Pregnancy after MMC

[Bells993]

Hi Everyone,
Unfortunately I had a MMC on our second pregnancy last month. (I have a 1 year old)
I should of been 9 weeks at my Scan but baby was only 8 weeks 4 so it had just happened. 3 days later I had a private D&C as I didn’t want to risk the hospital/ the trauma of dealing with it at home with my little boy.
I had bleeding on and off for 2 weeks after (6th of April was the D&C) I had regular bloody tests, my last one my HCG had come down to 70 so 3 days later I got my first negative test.
I had an internal to confirm no retained pregnancy and was given the all clear to try again straight away. I’ve had cystitis this weekend to add to my problems and now I’m getting this on my tests. Had anyone experienced anything similar, what are your thoughts? Feel like my body’s just giving up on me haha! I’d love to be pregnant again but I’d just be surprised if it could all happen within such a small time scale
Thanks everyone

Hi @newbiejourney nice you have joined us even in horrible circumstances. As @MrsTtobe say we are all in similar boats and it is nice to have people to talk to!
I had a D&C on the 02 April baby stopped growing at 11.5 weeks.
We are all ready try again, my Af looks like she has finally made an appearance today, bitter sweet. We have been DTD but in my heart I knew that it wouldn't be straight away. I am hoping now to draw a line under everything and start afresh!! Keeping all fingers and toes crossed we get good news in the next few months.

Hey @Leaf87 @MrsTtobe sorry to hear that you're in the same situation ☹️. My husband is being positive saying that it's my body resetting itself etc but it's hard to think like that I'll be honest!

Ordered some ovulation sticks so we can be more precise next month. 🤞 that we're all more lucky.

Will definitely be having a G&T tonight!

@newbiejourney I shall be joining with G&T tonight as well!! I can not decide on ovulation sticks this month or not ... not sure if it will add to much pressure as I will have to test everyday incase my cycle has changed!! I think i am going to make sure we DTD every other day!! My husband is pleased AF arrived as we didnt really get much practice last time as I caught first time of having unprotected sex . I am fully aware i dont think it will be as easy as that this time around!!!!

@leaf87 ahh babe I’m sorry. Has it showed up properly? Atleast you can get it over and done with now and fingers crossed for as much luck getting pregnant again. Atleast you know where your at now.

@newbiejourney welcome hun, so sorry for your loss. Nothing worse isn’t it; your similar to me I have a 1 year old and I caught pregnant within 2 weeks and had the perfect pregnancy so I was so shocked, I’m 26 fit and healthy so I never thought it would happen to me. 1 in 4, I couldn’t believe how common it was till searching online for answers. Atleast youve got your AF now so you can track and get back to normal and try again. When was your MC?

Still no update with my AF girls. Spoke to my doctor yesterday and she said give it another 7 days untill I take another test (Unless I come on), she said my bloating and pains could of been ovulating pains but I’ve never had that before and it was a good 3 days of cramping so seems weird to me. If still no answers then she will organise me for a internal scan/bloods to see what’s going on. Just going to enjoy the weather and a wine this weekend and try to wait to take a test like I’ve been told haha! I’ll be devesated if I’m not pregnant, more because I feel like we’ve just wasted another 8 weeks now 😭 why is it time goes so fast when your trying

Hope your all okay xx

@newbiejourney welcome lovely and so sorry for your loss. Sounds like you've been through it. We are all in a very similar looking boat and this is a really nice thread so lots of positivity and friendly ladies.

@Leaf87 sorry to hear AF has made an appearance and it's all a bit crap. On the positive side at least you know where you are with your cycle now and can look forwards. I definitely feel a bit more positive since mine has arrived, feel like my body is starting to reset and prepare for next time.

@Bells993 still no AF? What CD are you on now? Def enjoy a wine or two this weekend and try to not worry about testing again for another week. X

CD13 here and still no peak day according to CB OPK but have had high fertility so been trying as much as possible. Hopefully will be ovulation day in the next couple of days. Had some weird lower back cramps last night but no symptoms today - just a headache which I think is because I'm trying to cut caffeine in preparation 😩 although I went right off tea and coffee last time so didn't have any caffeine cravings anyway!

