TTC after MC April 07 - Return to the Mother Ship

[popsy76]

Hi Ladies, thought I would just grab the bull by the proverbial horns and get this going. Hope the name is okay. MrsMc I am afraid we will all be thinking of you and your DH (and his light saber) everytime we post

Too many individual posts to go back and answer so I thought I'd start with a positive message for all of us from the March thread and for any MC newbies...

Today is my 1 month MN anniversary and I do not know what I would have done without you all. It is the ability to get on here and "let it all out" that keeps me going. I have been blessed to have found you all and whatever lies in my future - your kindness and advice will stay with me forever.

Big Love and Hip hip hooray for a fabulous new positive thread POPSY xxxx

p.s. Gilly get your arse down to london - we can drink the bars dry of Rose (purely medicinal of course )

sorry to crash the thread but MissN and lissie, I just wanted to track you down and see how you were doing.

Glad you are still both ttc and staying as positive as is possible in this situation. I am lol at you bulk buying tests, someone somewhere makes a lot of money!

Anyway, just wanted you to know I am thinking of you and hope you get some positive news soon

hi kezza, thanks. got follow up appt with specialist on the 4th so fingers crossed! how are you doing?

Im good thanks, cant complain thats for sure.

I bet time seems to be going slowly for you at the moment, its such a bummer isnt it. I hope you get some good news on 4th and in between you manage to have some fun (these things can start to dominate cant they!)

lol, dh looks forward to the middle of the month coz i refuse to argue with him

LOL, guess these men need to make the most of it. They must know once they have fertilised us normal business can resume

lol. poor beggars!

Hi Kezza

Thanks for thinking of me. Im doing ok. AF paid me a visit this weekend so as soon as she's buggered off DP and i are back to the ttc game. Glad to hear that you are well. I keep sneaking onto the due Oct thread to see how you are all doing. Have wanted to post you on there but it just didnt feel right IYKWIM.

You never know i could be starting a due Feb 07 thread next month (fingeres crossed).

Natalie x

Believe me my fingers are well and truely crossed for you

Had to laugh at "normal service will resume" - my DH can't wait, he is exhausted the poor bugger! I am trying to think up more and more imaginative ways to seduce him, and am quickly running out of sexy underwear sets

He doesn't complain too much

Ellie that was actually a slap on the arse to tell you to get BD-ing asap!
Just been asked by an ex student where my babies are grrrrr
DueFeb08 - wonder how many of us will be on that ....oh please oh please oh please oh...fuck it - I'm off to drink too much rose and cry on an old friend - may as well make the most of it as I am sure to be alcohol free by June (can't fault me for my PMA eh ha ha)

Hy nh mine are defo abnormal services - he's never had it so good - I was thinking how much of a shock it'll be to his system when my GIVE ME A BABY hormones are gone and I'd rather watch tv with a box of chocs instead - men need to think we are after their love god bodies - if only they knew tee hee

lol i have lots of sexy undie sets for on hol and may even shave my legs

procreation vacation

never mind matching underwear, I read about this in Grazia.

lol is presthaven not on there?

Hi everyone

First day at work went ok but missed DD and it felt sad that I wasnt around 20 weeks that I would have been

BUT as MissNatalie says we may be on the due Feb 2008 thread! Popsy I am letting your PG-soon vibes waft over and am sending them right back at ya!

Patkica - hope AF arrives soon. My vital stats are:-

LMP 20 Jan
BFP 17 Feb
Would have been due 23 Oct
Bleeding on 22 March
Scan and ERPC 23 March
Period 20 April
Period 12 May

I am 30 and have a DD of nearly 1 xx

Hello ladies. Thought I'd respond to patkica request earlier:

I'm 41. m/c 1st pregnancy 17 Feb 2007.
AF 7 wks after
1st cycle 24 days - anovulatory
2nd cycle cd13 -looks anovulatory also

Oh god I haven't done anything like that! Sort of thought if you just had plenty nookie would all kinda just happen. Am getting a bit fed up of obsessively counting dates now anyway - I think am becoming a little weird about the whole baby thing anyway - heard that one of my DP's friends (who is COMPLETELY feckless and rubbish and always cheating on his girlfriend) girlfriend is 14 weeks PG and all I could think was SO UNFAIR! I think everyone in the world is PG apart from me.

Hi all. Could someone clever out there tell me how to do a proper link? I saw this site and thought some of you might be interested. She's probably not at all 'qualified' but I thought she made sense and understood how a m/c felt. Also, the action plan for pregnancy looked good to me. What do you think?
www.pregnancyloss.info/

Popsy Thanks for the vibe and for being a virtual drinking partner. Last night was my night to stop so as to get my body healthy for TTC: so I had just one glass. If it's any consolation, when I got pregnant with DS I was drinking like a fish and smoking!

MIssNat are you taking the ADs and are they helping? I'd be lost without mine. I don't know if you saw them, but there were a couple of messages earlier on this thread for you (one from me as fellow depression sufferer). Depression is hideous at the best of times, but after a m/c it can be unbearable.

nh101 My DH has never had it so good. Though I do tend to 'save myself' for a few days of the month, he reckons that's worth the wait .He doesn't complain, though I think he's scared that it all will stop once I get pregnant and the pregnancy sticks. That's what happended last time - for a good while at least.

Winky Good luck at work. I found it awful at first, but it seems normal now. Did you tell people about the baby? I did and that helped me, not least ebcuase so many other women then told me that had had one and seemed glad to talk about it.

my1st sorry about your cycles. How can you tell if they are anovulary? Can the GP help? Have you tried clomid or is that a stupid question? I spoke to a woman recently who told me that she had had her 1st at 40 and the next 3 years later with no trouble.

