TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

@Cruiser1 that's a good line for 9dpo! Congratulations and fingers crossed for a sticky bean.

@mlax I don't think there's any rhyme or reason to post-mc AF

@GemLou88 we're having arguments here as well and we've never even ttc before. Not like we're months into it

@Cruiser1 wow great line for 9dpo :D

@SweetpeaOrMarigold I would hold a few days untill testing if you can 🤞🤞

Thanks girls, I hope that’s not a sign it’s a chemical 😰
I am legitimately afraid to move Incase I do something wrong!
Il do a FRER in the morning and post a pic, hopefully it will darken

@toomanyleggings we aren’t months into ttc either, when we conceived in August we wasn’t actively trying, just not preventing it from happening and we caught first cycle. Feels like a lifetime since then. Sending hugs your way x

Hi ladies,

Congrats to all the BFPs this morning. 🎉🎉👶🏼 @didslysquiddlydoo @Cruiser1 amazing news, so happy for you.

I stupidly just did a CB digital and managed to only diddle a tiny amount on the stick as I didn't really need to go and the result came back 'Not Pregnant'🙈🙈 my anxiety is through the roof. I just dont want to try to concieve anymore.

Still no period, I'm now a date late. Will do another one this evening. I've worried about this all weekend and I haven't thought about anything else, and I'm bloody sick of it.

Sorry, rant over.

@toomanyleggings try to DTD tonight .... it actually stops me wanting to kill him for a couple of days after 😂
@StephyRose I know how you feel, I’m the same, Anxiety through the roof! I never test after first morning urine coz that only happens once a day so it stops me from testing all day long. Try to hang on til the morning. Do you have another CB to use?

@Cruiser1

I've just done another CB but not a digital one and not pregnant according to the test. To be fair, I've just downed 3 pints of coke in 30 mins so it could be diluting but I'm a day late so it should come up if I am.

Haunted by the three faint positives I've had this week and for 6 full days I've been so excited and thought I could come to terms with the MC if it means I get my little baby this way.

DP are visiting friends at the moment and we have a long drive back down south. Im surrounded by happy people but all I want to do is cry and cry. Totally defeated and floored.

I'm being totally melodramatic but I feel like I'm being punished for something I've done wrong in a past life. If I'm not cut out for this, how could I possibly expect to be trusted with a baby? 😥😪

@StephyRose .... Awww no that’s awful you’re feeling that way!
Chances are the miscarriage could just be a once off and there’s no reason why you wouldn’t be successful this time.
Also your hormones are all over the place so they’re responsible for making you feel really down and teary!
I think if you hang on for the first morning urine you could get a good solid line and you’ll feel much better.

Congrats on the BFP ladies! It’s an achievement and gives me hope ❤️

13 dpo and tested everyday with frer and just BFN the last one being this morning with FMU.
Been doing all the crazy looking from all angles and lights but nothing there:(

My opks are getting darker again... What does this mean? Maybe I didn't ovulate last week when they went dark...?!
SO confused

@stephyrose please don't catastrophize just yet (coming from the worlds biggest catastrophizer!) and be kind to yourself.

I know how you feel about wanting to be pregnant again immediately to help come to terms with everything. I feel the same way, I'm already hoping and praying that the first month we try again I'll catch immediately but I also know the reality is that it is unlikely and it may take a bit of time. If it's not meant to be this month don't worry yet, there is absolutely nothing to say it won't happen for you again with a successful outcome. Me and my husband are clinging on to the positive in that we know we can get pregnant (as this was my irrational fear before we began trying 😂). I also fell really quickly once we began trying and I know I will be devastated if it doesn't happen straight away again and my mind will go into overdrive so I feel a bit of a hypocrite offering you reassurances but there is honestly nothing to worry about just yet and I'm sure your time will come, as will everyone else's on this thread hopefully 🙂

Oh my goodness @Cruiser1!!! Congratulations!! That’s amazing to get a line like that at 9dpo. What CD are you on? I’m so happy for you!! Keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you that this one is a sticky bean!! 🥳🌈🍀

@Anny27 eeeek that’s only 4 more days away! @ELM7 @SweetpeaOrMarigold maybe we can all test together? I might test on Friday/Saturday as will be CD30/31! 🤔 risky though as it’s a few days before af is due!

