TTC after MC April 07 - Return to the Mother Ship

[popsy76]

Hi Ladies, thought I would just grab the bull by the proverbial horns and get this going. Hope the name is okay. MrsMc I am afraid we will all be thinking of you and your DH (and his light saber) everytime we post

Too many individual posts to go back and answer so I thought I'd start with a positive message for all of us from the March thread and for any MC newbies...

Today is my 1 month MN anniversary and I do not know what I would have done without you all. It is the ability to get on here and "let it all out" that keeps me going. I have been blessed to have found you all and whatever lies in my future - your kindness and advice will stay with me forever.

Big Love and Hip hip hooray for a fabulous new positive thread POPSY xxxx

p.s. Gilly get your arse down to london - we can drink the bars dry of Rose (purely medicinal of course )

missnatalie, i know how scared you are. i do a pg test after every af now to make sure coz the same thing happened with my ep. im sure that this late on you shouldnt still be getting bfps, so my advice would be to ring your gp of NHS direct. i doubt v much that it is another ep but you could have retained some products (their phrase not mine) and you need to get this checked out asap.

hi to all. have cheered up a bit now. still a bit down and am trying to fight the urge to check my old antenatal thread coz i know that everyone'll be having their 20w scan. part of me's dreading my edd but part of me cant wait to get past it. we fly to ibiza on what wouldve been edd so mixed feelings really. hope your all well.

mrsmcj, when do you see your gp?

Well, it wasn't implantation bleeding as Auntie Flo arrived properly. Herbaceous am in the same position as it means that I had a bizarre 21 day cycle rather than my usual 28. Doesn't help with ttc when your body is playing silly b*ggers does it?

Obviously I am most gutted because I would have been on the same antenatal thread as MrsMcLovely Lissie Glad you are happier. I cannot help revisiting Due Oct 2007 whenever I have had a glass of wine and it doesnt help...

Jules well done on getting AF back - bet that has helped!

Popsy good list of promises to yourself for your next pregnancy. It is so hard though isnt? The first 12 weeks are bleurgh and you just want to talk talk talk.

Back to work tomorrow after my year's maternity leave. [hmmm]

good luck for today winky. i was on oct2007 too

and sorry about af

Morning ladies
boo hiss winky - we had everything crossed for you. This thread is so PG lucky that it is sure to be you next time! I had a good weekend - DH in NY now so a week off BD-ing and obsessive OV spotting and .
I am trying so hard to be positive but is really tough - just wish I could go to sleep and wake up PG without all of this worry.
Hope you all have a good day inspite of the sh*te weather

Hi all. Yes, agree, this is a lucky thread and we need another BFP soon.

MIssNatalie: MrsMac's advice, as always, seems spot on. Have you been to see the GP? Everything seems to go wrong and weird after a m/c as I am learning to my cost so I guess we have to expect the unexpected. How's the depression? Are you ok?

Morninglgory: It was so good to read that. I have been so confused. The weird thing for me was that I got my EWCM bang on time at day 16 as I do every month so I thought all would be normal. Now, still no AF and it's CD 36 and over the weekend had the worst period pains I have ever had in my life. Wearing pads and running to the loo feeling sure it had come was the highlight of my Saturday. DH finally made me do a test yesterday even though I knew I was getting AF and it was negative of course. It was a relief in a way, but when will AF come? When will these AF pains stop? Wasn't a m/c punishment enough? It must also mean that I just didn't ovulate because if I had I would have had AF by now. Absolutely f'ing sick of this.

Hi to everyone else and if you don't mind, could I ask everyone to just give us a quick run down on where they are post m/c in terms of months and cyles? I came in late and am finding it hard to place everyone. Don't of course if you don't want to.

Hi Patkica - what a good idea - that is what I was trying to ask MrsMc yesterday so I could have some hope about my own cycles

I got BFP 19/01/07, due 24/09
Had funny pains all way through and general feeling something wasn't right (and clothes less tight than had been).
Scan at 13 weeks (19/03) was 9 week fetus with no heart beat (though just read hospital forms and says 10 weeks which somehow feels worse?)
ERPC 23/03, pains started again 3 weeks later followed by weird EWCM - pains continued for 2 weeks was certain either PG or AF
AF finally arrives 05/05 (TFFT) Hooray
TTC frantically - need to get there BEFORE 24/09!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks Popsy. I'm so sorry and I can see what you mean about 10 weeks seeming somehow worse.

This is me:

I am 39
3.5 Ds: took about 2 minutes getting pregnant with him!
M/c on 11/04: pregnant first month of trying.
Like you, felt something was wasn't right from the beginning.
now: CD35, terrible AF pains but no AF. Going crazy.

