Ttc at 40 something!

[Mumof4andahalf]

Probably the only place I feel comfortable enough to share details of when I had sex and what is going on with my vagina 😳
So as the title says I'm 40 and some extra and desperately ttc since 2017, I've had 2 miscarriages in this time 1 being a Mmc and the other at week 12 which was horrendous. If you want to join for some love, support and a chat please do!
Don't let me be Billy no mates 😢

AF for me, really quite early as was supposed to come on Sunday. Is the short cycle thing worth getting checked out, do you think?

@Anxiousbuthopeful sorry, how long are your cycles and luteal phase?

This cycle I got my period on day 26. I think I ovulated early(ish) on day 13.

A slight variation in ovulation day is quite normal. Seems like you're still having at least an 11 day LP which is on the short side but should be sufficient. I would see what happens next month as you probably won't get much help from a GP.

Thank you @crittertamer

Hi ladies. Has anyone got any experience with OPKs? I bought myself a cheap pack of ovulation sticks on Amazon and am driving myself a bit mad over it.

Today is CD12 and there is still no hint of a second line. I thought it would be starting to show now and then get darker over the next couple of days...? Worried that I’m not ovulating.

DH thinks I’m being ridiculous as we’ve never had trouble conceiving before and my MMC in April was fraternal twins (so presumably 2 eggs). He just wants to keep DTD and see what happens, which is obviously right but I just feel that time is not on our side. This is my first proper cycle after the MMC - period came on day 33 after MC starting, which I thought was pretty good. We said we’d give it a couple of cycles to try again and then stop.

@Chickoletta I seem to get a faint line show 2 days before the positive but keep testing daily x

I get a line 3-4 days before ovulation and it gradually gets darker. I also test twice a day (am and pm) as I think the spike can be quite brief. Hope that helps!

The mmc night have thrown your cycle out a bit . I’ve noticed after mine in jan my Lh goes up and down ( it used to just rise and peak within two days) Even after I ovulated it went high again next day and I decided to do a blood test to see if I even ovulated , which I had . I was worried as I’m usually bang on cd15 but it’s started moving to cd16/17/18
You may ovulate later , get a quick peak or you may get several highs over days . Keep poas Is all you can do !

Thanks all. I got a clear line on Tuesday, CD14, so that's good.

We now have a new and unexpected problem - for the last 2 days, DH has struggled to get and sustain an erection. This has come completely out of the blue and I am so worried. We have been together for 23 years and have never experienced even a hint of this before, then suddenly, over night it goes from fine to really worrying.

We did manage it yesterday - the day after my clear line, so think that's good? Instructions say between 24 and 48 hrs afterwards...

It's not great from a TTC point of view, obviously, but I'm mostly worried that it's a sign that there's something seriously wrong - heart, blood pressure, prostate - I've already worried about them all. :( He's 40 and has always been in brilliant health. Has anyone got any experience of this?

@chickoletta it might be something as simple as him feeling under pressure to 'perform' as it's only been two days and at your fertile time. My DH prefers not to know when the OPK turns positive as he finds it harder knowing!

Thanks @CritterTamer. Pleased to report a return to normal service over the last couple of days! Possibly subconscious pressure, although he did remind me that he had just worked 12 days straight in his very physical job (farm vet) and was absolutely shattered too. Have made sure he’s had a good lie-in today!!

CD18 for me today and 3dpo I think. Going to try to have a relaxing weekend. DD’s 7th bday tomorrow.

Hi all, so great to read everyone's stories. It's so great that there are others in the same situation as me.
I turned 40 in December and have been ttc since. Just had a MC at 5.5 weeks, as much as it hurts, it has happened for a reason and we have to keep trying. We have a dd who's 2, so 1 more would make our family complete but often wondered if I left it too long. But glad I've found a group who are in the same situation as me as I can see there is hope.

Hello all! 1DPO here. Entering the TWW. How is everyone doing? @Mumof4andahalf - how are you feeling?

@Anxiousbuthopeful I'm ok.... 7 + 1 and just wishing the weeks away to that magic 12 weeks point! I had my booking in appt today and have been prescribed low dose aspirin due to age and the fact my youngest is 10. I've heard it can help prevent miscarriage so fingers crossed!
Good luck for this month x

Thank you! Fingers crossed 🤞. Hope it all goes smoothly for you.

@Anxiousbuthopeful Thankyou x

Ladies - have just taken a curcumin supplement and then got suspicious, checked the web and found out they can prevent implantation. Am 6-7DPO and worried that I’ve blown my chances. Don’t suppose any of you have any experience in this area?

Hi I don’t but I’m also taking it and googled it and says It can affect lining thickness making it thinner and affecting implantation. I’m glad you raised this as I’ll now stop taking it . It’s lucky you’ve realised it now at least and can also stop . I don’t know what it means for you current cycle , average implantation is 9dpo so your body has a couple of days or more to build up the lining hopefully . I can’t believe what these vitamins can do 🙁 have to be so careful x

Hi sorry just reread - did you just take one ? I wouldn’t worry too much with one tablet

Slight spotting this afternoon so not looking good. I know it can be normal but I had a gut feeling on Friday that something was wrong 😢

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriages, OP. It is devastating.

I'm not TTC, I just wanted to send you a message of hope! I got pregnant at 43 and everything was fine. I did a lot of exercise before TTC, ate healthily, changed job so I wasn't so stressed. And i made sure I didnt gain too much weight while I was pregnant. I was so terrified at first of something going wrong and then I realised, I can't control it, all it is doing is making me a nervous wreck. The best I can do is enjoy it, stay calm and positive. I did hypnobirthing which was also a wonderful experience. I had to be induced because I was over 40, the consultant said it wasnt necessary and she had her fingers crossed I'd pop before 40 weeks - sadly I didnt.

Anyway no real point to this post, except to say it IS possible to have a wonderful, healthy pregnancy in your 40s. If you find you are encountering a lot of negativity, just avoid the places where you are finding it, even if it means a holiday from certain social media.

Being an older mum is a blessing, you don't take a single second for granted (this truly is my last baby).

I wish you very best of luck for a sticky bean soon. x

Oh @Mumof4andahalf! Hope it is a false alarm and it all goes ok. Let us know!

@HathorX what a lovely positive post. Thankyou for sharing 💜
@Anxiousbuthopeful fingers crossed x

@mumof4andahalf fingers crossed for you, I hope it's a false alarm. Thinking of you.