Hope you're all doing ok! Xo

@Bells993 yeah I think she will be in full flow by tomorrow! @Frankincense88 yes I am happy she is here I can draw a line under everything and start again. Just trying to tell myself to try and relax about it all but easier said then done sometimes!!!
I haven't bothered reintroducing caffeine, I love decaf tea now and everytime someone makes me a normal cup I think it tastes funny! I shall spend the weekend eating soft cheese and drinking wine! May as well make the best of it!!

@Bells993 I know what you mean I have spent seven week waiting for her return but trying to see the positives. Fingers crossed she doesn't show and we get some good news.

Who said they were trying pre-seed.. we need a product review 😂

@Leaf87 I'm using pre-seed! Will let you know it 2-3 weeks whether it's any good 😂😂

@Bells993 it was on the 15th April. Just trying not to get too obsessed with it all, but finding it hard, especially with being stuck at home all the time!!

@Frankincense88 thanks so much 😊

@Frankincense88 no still nothing 🙄 day 47 today! Will be 7 weeks from my surgery Monday

@leaf87 ahh good! Hopefully it not a bad one and resets ready for new month

@newbiejourney ahh so rubbish. But on the plus your body seems to of reacted perfect and got you back on track soon which is great! Were your cycles consistent previously to work out when you’ll ovulate?

I was CD 19 with my first baby, and CD13 with the MC! Got knows what I’ll be on my next cycle. I didn’t use ovulation sticks with my first but I used cheap ones with the MC which turned out to be wrong. Did any of you use the clear blue ones and it turn out to be accurate? Always wonder if they are a bit of a con xx

@Bells993 I use the Clearblue digital ones and I've got to say, last time they were spot on. The cycle I actually conceived last time we only did it on the day I achieved 'peak fertility' and the day after and I conceived. Hoping for the same this time around (but not holding my breath). I'm still in 'high fertility' zone so haven't ovulated yet but I'm thinking probably tomorrow or Sunday which is just as well because my husband is out of the house working today which would be terrible timing!

So last night at 6PM I am cooking my tea my phone rings. The hospital want to see me again Monday for blood tests and to discuss they think my pregnacey was a partial molar pregnancey. I am in complete shock, had a cry, trying not to panic! I have had negative tests and my AF had returned so hoping this is a good sign. Looks like TTC may be off the table for a few months.... just in shock

@Leaf87 Oh no! Sending lots of 💕 I'm not too familiar with a molar pregnancy - does this mean you can't TTC for a while? Like you say, the fact you're testing negative and AF has arrived are hopefully both really good signs your body is recovering and resetting xx

@Leaf87 - sending you lots of love hun! Please wait until you've seen the specialists. Have a think about all the questions you have and write them down to take with you. If you've found anything that you have queries about from your own research then take this along to your appointment too. I've found it helps having it written down as I forget things in highly emotional situations.

I agree with @Frankincense88 - it's a good sign if your HPT are negative and AF has arrived. The hospital are probably just taking extra due care (as you deserve).

Here for you when you need us xoxo

@Frankincense88 @msanne thank you, I have been doing some of my own research and looked at the specialist clinics website. I think I feel ok if inhave understood it correctly. It may mean that we can not carry on trying for a few months. I will update you Monday when I know more! Thank you again ladies you are very supportive

@Leaf87 well make sure you look after yourself and take some time to breathe and relax this weekend (easier said than done I know!) xx

Hey @Leaf87 hope you're ok. Ive got to be absolutely honest. Im completely clueless to what a molar pregnancy is? Ive heard the phrase a couple of times but not a clue what it means? What's the reason you can't try straight away? How have they picked it up etc? Keep positive please as hard as it is at times. X