KatyH I'm impressed by your knowledge of the LP. What's good and what's not in terms of length? I've never understood. Have you been using the monitor long? I'm thinking of buying one. Does anyone else use tham and how do they work. I'll be thinking of you on Friday.

Ellie if simple shagging works for you, go for it. Although it did for me last time, I think I've just got more obsessed and paranoid as I've got older and just want more control over the process. It got worse after the mc because it made me want a baby even more so I'm giving my body all the help I can. I think it's a form of OC, but it makes me feel better in a strange way.

AF seems to be on her way, but it is slow and still painful.
I'm collecting all the vital stats so I can refer to them as I read your messages. If anyone wants the list, let me know and keep adding if you want to.

hi patkica i'm not on clomid but dh and i are talking about going to see a fertility specialist maybe even start ivf. my 1st pregnancy was natural and i'm hoping i'll be lucky again i think this cycle (2nd since m/c) is anovulatory because my temp hasn't risen and fertility monitor says high for 6 days now but my cm has dried up since cd12. i tested with opk 2x a day and has been negative since cd7. i am so depressed and frustrated. perhaps the stress is delaying the ovulation, i don't know. i keep trying to tell myself not to stress but i can't seem to control it

Myfirstbaby wrote

1st cycle 24 days - anovulatory
2nd cycle cd13 -looks anovulatory also

Can someone please explain what this means? How can you tell if it is anovulatory?

Hello ladies all went quite well yesterday. Sorry for the delay in coming on here. Was too tired last night and busy all afternoon at work! Didn?t see the Consultant because she was on holiday but saw her Registrar who was lovely and 7 months pg! Anyway, she took a history and told me that the aspirin was wise and that I should carry on with that. She then said she wasn?t sure about heparin and needed to speak to the Consultant but in the meantime, needed me to have a scan to check that the baby was in the right place. So I went down to EPU, which was odd and then waited and waited as the Registrar argued with the scanning dept as they didn?t want to do the scan because I am only 5 weeks but Reg was arguing that as soon as they had confirmation it wasn?t ectopic, they could start my drugs (Reg had spoken to Consultant in meantime and I will be given Clexane) so I need to go back next Monday for the scan, bloods and injection lessons and then have weekly checks after that. She really didn?t tell me anything I didn?t know about the condition, in fact, she said very little indeed. I am now feeling very nervous about next Monday.

Hello Popsy spoke too soon about my Mum, she totally stressed me out last night and we ended up having a screaming match she hasn?t been tested for the right gene (as I thought) and my Dr said she must have it if I do but she won?t listen and won?t give up the HRT until she knows if she has it or not she also totally belittled my situation and what I am and will go through saying surely I am making a big fuss about nothing. Ggggggggrrrrrrrrr! Thanks for listening! Yup, this is my 2nd cycle after MC. Things were back to usual this month, after the 40 day first cycle after MC. How are you getting on with things? Sorry all those bumps and babes made you sad, we?ve all been there. Big hugs. Re the dress ? hell ? there is no way I can wear it I don?t think, will try it on tomorrow night and decide then but I?m beginning to look like Lolo off Eurotrash

MissNatalie ? really glad you got some resolution on that, best of luck for this cycle!

Hi Lissie ? I know hon we should both be 20 weeks now. We?ve got a wedding on what would have been my EDD.

Hello Winkygirl ? sorry to hear about AF keep away from the Oct thread ? it?ll just get you down. Sending huge hugs. Hope being back at work is ok.

Patkica ? sending baby dust to you all! Really feel for you, cycles after MC are another stab in the heart I felt. My first cycle after MC was 40 days and this second one seemed normal i.e. 28 or 29. My MC was at 10 weeks and started on 1 March. We had been TTC for 8 cycles for that baby. My MC was a complete one. I?m 33. Here?s your link
here

EllieG ? you just never know!

Hello nh101

KatyH thanks! Fingers crossed for you and I hope Friday isn?t too painful. Re your list ? my advice would be to avoid the Vit B and the green tea after OV. You can switch from EPO to Flaxseed Oil after OV, has the same effect of regulating hormones without the danger factor! I gave up on the cough mixture, didn?t think it helped and I didn?t like taking medicine I didn?t need (tried it for 3 cycles). If EWCM is an issue for you, I?d recommend Pre Seed which is a sperm friendly lubricant that does the job of EWCM.

My1stbaby ? it?s easier said than done avoiding stress isn?t it? My first cycle after MC, I OVd on CD33, I thought it was annovulatory and DH and I had given up!

hello nh - my 1st cycle is anO because (1) didn't see shift in temp until AF (2) CBFM didn't pick up peak days, just from low to high to low again (3) CM dried up on cd11 but i did get EWCM before that (4) OPK didn't show positive, i tested till cd20. think my body is producing oestrogen hence the EWCM but somehow LH surge didn't get triggered, so no ovulation. so my menses is probably oestrogen bleed through. this cycle is looking to go the same way too.

hey mrsmc. good to hear that all went well at the hospital. hopefully it'll be the same on monday too, fingers crossed and lots of hugs

Got to get the acronyms and medical jargon sussed! Sorry I am a newbie...

CBFM?
LH surge?
menses is probably oestrogen bleed through?

Sorry my1stbaby hope you don't mind me asking.

I m/c'd in March at 13 weeks (baby had died at 10+4), we got PG first month trying so I didn't go through all this before.