Hi Patkica sounds like may be same as me then - I went totally insane when thought could be PG last month and wasted 6 PG tests (3 juicy tubes worth at least )

I forgot to say I am 30 (nearly 31) and have no kids. Got PG first month of trying (unless weird period before PG was MC and didn't know was PG as wasn't trying)

I know I have only been trying for 6 months (god MC is a waste of time isn't it???) but it feels like have been trying forever as I have wanted a baby for about 10 years just had to find the right man for the job, train him, persuade him that marriage is okay etc etc...

OK.
I am tired. I am headachey and without being TMI my, er, stomach has been a bit dodgy and I feel sick whenever I smoke (which I know I shouldn't do but I ain't stopping until am actually PG as have very few vices and I love this one)
Plus I am really spotty.
Do you think these could be early signs? They would have to be very early because am only on day 16 of my cycle. That's too early to tell right? Am I being ridiculous? I am aren't I? I've probably just had a tummy bug and ovulation is making me spotty.
I think I want this a bit too badly and it's making me imagine things.

Popsy I know this probably won't help all that much, but you sound as though you're in an EXCELLENT state to have a healthy pregnancy. You got pregnant quickly, you are young and you sound healthy. I bet you'll be posting great news soon. I know exactly what you mean about finding the right man: it takes time, or at least it did for me. I also know what you mean about the pg tests, but my vice is ovulation stuff: I now buy the most expensive sticks and am considering a monitor thing!

Ellie Not sure what your cycle is like or when you had your m/c so can't really comment. I think a lot of us had signs early and sometiems they turned out to be false, and sometimes not. I had all the things you mentioned this month, but I'm sure mine is due to my cycle being screwed up after MC. But who knows: you might have some good news soon. Good luck.

Ahh thanks Patkica you are now officially my lucky baby angel. I feel all warm and hopeful! Fingers crossed for all of us eh? We can do it!!!

Ellie Keep at it - sounds like you still could be OV so don't stop (or at least tell DH is over so safe to BD [wink}). I suppose you'll know one way or another v. soon yikes!

just got a "you are 21 weeks" message from mumsnet - couldn't stop myself from reading it grrrrrrrrrr and for my non-5 month belly xxx

I think you can unsubscribe to those, I had one last week just deleted it without reading

Popsy I can't believe how similar our stories are! I got BFP Jan 20, due Sep 25, scan at 13 weeks showed baby died 10+4, D&C on May 22, AF Apr 25 and desperately TTC now!!!

I am dead spotty this morning and had mad sugar cravings yesterday which is not like me at all.

Could I be ovulating or already PG?

D&C on MARCH 22 of course

popsy I have absolutely no doubt that we will and soon. Honestly, I really don't. I just hate the wait, but it will come for us all.

Hi nh101 bloody hell that is spooky!!!!!! We are unlucky getting past 9 weeks and still MC - apparently the chances drop much lower than 1:4 after that - bummer! Well you got AF 10 days before me and I am expecting to OV early next week so could be? Better get DH home for some QT

Am sending out HUGE PG-soon vibes to all my MN friends...can you feel them wafting across the internet?

Morning ladies hope you are all doing well.

I eventually went to the Gyne ward at the hospital that did my 1st ERPC and they have said everything is fine. They did another pregnancy test which came back negative. I thought that was quite weird as the one that i did this morning was still very, very faintly positive . Maybe mine are just stupidly sensitive . I got them off ebay from a seller called TK Diagnostics. Anyone else used them? They also did a internal and found a bit of brown mucus/discharge. They said its probable nothing to worry about as its probably mixed with blood. But they have put me on a weeks course of antibiotics again. They hve said that it is ok for DP and i to ttc again once the bleeding has stopped. And they have confirmed that this is my 1st AF since the MC (dont know how they can confirm this but they did). So as soon as i stop bleeding we'll be back to lats of BD . Ive already worked out my most fertile dates and got a stack of OPKs on standby

mrsmc - thanks for your advice hun. You made thing seem alot more clearer.

popsy76 - im not doing too well on the depression side. Ive never felt like this before in my life. Just feeling very vunerable at the moment . Im just taking each day as it comes. Im looking forward to ttc again and to be honest, thats the main thing thats keeping me going at the moment. Hopefully ill get my BFP soon.

Natalie x

oh thats a relief missnatalie! have you seen my babyhopes ov calender? its fab!!!

ps i use tk diagnostics too, could it be evap line?

Hi Lissie

It may be a evep line. But it comes up after 2 - 3mins. To be honest its hardly visable but def there. Maybe ive got a bad batch? Just ordered another pack of 20 that should come tomorrow so ill give one of those a go.

I havnt seen your OV calander. How do i get onto it. I want one, i want one

its not actually mine but ive been using it for 5m and ive been pg twice. 1 ep 1 mc but the calender worked .

here it is. i dont thin you would have had a af if there was still some hcg in your body tbh so could be a bad batch

Ouch. Have just been hit by one of Popsy's pregnancy vibes.

Thanks hun. According to your chart my most fertile days are next week. Oh cant wait now . DP will be VERY happy.