Pregnancy after MMC

[Bells993]

Hi Everyone,
Unfortunately I had a MMC on our second pregnancy last month. (I have a 1 year old)
I should of been 9 weeks at my Scan but baby was only 8 weeks 4 so it had just happened. 3 days later I had a private D&C as I didn’t want to risk the hospital/ the trauma of dealing with it at home with my little boy.
I had bleeding on and off for 2 weeks after (6th of April was the D&C) I had regular bloody tests, my last one my HCG had come down to 70 so 3 days later I got my first negative test.
I had an internal to confirm no retained pregnancy and was given the all clear to try again straight away. I’ve had cystitis this weekend to add to my problems and now I’m getting this on my tests. Had anyone experienced anything similar, what are your thoughts? Feel like my body’s just giving up on me haha! I’d love to be pregnant again but I’d just be surprised if it could all happen within such a small time scale
Thanks everyone

@Bells993 & @MrsTtobe I think even tho I have had Af I have not ovulated as HCG levels are to high to Ovulate. A little bit like when you have a period on the combined pill.
Next blood test should be in about 10 days and that will be requested by charring cross. You can not get pregnant untill they are happy no cells are still growing. I have had a follow up internal ultra sound to check there is nothing left (before we found this out) and they are happy that all is good. I think with a mole pregnacey even if just a few cells are left (to small to show on ultrasound) In time they would start to grown and give of HCG that's how the hospitals monitor.
It's all been a bit strange to find out as I thought we were all done and sorted! I do feel ok actually, I find it comforting knowing a reason this happened and that it shouldn't happen again!!

@Leaf87 glad you're ok. Yes I would definitely find some comfort in knowing why my miscarriage happened too! It would definitely help my anxiety with not having a clue why it ended as it did. So can definitely see your thinking. Please keep us up to date. ❤

@msanne hey lovely. How you feeling today? X

@MrsTtobe - I'm doing ok. Still no AF and still feeling very "pregnant" but without the positive test to prove it!

I am on a POAS lockdown. Am not going to do another test until Saturday at least.... so far, managed since yesterday morning.....argh!!! Debating calling the EPU and seeing if they will do a scan of me as think the GP will just brush me off.

I wish patience was one of my virtues!

How are you today? Feeling any symptoms yet? Which CD are you?

xoxo

Hey @msanne that's so strange. How many days late are you now? I would give it till Mon and if still no AF or bfp then definitely call GP again or yes ring EPU! If you be upfront with how anxious it's making you then surely they will do something!

CD 14 - I'm pretty sure ive always ovulated around day 9 (dd was definitely conceived cd9 as it was the only day we dtd) but last night I definitely had ewcm so had to drag oh to bed after I'd been awful to him. 🙈 So does that mean ive already ovulated or im about to? Im so crap with all this and don't know what's supposed to happen and when. 🤷‍♀️ Help! 😂 xx

Hi everyone, can I join this thread? I had an MVA yesterday at 10 weeks for a blighted ovum/mmc and I'm hoping my cycle will get back to normal quickly. This is my second miscarriage (first in January) so I am going to push for blood tests with my GP, as I'm 35 and don't feel like I have time to waste.

Goodmorning all.

@itssquidstella - sorry for your loss. Please do push for the extra tests - we owe it to ourselves! Good luck.

@MrsTtobe - got my fingers and toes crossed for you!! I know it's awful isn't it when you have to be so intimate after you've been fighting. I am rooting for you!!

TMI - I woke up today and have lots of mucus (a bit yellowy - I feel wet all the time) and has a pink tinge to it. So I think AF is coming (SOB!) as I think it is too late for implantation bleeding...?! Never had this before though and have no cramps whatsoever so just playing the waiting game. Hopefully not too long to wait either way.

How are the rest of you? xoxo

Thanks @msanne yes I hate dtd after arguing but oh doesn't mind either way. 😜😂
How you feeling now? Any more unusual cm? Hopefully no AF?!
I've still got lots of ewcm so going to have to dtd again tonight! This month we've literally give it everything we've got! 😔😴🙏 x

@Bells993 any sign of AF yet? Hope not?! Did you say you will text on Wednesday? 🙏 x

Welcome hun @itssquidstella sorry for the circumstances we chat. So sorry this is the second time it’s happened to you, how awful. Your periods went back to normal quickly for you to be pregnant again so soon which is great, hopefully you won’t have a problem Falling quickly this time round. Have they given you any advice?

@msanne how have you been since your post this Morning? I can’t remember if you’d had a AF since your MC? What day cycle are you on. So hard to keep up and you can’t jump back a page without loosing everything you’ve wrote! So annoying 🙊

@Leaf87 how are you doing?

