6 months TTC

[Twinkletoes85]

Hello Ladies.

I’m mid 30s ttc my first. I was on the depo before, I know that causes issues to fertility and it will take longer. It was three months before my periods came back but I’ve been regular as clockwork since. Fairly certain I’m ovulating (lot of signs pointing to it) but still no baby. Im due again in the next couple of days and I can tell I’m going to come on.

I tried with my ex a few years ago for 7/8 months (although it was a very half hearted and not really a surprise it didn’t happen.) I wanted a baby for different reasons back then and got very upset every month. I was determined not to get as upset and try be more relaxed with my new partner but I’m starting to find it hard.

How do you cope with the disappointment of another failed cycle?

@Fifol @nat4392 glad it’s not only us ! Partner used to really annoy me and not see the importance of doing it at the right time , thank god he’s coming to his senses lately though and just does it when I say lol.

He’s so laid back , says it will just happen when it’s meant to happen! Wish I could be more like him!

@Twinkletoes85 @PinkFlamingoGirl sorry to hear AF has arrived ... really had high hopes for you both x

Welcome @MrsLully x

@notyetamumbuttrying I’m going to order coq10 too! Will start it next cycle .... I’ve read you need to take at least 600mg per day .

Am I the only one who doesn’t test? It’s probably because my periods are regular and I can feel cramps a good few days before it arrives .... have always said I’d know I was preg before even needing to test because I know AF is coming a mile off

@Bree2212 I have been having cramps and all sorts of horrible pms symptoms since last week! I get tingly hands/fingers too. Progesterone really does a number on me lol! Tbh I wouldn't usually test early cos I'm always on time too but I got all swept up in these threads lol! New to MN so have learnt my lesson 😂
Let me know how you get on with coq10, which brand u going for?

@notyetamumbuttrying not sure what brand to go for? Probably the cheapest on amazon for the mg we need ...

I did read Luisa Zissman’s blog and she mentioned coq10 on there and also DHA .... thinking of trying both as good for people over 30 who are TTC. She also suffers with PCOS and managed to catch using both x

@Bree2212 I don’t test either. Don’t get me wrong, I used to in the early days of TTC after coming off the pill, but getting a BFN is just so much worse than AF. I’d only test now if I was late or if I had some serious symptoms. I’m fairly regular so I know when to expect AF but I never feel her coming either...

@MrsLully - don’t worry about tmi, bleeding is all part of it ☺️

Awww they’re good at that age, into everything I imagine haha

I think it’s normal to be nervous, no one pregnancy journey is ever the same from what I’ve read even with the same partners so you don’t really know how long it will take or what will happen.

We’re all here to chat to about anything, even if you’re just feeling a bit silly and want a bit of reassurance ☺️

@Bree2212 yeah agreed re brand.
Yep so I was going to try both together too. Already have the vita dhd but held off getting coq10 until I knew AF was defo coming. Just bit concerned about taking them with pregnacare too. Plus I've started on agnus for my crazy pms but only intend on taking that in lead up and whilst on.

@notyetamumbuttrying I know what you mean . I’ve stopped taking pregnacare... dont think it agrees with me . Felt like it was giving me water infections , not sure if it’s to do to with the vitamins and bright yellow wee but yeh didn’t feel right when I was on it!

I just take a high dose of folic acid now as had a slight deficiency last year . Can’t wait for covid to be over so I can get my bloods re tested to double check my levels are still ok!

Am going to try coq10 and the DHA along wih folic acid and leave it at that I think x

Thanks girls ❤️ I am feeling a bit more positive and clear minded after some exercise. Next cycle...I'm staying positive...you will be lucky not just for me but for everyone on this thread because we deserve it and hoping, googling and being excited does not Jinx us and we shouldn't have those negative thoughts 😊.

I'm away to Google some of the things you guys have mentioned. I've never heard of them. I'm temped to buy Angus Cactus but I'm scared it delays my OV and makes my cycle longer...I don't OV till quite late. Cycle day 19 this month.

Omg I am glad I'm not the only one who's wee is BRIGHT YELLOW with pregnacare!! Has anyone tried the conceive plus multi vits? I'm also scared to stop pregnacare coz I'm wondering if my bodies getting used to it now and again don't want to upset my cycle 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

@Twinkletoes85 thank you, that's so nice
My cycles are really long (35 days +) and I'm on the irregular side, that's why I'm a bit concerned. But it will be fine! For all of us that is
She's adorable, and yes, into absolutely everything at the moment. At this very moment she's actually talking to her dinner before eating it, I kid you not. Bless her!

