Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who is weak willed Miami!

A pregnant friend has instagrammed about something called Seedlip. It is a non-alcoholic gin. Think I'll have to get myself a bottle and give it a go.

Miami at husk of a man. He's a lucky one your DH. Enjoy!

Fx fluff, it only takes one so I really REALLY hope you get a miracle.

Water af always sucks a little bit but as Miami says, now you can plan for your next fertile week. Hope af isn't too rough and you're feeling okay about things. No one would blame you for POAS, we've all been there!

Enjoy the wedding keepon, defo have some fizz for toasts! God I love a wedding

Lentil, if you've had a convincing af since you should be okay for retained products but I don't know that much about it so keep an eye on how heavy it is and how long it lasts.

I'm out of tests, more coming in the post today. Going to wait till Monday to poas again. Still feeling semi optimistically symptomy but really trying not to get my hopes up. Af due Tuesdayish but for some reason Ovia is giving me a slightly longer cycle than usual.

Distracted today by keeping the DSC for the whole weekend as their Mum is in hospital, had to cancel plans for tonight which is a shame but nice to have more time with them.

Arrrgh the Facebook new baby posts have started!

I have a few friends due in Feb/March and the arrivals have now started...I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it really does.

Can't help comparing how pregnant I would have been when they found out they were expecting etc

I've never had this experience before and don't quite know how to process it- apart from just offering my congratulations.

Luckily they are not friends we will see in real life any time soon.

Think I'm on cycle 7 (or 8- lost count!) since MMC last summer. Haven't really had the need to do a preg test since starting- my period has always showed up!

On CD21 and trying to forget all about it.

Enjoying a bit too much wine over the last few weeks as there have been a number of birthdays.

Now coming round to the belief that baby number 2 will never happen, so am just enjoying the booze, tea & coffee and eating exactly what I like!
That is what I was doing prior to my 2 previous, unexpected BFPs.

Period is due is another week or so, kind of annoying as we are going on holiday and would prefer not to have my period while on the beach- was even thinking of starting up with the pill again to try and avoid it!

Sorry, I am feeling sorry for myself today, hope everyone is doing ok!

Also, feeling quite down about everything as I've realised that next month will be one whole bloody year since I had my last BFP

Turquoise
I am so sorry. I think I got my first bfp at the same time as you (ish) last year. It is torture. We were out and about earlier today in a shopping centre and there were babies everywhere. I just couldn't stop staring at them all, I am sure that some of the mom's thought I was insane. I just wanted to cuddle them (which i realise is weird) but it's so hard thinking about our baby being 3 months old now.

Yes Miami
It's so hard seeing other babies- my baby would have been around 2.5 months by now.

When I see little babies just a few months old, I tend to look and mother and I think- we were pregnant at the same time, why did it all go wrong for me??!

Anne sorry I read your post and didn't have time to respond the other day. My experience was very similar to yours. She asked me to go to the toilet to empty my bladder twice during the scan and i never thought anything was wrong. Dh even joked about it being triplets! As soon as she said no heart beat it was all a blur. I was very matter of fact then it hit me like a tonne of bricks on the way home.

Im going to hold off testing until Wednesday..if I can! Had some weird spotting/cramping yesterday and a tiny bit this morning so not sure if it's the start of AF or what's going on!!

Let's hope we have some good news this week from everyone testing..

Totally get the hurt caused by seeing other people's happy announcements. One of the woman I manage at work is 10weeks pregnant, I'm the only one she's confided in and now she shares every detail. Her symptoms are so similar to mine and it's taking a lot for me to just nod and smile.
Feeling down today, I'm due AF in 4 days time so could test but I am symptomless and I don't want to see a negative. Do you all wait to see if AF makes an appearance?

