Pregnancy after MMC

[Bells993]

Hi Everyone,
Unfortunately I had a MMC on our second pregnancy last month. (I have a 1 year old)
I should of been 9 weeks at my Scan but baby was only 8 weeks 4 so it had just happened. 3 days later I had a private D&C as I didn’t want to risk the hospital/ the trauma of dealing with it at home with my little boy.
I had bleeding on and off for 2 weeks after (6th of April was the D&C) I had regular bloody tests, my last one my HCG had come down to 70 so 3 days later I got my first negative test.
I had an internal to confirm no retained pregnancy and was given the all clear to try again straight away. I’ve had cystitis this weekend to add to my problems and now I’m getting this on my tests. Had anyone experienced anything similar, what are your thoughts? Feel like my body’s just giving up on me haha! I’d love to be pregnant again but I’d just be surprised if it could all happen within such a small time scale
Thanks everyone

@MrsTtobe Morning Hun, hope you had a good weekend. I know it’s so hard isn’t it, please just try to remember that this is a testing time for everyone in the world right now let alone your situation, it’s not your fault and how your feeling is completely normal. We have no way of taking our minds of things which makes everything SO difficult. I lay there and get angry with myself for the time ‘wasted’ but I’ve got to remember it’s not time wasted as Im safe and healthy. You’ve started a fresh month, your doing all you can do vitamin wise you’ve just got to try to relax And not let it bring you down (hard I know)
How have you got on DTD and with your ovulation sticks! How long is your cycle normally? When would you test? Just so we have a date to look forward too!

Nothing from me yet, negative test again but my doctor is calling me today and she’s going to arrange a scan and hormone test Wednesday. My best friend has just come on (she’s been trying for 8 months now, I might go see her and give her a hug (not allowed I know) as she’s getting really down, hoping her hormones might set mind off haha... they say women sync)

I think when we do all get pregnant again it’s important to enjoy it and celebrate the fact we’ve even reached a milestone by becoming pregnant again which is one of the hardest parts. I’m such a negative nelly normally so doing my best to stay positive

Xx

@Bells993 you're so so right. I know 100% that what will be will be and whatever happens life should be enjoyed! I have always suffered with health anxiety since I was about 25 and my mom had cancer so for about 10 years. Im ok for a few weeks but the slightest thing sets me off and then I worry it's something more serious etc. The miscarriage has massively set it all off again! 😔

My cycles are around 27 ish days. I don't use any kind of tracking, no opks or temp or anything like that mainly because it would all just set me off and I would become obsessed! 🙈 But we've dtd most days from CD6 to CD17 so 🤞. I reckon AF due around 10th/11th June!

Yes you give your friend a hug. It sounds like she needs one. 😔

Let us know what the Dr says lovely. 😘 xx

@MrsTtobe Yep - CD24 here with AF due Friday / Saturday. I usually have 27/28 day cycles but my last one post MC was 33. I didn't ovulate until CD18 though so worrying now because I read loads of information avoid short luteal phases and how it's harder to conceive because the womb lining can't thicken enough in time 😩 trying just to think what will be will be though! Feeling fine in myself, no symptoms at all but tbh I didn't have any last time other than cramps which I thought was AF! Definitely not going to test until I am officially 'late' though so I don't get my hopes up / spend loads of money on tests!

Hope you're all well ladies, sending some positivity and sunshine your way 💕☀️

@Frankincense88 I researched short luteal phase when we were trying before my miscarriage! I had some really short cycles and convinced myself my uterus wasnt having enough time to thicken etc! But I conceived so must have been ok. Google is a great but equally dangerous place! Happy Monday 😘😊

She’s arrived! Can’t believe it, literally after my doctor rang. Bang.... hasn’t been too bad just yet. Hopefully by the weekend all over and done with. So relieved my doctor was going to suggest medication to get my AF here which she said she wanted to avoid because it could mess me up trying to conceive so I’m super relieved! Xx

@Bells993 - yaaay! So happy your body has reset and you didn't need any further intervention. Now you can start planning again :)

My AF finished yesterday - 5 days long so more than I usually have. Also my cycle last month was 33 days, when I am usually bang on 28 days. I think when we get round to it we are going to have to dtd every day for 2 weeks straight to ensure we don't miss the window. I'm getting exhausted just thinking of it - lol!