@Bree2212 sounds sensible! What brand of folic acid do you take? I may just take that instead of pregnacare, although I do find it fine for me. I've also heard of this vitamin D spray but hoping now we can be out for longer I can just get that naturally if the weather plays ball!
@PinkFlamingoGirl same here re the positivity after some exercise! Defo don't take the agnus if you already ov late. I'm hoping it'll stretch mine out as I'm hovering around day 10! Haven't tried conceive plus, but know what you mean re stopping pregnacare...we shall wait n see!

@notyetamumbuttrying I take Freak Athletic ones off Amazon . They are 5mg which is like 5000ug , about 12 times what the average person would need cos I had the deficiency . You’ll just need the start 400ug I think ?

Ok cool thank you @Bree2212

Hey all,
I feel so glad to have found this thread. 33 been with hubby for many many years. Came off the depot Jan 2019 (last injection October 2018) then went on the pill until May 2019. Periods have been on a regular cycle (31-35days) since September but have had periods since March 2019. Think it works our I'm on cycle 9 since September. Promised myself I wouldn't worry about it as our friends should be getting married abroad this year and wee booked to go but with all this coronavirus and travel restrictions I've become more focussed on TTC.
I came on just on Saturday. I usually get bad cramping and last 4-5days.. No cramping this time and I was so light I classed it as not bleeding after 2 days.
Now, heres me being obsessed - I live on coffee and I have ha done every morning and I'm not even interested in having it. I have had pains in my tummy but like acid reflux style pains where I'm either not interested in food or suddenly verging on full on HANGRY! In my heart I know I'm not, I feel I'm symptom searching but wow - the thought has literally taken over my brain!
Hubby and I have always thought I would have fertility issues - mum struggled to conceive my younger sister and my older sister had to have IVF for her children. None of my friends are at the stage in their relationships so I've really struggled finding somewhere where people get it - until now 😊

@XPeach123 One of my first symptoms when I got pregnant was going off coffee! Are you planning to test?

@MrsLully hahah I hope she ate her tea after having she finished her chat.

It must be frustrating being a bit irregular when you want to try, I’ve been like clockwork until this month, 5 days late for no reason. It makes working out when to dtd next month a bit more complicated.

@XPeach123 welcome! I was on the depo too, it’s a bit of a minefield coming of it isn’t it!? You tell yourself you won’t get caught up in things and then your mind runs away with you, that’s how we all ended up here 😂

How far through your cycle were you when you had your bleed? It does get into your head and you don’t even really realise your symptom spotting till you find yourself on google ‘just having a look’.

It can be worrying but at least you know they both went on to have children so no matter what happens it can happen for you too

@mrslully I've said to myself I wouldn't unless I still have this niggling at me over the weekend.
@twinkletoes85 came on 2 days earlier than expected.

I promise to limit my essays - looking at it now I think my brain just wanted to dump everything on here in one foul swoop! Ha!

Think AF is arriving. Just had kind of brownish tinged CM on wiping (TMI). If she is arriving then the Agnus Castus did bugger all other than make me ovulate later and have an even shorter LP! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Sorry to all those who AF has arrived! It’s so disheartening 😭

I’m due this weekend and haven’t really had any of the PMS signs I would usually get. Trying not to get my hopes up.

My friend just had her baby this morning and named her wee one the same as we would have if we had a girl 😭 as much as I am happy for her it’s such a hard pill to swallow 😭

@Cha0907 oh no!! What name was it?

Welcome Peach!

Nat- I hope it's not 🙈 that is rubbish. Fingers crossed for you.

Cha-ooh that is stinger. I understand how you must feel because I would feel the same. Sending hugs ❤️

Ah @Cha0907 that's so disappointing. Fingers crossed for you

Morning ladies, how are we all feeling today?

@XPeach123 haha don’t worry about it, that’s what we’re here for ☺️

@Nat4392 oh no, I’m sorry to hear af is arriving, that’s a shame the agnus didn’t seem to do much! I’ve got some ovulation tests arriving today so I’ve decided one more month before I take agnus so I know for sure when I ovulate usually.

@Cha0907 fingers crossed no symptoms is a good sign! That is rubbish about your friend, I take it she didn’t know you liked that name?

Morning all, so last night before bed when I wiped I had brown cm (dry) which is unusual for me three days before af. I don't think I'm coming on early either cos that would mean a cycle less than 24 days which has never ever happened to me. So I'm now wondering/hoping that it could have been implantation!! Have one more FRER so will do that tomorrow morning at 14dpo as I should have another hcg by then to detect if it really was implantation. Eek! Feel like I'm clutching at straws but I want this so much. Any other mums experienced this before?

Well there’s no sign of AF this morning so I’m being cautiously optimistic. AF should be due over the weekend so we’ll see...