@MrsTtobe no hun, nothing yet at all. No symptoms either, I’m trying to be really good and wait till Monday then it’s 8 weeks exactly since D&C. Don’t want to waste my last test and it’s so disheartening seeing just one line. When will you test? About two weeks from now? Xxxx

Thanks @Bells993. The EPU consultant was lovely and has told me to speak to my GP and ask for blood tests; a friend has also given me the contact details of a really good private fertility doctor so I'm going to get in touch with him too and see if he can help.

Fingers crossed if there is an issue, it's easy to identify and fix!

That’s great news @itssquidstella hopefully that saves you some more heartache in the future and you can get your answers soon. I know a girl who had 4 MC then lost a baby at 26 weeks, then Another MC to finally have a baby. After the investigation it was just an overactive immune sytstem and she managed it with injections for the first few months and is now 4 months pregnant again so it just shows what one little problem can do xxxx

@Bells993 all ok over here, I can't really report much. AF has been and gone now but we have to wait...
Hopefully should hear from Charring Cross next week, hopeful my HCG will have dropped a bit more by then 8 weeks since D&C and on monday my levels were at 12. Anything between 0 & 5 is classed as normal... maybe being optimistic but sort of hoping I will be around there when Charring cross get a blood sample. Then I wont be monitored for as long.

Your patience is impressive with your waiting! Fingers crossed.

@itssquidstella welcome, I am sorry you find yourself here it sucks. However we are all in the same boat together and these ladies really are great to talk to

@Leaf87 nice to hear from you and glad you're doing ok. We're all here to hopefully offer advice when you need it. 😘

@Bells993 you've got some patience and will power. That's so frustrating that it's been that long but we all have everything crossed for you! 🙏🙏
Yes my AF due 11th June ish so I'm pretty good and never test early 😂 my anxiety can't take it 😂
Fingers crossed his swimmers are busy as im writing this. 😂😂

Hi Ladies,

Sorry for going quiet last night - AF started with a vengeance and I wasn't doing too great.

@MrsTtobe and @Bells993 - I am so upset AF started but in the same sense am relieved that I know that I am not going crazy. I stopped testing on Tuesday so practiced some willpower for 2 days before AF arrived. CD 2 today and the countdown begins again....

What gets me is all the symptoms I had - I was convinced that they were not PMS! I think waiting next time will be harder as although I know it already the symptom spotting has got to STOP!!

I am rooting for you girls - some good news is overdue....sending you all lots of love xoxo

@msanne ahh I’m sorry so horrible how your body can toy with you like that. Like you said though Atleast it’s come and you’ve got a fresh start!

@MrsTtobe I’m trying to take a leaf out of your book haha! Plus I just think let’s say best case situation I am the longer i don’t find out the better because I’m dreading the wait till the 3 month mark, we all will be. Can’t believe I had such a first easy pregnancy with my first to have all this! I’ve gone off milk both times so I’m just praying for the moment my partner passes me a cuppa and it makes me feel sick! Xx

Morning @msanne that's so shit! Hope you're ok, I took some consolation in at least I knew my body was back doing what it should be but it's still always shit! 😔
That's the killer isn't it. The symptoms! For the 5 cycles we were trying before my miscarriage I was convinced every time I was pg! I had every symptom going. Ironically the cycle I was actually pg I was convinced it was AF on her way and I felt the least pg I had the whole time! Very strange things are our bodies! But dust yourself off and think positive! You're 2 days down already and well on your way to next cycle. 🙏
Im CD 15 - feeling very much what's done is done and what will be will be. No symptoms at all but would be too early yet I think.
Will start taking my vit b complex again this month if and when AF comes! I got pg the month I took that so superstitious me is thinking I need to do the same things exactly! 🙈😂

@Bells993 good girl 😂
Yes you're so right! Honestly the thought of those first 3 months is sending my anxiety through the roof! I was 11 weeks when it happened and had stupidly read somewhere that if you made it to 8 weeks then 98% chance of everything being fine. 😔
Yes imagine how lovely it would be for you if you were already a fair way through when you find out!
Are you having any symptoms or anything? Have you had any spotting or anything?

Happy Weekend Girls 🌞🌞🌞

Ahh that’s what worries me @MrsTtobe I think I will pay for one of those packages you can do for a once a week heartbeat scan at like ‘window to the womb’ I know they say every week your chances get higher even I thought at nearly 9 If anything was wrong it would of happened at like 5/6.
No Ive never had any symptoms like spotting. My son I found out straight away because I was 16 days late (turned out I OV a lot later than I thought so I wasn’t as far along as I thought At my first scan) but I went off milk and couldn’t get my head out the toilet for week 6/7/8/9 haha. Then this second time I OV early (without knowing) so I didn’t think I needed to test for another few weeks, partner made me a cuppa and I couldn’t drink it, and turned out I was 6 weeks. Had a few days of sickness again but then it all died off which explains it all I guess

On another note have any of you seen Desi Perkins fertility journey on her instagram, her YouTube videos on her MC and their journey has been amazing to watch there’s 5/6 xxx

Thanks @Leaf87

Thanks ladies.