How is everyone else feeling today? @MrsTtobe @Frankincense88 @Leaf87 xoxo

@Bells993 yayyy, never been so happy to congratulate someone on their AF!😂 But so happy you can finally close this chapter and look forward. I remember feeling overwhelming relief that everything was getting back to normal.

@msanne how exciting for you. I'm always so hopeful and positive and that stage of cycle. It's nice to start a fresh. Lots of dtd for you. We started on CD 6 and just carried on this month. Think we only missed 1 or 2 days max. 😳😴

I'm CD 19 and ive got a banging headache. It started last night and ive woke up with it today. I think how anxious and crap I was feeling yesterday combined with the heat etc has caused it. Hoping it's not a sign AF is on her way. 🙏🤞 xx

@bells993 Yay! That's brilliant news! So pleased for you!

@msanne you're exactly the same as me! Usually bang on 28 days but last cycle was 33.

CD25 / 7DPO here, feeling fine still, no symptoms at all. I've convinced myself I'm out this cycle because we DTD the day before ovulation rather than on the day of. I know there's still a chance but my brain works in mysterious ways when TTC 😂

@MrsTtobe hahahaha - well done you for only missing 1 day or 2. I think I will need to take some energy supplements to keep going. It's not the dtd - rather having the energy to after dealing with work and 2 kids all day everyday! God give me strength - but like you say, I am happy to start afresh.

One thing I have learnt this last cycle is not to take ANY sign that AF or that BFP is on its way. Last month I was convinced I had SO many pregnancy symptoms when in fact I did not. I got my BFN for 5 days after AF was due but I still refused to believe it! We really overthink things. I know it sounds easy when in reality the wait is horrendous - but we need to just try our hardest to just let things be.

Fingers crossed for you xoxo

@Frankincense88 - you've still got a chance! But you are doing the right thing - don't focus on it. It will happen of its own course xoxo

@Bells993 so pleased Af has arrived and all its starting to return to normal!

@MrsTtobe @Frankincense88 @msanne I have everything crossed for you all!!! I am still just waiting to hear from Charring cross hospital hopefully I should have heard be Wednesday/Thursday if not I will call and chase. Juts a bit frustrated I can not join you all! It is quite nice not having go stress to much about everything tho and just riding it out (she says trying to be positive!)

@msanne so true. Being so sure you're pregnant and then AF coming so unexpectedly is just horrible. I was totally convinced in January. The month before I actually conceived. I had every pregnancy symptom going! 😔 Determined not to torture myself this time around and like you said try to accept that what will be will be but life shouldn't stop. I'm determined not to wish away time and be grateful for my 2 beautiful children even if (worse case scenario) I wasnt to have anymore.
CD 20, no idea how many dpo! Just taking each day as it comes.
How are you feeling? Have you started dtd marathon? 😴 Hope you're keeping your energy up. 😂

@Frankincense88 any symptoms yet lovely? How you feeling?

@Leaf87 lovely to hear from you. Let us know how you get on with the hospital and keep us up to date. You will soon be back on this very stressful ttc journey so enjoy the not having to worry about it all while you can. ❤

@Bells993 how you getting on? Hope first AF isn't too bad. Mine was quite bad but think that's because mine are usually fairly light. You and oh all ready to start dtd soon! 😂

@MrsTtobe nope! Nothing yet! Had a banging headache all day yesterday but I think it's the heat / the stress of trying to work Microsoft Teams 😂😂 AF due Friday so will test on the weekend if no sign! I'll be 12DPO then so might still be a bit early! Xx

@Frankincense88 - I have a banging migraine - nothing to do with TTC - I suffer from them regardless and they've come on with a vengeance....I need to chill out, as mine are usually triggered by stress. We use Teams for work too - hahaha, it is testing isn't it! Good luck for AF not showing up and that BFP - holding out for some good news xx

