TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

@mlax Could be implantation. Fingers crossed for you!

@toomanyleggings I have never used those before - does that mean ovulation soon? :D

@Anny27 they're really good. I used them before I had my dd. Literally was pregnant 4 cycles one after the other ( 3 chemicals and then my daughter). They give you a flashing smiley in the 3 days before your ovulation, then a static smiley just before ovulation so it gives you that 4-5 day window

@Anny27 I used these too. You can have flashing faces for quite a few says before you get your static face so don't worry. I think I once had 5 and was like am I ever getting my peak. Ha ha this time I use the slightly cheaper ones from clear blue which are also good. 👍🏻 Good luck x

Ugh I don't know what to think. I've just been to the gp and asked if the results were back from my miscarriage. They sent the baby and the pregnancy tissue off to be tested. She said it said something about blood clotting and to test in 6 weeks for ashermans syndrome, she didn't seem to know what the results really meant, I've looked up ashermans and you can have miscarriages and still borns if it's not treated. I feel like we can't try again now until I know what's wrong. Also feel awful that I might have had a healthy baby and my stupid body hurt it

Just taken another hpt, negative. Hopefully my AF comes tomorrow as I'm getting so impatient. Just want it to be over with so I can keep trying!!!

Hi all
I was due on today and I'm never late.
Scared to test. Might test tomorrow.

Symptoms:
'Feeling like I'm going to come on' - but not a strong AF feeling, just keep having the urge to check.

Vivid dreams

Twinges in stomach and left ovary area

Lower back ache

Burping and having some wind!!

Very slight nausea

I was convinced I was going to come on but still no sign, actually thought it was it this month....

Do I have a chance?! I'm scared these feelings are psychological.

My still birth was in October and I've had two periods since one was 28 days one was 27 and I'm always 28 days no later.

Xx

Hi @AlviesMam some of the symptoms could be pregnancy symptoms... when I got pregnant last time I had period like cramps from the the time I usually get it before my period- 3-4 days before it’s due. So I was pretty sure AF was about to come. But I went past my due date and still had cramps on and off. I didn’t test until I was 10 days late as i do get long cycles sometimes and because of the on and off cramps I was sure AF would show any day. But when I tested finally I got a very strong bfp...so af like cramps can also mean pregnancy. Best to test it. Why don’t you test tomorrow morning? Good luck and hope you get your bfp🤞

@Annie0425
Thank you- I will definitely test tomorrow morning. I'm so scared xxx

@AlviesMam you have to test tomorrow morning surly! You need to do it, even if it's negative after what your body has been through it could still be a possibility that you are pregnant because your cycles are not going to be the same each month and ovulation will change within that.

Honestly out of everyone including myself, I want you to get the positive test and to hold your baby in 2020, you have been though so much heartache, pain and grief. I have been willing this since you came on this thread woman!

Test tomorrow and we can just hope and pray and send all our love and support your way 🤞💘🌈✨👣

@ChampooPapi

Thank you for that lovely message.
I will test tomorrow morning and let you guys know!

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@AlviesMam maybe book a blood test in the morning with the doctors as that will take a week to sort out and you can always cancel if you get your bfp or your period shows up. I was getting negatives even a week late with my last pregnancy so it definitely very possible it may be negative. Or could be the strongest positive you've ever seen! Stiff drink then bed I reckon lovely 💜

@toomanyleggings so sorry, can’t imagine how you’re feeling or what’s going through your mind at the moment. It’s rubbish you’re not getting any answers to help you understand. I don’t know if it would be any help, but I’ve emails the midwives at Tommy’s after my MMC to ask questions that I didn’t think of in the hospital or anything I wasn’t sure of after. They were great and supportive and gave me some answers. But they might be able to give you more information or support?

@AlviesMam 🤞🏻 For your test tomorrow. Got everything crossed for a BFP for you

I am out ladies! AF arrived at CD31
First one post MC...

Good luck to all the lovely ladies here!
And @AlviesMam for tomorrow x

Thanks 🙏🏼

Fingers crossed for you tomorrow @AlviesMam ! 🌈🍀 will be thinking of you when I go for my morning wee 😁🤣 sending you all the luck in the world! 💫

@Michette so sorry my lovely. At least the TWW is over and you can think about the next cycle now. Sending hugs 😘

@MilsCookie how are you doing? Have you decided when you're going to test?

@Michette so sorry, fingers crossed for next cycle for you.

Anyone else still in the TWW?

Aw @Michette I’m sorry 😔 fingers crossed for next cycle!
@AlviesMam good luck, let us know!

I might be still in it, Iv no idea at this point, will monitor bloods later in the week

This is such a rollercoaster of emotion, feel so awful for those of you that didn't catch this month and then so happy for those that did. FC for @alviesmam this morning x
I made myself not long on for 24hrs thinking it would shut my brain up, but instead I found myself working out when my matleave would be calculated.
Am back into serial testing even though I told myself I wouldn't. Holding it up to the light, using photo apps to invert and adjust. Can see a faint line but its just my eyes playing tricks. I still have symptoms but I feel like I'm imagining it all.
AF due in about a week but am on 1st cycle after MC.

@SweetpeaOrMarigold tell me about it, I nearly tested this morning! Not due af until Tuesday so absolutely need to hold off untill Monday at the earliest.

@MilsCookie we are nearly at 1000 messages, can you lead us again 💜💪 and set up a testing end of January after miscarriage thread (catchy title ey 🙄)

Test was negative and no sign of period at all. I'm so confused I hate this 😢😢😢

@AlviesMam I always seem to get negative tests until I'm a good week late (I have two daughters) and I've been pregnant 4 times, so I really recommend ringing the doctors for blood test. I know some surgery's are funny about doing this but after your medical history they will definitely book you in.

Might be better saying your a few days later then you are though just in case

@AlviesMam and yes it's a bloody nightmare not knowing isn't it! So frustrating

@ChampooPapi is it possible for a clear blue ton be negative a day after your missed period ?! 😔 why can't it take a week? It didn't with my last two pregnancies... this is torture xxx

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