can enjoy your weekend and chill as much as you possibly can with everything going on 💜

I'm losing the plot here. Due to ovulate in a few days and yesterday I had a high opk but today barely a line. Normally my tests get consistently darker until peak. Ugh! This whole thing would drive you to insanity honestly.