@MrsTtobe - no haven't started the marathon yet. Going to give myself a few days as feel exhausted. I think my hormones are all over the place though as I already have lots of EWCM. My OH said to me yesterday, that I am so obsessed with having this 3rd baby, that i'm missing out on the 2 beautiful ones we already have! So, i'm doing my best to take a minute and take them in as much as I can. In between homeschooling and taking deep breathes to not shout at them! I suppose you have another 8 days or so before you can test? Exciting, really rooting for you gals xx

@Leaf87 - keep up the positive. Using this time to get into good habits and focus on you. Although I am very much ttc, I am now adopting the chilled out approach. I don't think obsessing does any good for any of us. I hope that hospital gives some clarity and confidence so that you can begin this journey again. We will be here for when you do!

Have a lovely day ladies xoxo

Thanks girls! It’s not too bad actually, heavy but no pains or anything which is great! So glad it’s a proper one though, makes me feel confident about trying again.

@Leaf87 good luck at the hospital, fingers crossed for good news for you

Excited for some news from you girls! Fingers crossed for a BFP this month xxx

@msanne yes I've been feeling like that. I love my 2 babies to death but feel so guilty that I spend so much time thinking about baby number 3. I don't want to turn around and realise ive missed out on them!
I'm definitely trying to be more laid back. 😬😂 Trying!

@Bells993 that's good then. Will soon be out of the way and on to a proper cycle. ❤

Morning ladies.
How are you all doing?
CD 22 here. No symptoms as such or lots of symptoms but im just wishful thinking. 😂

@Frankincense88 is AF due today for you? Any sign yet? 🤞 AF stays away and we have a bfp on our hands 🙏 x

@MrsTtobe yep due today going by my cycle pre MMC. No sign yet but I've got absolutely nothing symptom wise so let's see if she rears her head over the weekend! I've got a feeling I'm not but I thought that last time Xxx

Good luck @Frankincense88!

@MrsTtobe - not long for you to wait too!!

xoxo

Thank you @msanne 😘 are you tracking ovulation this cycle?

@Frankincense88 see I've got lots of symptoms but could all be AF related. Im constipated! Ive got a strange dull ache sensation in my left ovary and ive got a lot of clear cm! Lots of it! 🙈
Trying to chill but it's not going great. X

@MrsTtobe - I have bought a CB OPK but haven't opened it yet. I haven't used these kits before and am uhmming and ahhing as to whether I should as it will get me obsessive again and I am trying to be "chilled" this month. HA! I'm on CD 9 today so think I have a couple more days - although I have noticed my CM has already started to increase. I should either ovulate next week or the week after (depending on the app I follow).

I'm not quite sure when I should test this month as my two apps say that AF is due on different dates. I think going by my old cycle dates I should be due around the 23rd...but as last months cycle was so long, I might not be able to test until the 30th! It is going to be a loooong month and I am just trying to settle in!

I am also cutting out all alcohol from CD 10 and going to reduce my caffeine intake to 1 cup in the morning.

How did you track? xoxo

@MrsTtobe I've convinced myself I'm out this month so I'm VERY relaxed 😂 still no sign of AF. Going to wait until Monday I think and test if still nothing. I'm only 10DPO today so still think it's a bit soon to be obsessively testing which is what will happen if I start!

Hey hope you're all having a good weekend!
Im trying my very very best to relax and not symptom spot!! It's hard work! 🤣

@Frankincense88 any sign of AF yet? If not it might be time to start testing lovely! 😬 x

Did a test today and it was negative but still no sign of AF and still no symptoms of anything 😩 will see if anything happens over the weekend then test again Monday if still nothing! Xx

Hey girls, pretty normal AF, finished yesterday so I’m going to give myself another 5 days before using OPK’s (I’m not going to rely on them either! Going to DTD as much as possible from day 9-22 and see what happens!

How is everyone? Who’s next to start testing? Going to be so hard to keep track on everyone’s timings now we are so different hah!
@Frankincense88 this is exciting keep us updated! Fingers crossed for you!