@Bells993 - amen to that! I am so nervous for the first 12 weeks - you have got the patience of a saint! Here's to hoping - fingers crossed.

@MrsTtobe - it is cruel that information isn't it....i thought that too....I had a private scan at 10 weeks and saw little baby waving and everything and then at our 12 week scan we were told about the Trisomies.

I did want to ask again about supplements though - do you ladies take anything extra to help you along? and if you do, are there particular cycle days you take the supplements? Currently, I take Folate, Sevens seas Multivitamins with Cod liver oil and EPO. I've read lots about Co enzyme 10 and Soy Isoflavins but not sure if they're worth taking and if you do, which days to take them! My cycles have to date been fairly regular so am also worried about how any new supplements might affect my natural cycle. Obviously want to do anything that could help Mother nature along though!

Happy weekend to you all too xoxo

@Bells993 see my 8 week scan where everything was fine has made me think the opposite! I don't want any early scans next time. It was the 8 week scan which made everything harder. I think if I hadn't had that scan then it would have been better... emotionally for me to deal with so i really don't think I would have an early scan now. 😔 The miscarriage has totally ruined early pregnancy and the enjoyment of scans for me! 😔 It's just horrible isn't it.
So like you say fingers crossed you will be turning your nose up at a cuppa sometime soon. And then you wont need a test. 😂

Desi Perkins, no not watched her you tube. Im following her on insta though. You tube and Mumsnet saved me during miscarriage. Watching videos of people talking about their miscarriage really helped me. I love you tube. My faves Emily Norris, Lucy Jessica Carter and Charlotte Louise Taylor. 😊

@msanne I'm rubbish! Only take my pregnacare and im crap at taking that if I'm honest! I started taking vit b complex before I conceived so will do that next month as and when AF shows.
What's the coq10 thing I hear everyone talk about? I'm weird about taking stuff. I hate even taking paracetamol or antihistamines for my hayfever.
Are you all still drinking caffeine? I don't drink much alcohol but I can't give up my tea/ iced coffees!😂

so I caved this morning, BFN on a early response 😫 I don’t understand why it’s taking so long for my periods to come back. Should I be worried? 😭 xx

Morning ladies!

Just been catching up with the thread. 4DPO here CD22. I actually ovulated on CD 18 so just trying to not think about it now and what will be will be!

@MrsTtobe I can't give up caffeine either - I have tried to cut down though as I can have anything between 6-9 teas / coffees a day 😬 but am limiting myself to 2 teas in the morning and an iced coffee at lunch time. Anything after that is rooibos or decaf earl grey!

@Bells993 I wouldn't be worried just yet - everyone is different and being anxious or worrying can delay it further. If you're really worried though you could always ring the GP Monday for a phone conversation? You know your body best and if something doesn't feel right always there's no harm if you check.

HI Ladies,

@MrsTtobe - I do drink at least 2 coffees a day - I need it! I usually cut down to only one in the morning once I find out I'm pregnant. I am drinking a lot more than before atm though - i think it is the stress. I opened a bottle of red last night and nearly all of it is gone! Oops! I will stop drinking the alcohol once i've ovulated though.

@Bells993 - please don't worry. As @Frankincense88 says - call the GP and see if they can do other tests. If you are further along in the pregnancy your HPT might not pick it up anyway. Also, if you are not pregnant and still waiting for AF, they may be able to do an internal scan just to check all is well? It must be stressful for you - thinking of you xoxo

@Frankincense88 and @MrsTTobe - not long for you guys to start testing now. Fingers and toes crossed for you.

AF is so heavy for me this time around, I actually think it is remnants of my last pregnancy (there was a tiny bit left at my last scan), so am pretty sure it is a good thing I didn't conceive this month.

June is going to be it ladies - here's to willing good things for us all.

xoxo

Morning all... another week! 🙄
CD 18 and im so fed up! I feel emotional and anxious! 😔 I'm so desperate to be pregnant but so terrified of it happening again. I lay awake at night worrying about it. 😔

@msanne my first AF was a bad one too! I guess our bodies clearing everything out! Hope you're ok and will soon be ready to 'go' again. 😬

@Bells993 hope you're ok? Any signs of anything yet? AF or pg?

@Frankincense88 you're just a couple of days in front of me! How you feeling? Your cycles usually 28 days? So a week or so till you test? Xxx