@toomanyleggings im really pleased for you hun! Now you can start to think about the next stage 😊

@mlax Ahhh that must be so frustrating, I really feel for you 😞 I would try and do another test tomorrow if you can? Fingers crossed BFP or at least AF shows for you soon so you can start to think about the next cycle 😘

@GemLou88 @StephyRose sending you both HUGE virtual hugs 😘😘😘 we’re all in this together and we WILL all get there ❤️🌈

@MilsCookie I'm going to test Friday I think. That would be somewhere around 11/13 dpo for me I believe.
I've got friends coming over for the weekend, which will likely involve gin... So I want to test before then 😂

@BS9790 that has happened to me twice before. Apparently your body can gear up to ovulate and then it stops short and then goes again a few days later. You should DTD tonight and tomorrow night Incase that’s what’s happening

@Michette are you sure of your ovulation day? It’s possible you’ve implanted late? Just keep testing you’re not out til AF! Fingers and toes crossed for you.

@MilsCookie I’m cycle day 31 counting from the first day of bleeding (light) of the miscarriage. HPTs went to negative after 6/7 days.

Ladies I’m having awful cramps after a very heated argument with DH ..... I’m scared it’s gonna be gone before it’s really began 😔

@BS9790 that makes sense! I’m with DP’s family at the mo and they keep offering wine etc and I have had a few sips but really don’t want to just in case! 😕

@Cruiser1 thank you... just trying to work out if I could test on CD31 as well (which is 6 days away... 😬) hope you and your DP are okay! Is it to with TTC? 😘

@Cruiser1 *to do with! Sorry for typos!

@MilsCookie ye kind of 😔

Anyone having cramps? Mine are quite painful which makes me think this isn’t gonna stick 😔

I've just started having some cramps/pains today, quite similar to what I experienced last time before my bfp.
Not sure if I'm just imagining them though.

@cruiser1 try and relax (easier said than done I know) my friend is 11/12 weeks now and had period like cramps to begin x

@Cruiser1 I had a lot of cramps with my MC pregnancy right from 3dpo up until 2 days before MC. Think that was a sign something was wrong when it stopped. Your womb is stretching for the little thing so cramps are fine.
@MilsCookie thats a good idea! Stops me from testing every 5 minutes. Fri I will only be cd22 but who knows whats going on in there when I've not had AF since MC. Am guessing AF would be about Wed cd27 as I usually have AF d27/28 and it lasts for a week.

I am bloated and getting wind but no real cramps just yet. CD26 🤞🏼

Different symptoms to last month before AF arrived I'm driving myself crazy x

Hi all, I've been lurking on here for a while. We are TTC after a missed miscarriage requiring medical management 6 months ago.

I'm wondering how I am going to handle any future appointments if we are lucky enough to conceive again.

I found I had to repeatedly go over the same information about previous pregnancies during my multiple visits to the EPAU and I found it emotionally difficult. Talking about it makes it hard for me to not start crying (and once I start, it's hard to stop).

I'm thinking about printing out a brief summary of previous pregnancies - the MMC, an earlier loss/ chemical pregnancy three years ago (before we were TTC) and a termination when I was 16 (I'm 30 now and having to talk about that shitty situation - abusive relationship - and worry about being judged with each new medical professional was hard. I feel like I have to justify it and that I'll be seen as having brought this upon myself).

Do you think it would be ok to print something out and just hand it to them?

@AwkwardPaws27

Yes definitely!
I'm having major anxiety about my midwife appointments when I finally conceive (mmc and still birth) and don't want to relive the pain of explaining myself again.
Have major anxiety going back to the same place for it to the point I want to request a home visit :( xxx