@MrsTtobe from what I can understand it means two sperm cells fertilised the one egg. The pregnacey was never going to be successful as there 26 extra chromosomes. This means the baby formed and a mass of cells formed along side. They have to monitor you because if any little cells are are left they will replicate causing a mass and your HGC levels to rise. If this happens in very extreme circumstances this can lead to chemotherapy. However it's rare with a partial mole more common in complete mole pregnancy (when the egg has no DNA). I am hopeful that because I have had a negative pregnacey test and Af that my hormone levels should be good on monday. However again from my understanding if my reading the monitor you every couple of weeks/months for a while to make sure your hormone levels do not rise as this would indicate you need more treatment. So TTC may be off the cards for now but you never know, I could be assuming wrongly.... hoefully.....
I will see what my hospital says Monday and then hopefully we should know more. For now..... i am drinking Gin

thanks @Frankincense88 going to use them this time and see what happens!

@Leaf87 ahh I hope your okay! Try not to worry, like you’ve said you’ve had a negative test and your AF so all really good signs! Keep us updated! Xx

@Leaf87 bloody hell. That's shit! How can something so natural as getting pregnant be so complicated for us all. I honestly felt until a few months ago that people just got pregnant easily and fairly quickly and 99% of pregnancies were healthy and naturally go full term. How wrong I was! 😔
Hope you're ok. Would they not have picked that up on the scan though after mc? Why has it taken them till now to pick it up? Like you say all positive signs with AF etc so try not to worry. Keep us posted! Got everything crossed for you.

CD 10 here and we've dtd every day since Thurs! Im exhausted! 🤣 xx

@MrsTtobe CD16 here and still no bloody peak day! We've DTD 6 out of the last 7 days - I need a day off but worried I'll miss ovulation 😂😩

@Frankincense88 🤣🤣 its hard work isn't it. We've got a teen that's up till the early hours and a 2 yr old that's up at 6am so trying to fit it in around the kids is hard work. 🙈 The kids usually go to grandparents every other Sat and stay over so we can have a date night but with lockdown we've got no chance. 😭🤣
Im pretty sure (Going by my cycles pre miscarriage) that I ovulate around day 9ish give or take but I don't track. I would be a nightmare with it! When do you usually ovulate? Dont we have to dtd before ovulation though? Doesnt the sperm have to be kind of hanging around waiting for the egg? My basic sex education was clearly terrible at school! 🙈 I'm clueless. 🤣

@MrsTtobe to be fair I usually ovulate around day 17 so there's always tomorrow I guess! I just figured after 5 days of 'high fertility' on my OPK it might have changed. Decided to take a day off today and back at it tomorrow 😂

Hey ladies, mind if I join? I was TTC for 13 months then finally fell pregnant and had a lovely heartbeat on an 8 week scan but was having brown discharge everyone said was normal but demanded scan Wednesday at 9+5 and turned out baby had stopped at 8+3 :( I misscarried naturally on Friday and cramping and bleeding has calmed down now. Did you wait till AF to have sex? I won't be tracking or anything did that for a year then stopped and got pregnant! Hope you're all ok ❤️❤️

Hi Ladies,

@Leaf87 how are you today? Hope you're feeling a bit calmer, please let us know how you get on tomorrow xoxo

@Tbug - so sorry for your loss. It's absolutely heartbreaking but time is a healer and you do get through it (with support)! I think the usual recommendation is to wait for one full cycle so that your body resets itself; however, having said that, there seems to be a lot of ladies on here that have conceived straight away, as you're more fertile after a miscarriage/termination (the irony)! I guess the best advice is to see how you and your OH feel and see what happens.

@MrsTtobe and @Frankincense88 - haha, i bet you ladies are exhausted! It will be worth it though! Fingers crossed for you girls xoxo

I'm on CD 29 today (usually a 28 cycle on the dot) and still no sign of AF. Every PT I take is showing negative, so am really confused as to what is happening.....I am going to wait until CD 31 and take a CB or FRER. Ah the waiting is awful!!

Thank god it's a BHWE xoxo

Ladies,

I just went to the bathroom and my PT from this morning was just lying there....does this look at an Evap line or a start of a BFP?

Don't want to get my hopes up too much as I don't have any experience with evap lines....I would really appreciate your views....xoxo