Hope you're all well today. I'm having a major wobble today. Think all you lovely ladies are right and MC is still happening as now been bleeding for 9 days. EPU closed at the weekend. Having butterflies which feel exactly the same as the first flutters with DC1 and I know this time my body is lying to me. Am absolutely shattered too. Going to try and call EPU tomorrow and really hope they pick up this time! Sorry for the moan

Turquoise it know exactly what you mean I can deal with very pregnant women and even those with newborns but those as pregnant as I would have been are so hard to be around.
Would have been going for my 20 week scan soon.
I knew as soon as the sonographer asked me if they could swap to an internal scan it was all over.I also had to ask them to turn the screen so I could see the image.
I think she thought she was being kind but s/he was still my baby.
My one regret was not asking for a picture but was so shell shocked at the time,I forgot.
Thought I might be able to get one when one when I went for my MVA but miscarried naturally before.
Swim your post has reassured me that I'm not cracking up.I have been having the whole butterfly thing too at exactly the time I felt movements with my other babies.
Miscarriage is so cruel.
Hope everything is ok with you and the epu both pick up and are able to offer either help or reassurance.
Does anyone know if you calculate OV from procedure date or first negative test date?
Ovia is saying FW but am sure it's wrong or this cycle is going to be a write off because I don't have any of the normal symptoms that I normally get and no EWCM yet.

Noroom i would ask for a picture anyway its your info and you are allowed to access ot at any time. Regarding ov for me i seem to be a week behind i had surgery but i don't check when ov on a calendar just go with my body symptoms. Hope all goes ok tomorrow swimchick and they answer the phone for you.

swim, I bled for two weeks. It stopped when I was just about to go back to the EPU.

Me, I'm out this cycle. Had been spotting for a few days and was hoping for implantation bleeding but it has just turned into a period on CD23

I'm so over all this shit.

putputput, at some point in the TTC journey I realized I was making myself insane through early testing so now I stay well away. In fact, the first and only time I ever got a BFP I was already one week late!

Hi ladies
Well it's been a month since i started my mmc , my HCG was back to near enough 0 shortly after and i did a HPT and a OPK to check all was negative and they were. A week and a half later i started checking with OPK and got high fertility for 4 days and then i felt a sharp burn in my ovary one night so took another and immediately got a peak fertility! Two days later it was back to normal so i assume that is a reliable test to say i did ovulate. We dtd every other day and on the day after i tested and got peak my cm was like egg white and lots of it so again seems to me a sure sign of ovulating! So now it's been two weeks and all the apps say i should have had af by today and i haven't! I've had nausea for about a week off and on, cramping and 4 days ago a pinching sensation in my uterus! My back and cramps are like they were when i was PG (although given i mmc it's not a sign i don't think)! My boobs have the odd burning sensation and are big but fine really! I was super bloated but that's gone now. I've done HPT every day for about a week and always BFN! I guess i'm 14dpo now and still getting BFN so do you ladies think i'm just having a late af because of my mmc! I was convinced we had got pg again! But i would have had a BFN by now!!! I just want af to come so i know everything is working!!!! Anyone got any advice? I'm literally obsessing about it all! x

Sully with my dd i didn't get + until a week after af was due. Try again in couple of days. Apparently can take up to 4 days to complete implantation? Never knew this. Then apparently takes 2 days after for hcg to rise. I've read this somewhere.

i've read that somewhere but then i think surely with having symptoms for so long i'd have a positive by now? I just feel deflated and like if af is coming can it just come already so i can stop obsessing! ive not drank at all since the mmc or had caffiene which i know is over the top but i'm taking no chances! I hope you are right though and if i just try forget for a while and take another test is a few days i might have all my prayers answered! easier said than done though x

I knew i was pregnant about 2 weeks before af my symptoms were really strong but test was always - ended up going to a and e with pains because i thought i was having an ectopic hcg on bloods were 34 but no test until it was over 200 but she was a sticky baby unlike this time bfp straight away hardly any symptoms and ended in mmc. I'm having the same symptoms i had with my mmc but got a lot of cramping good luck. X

Ladies I couldn't wait until Wednesday the curiosity got the better of me and I tested just now...I'm sure I can see a 2nd pink line if I squint?!

Is this too early? I don't know what to think if its a chemical or retained from MMC....seems too good to be true if it's a BFP

I see it!

Oh I can see a wee faint line user!!!! Fingers crossed it's a BFP for u!!!!

I'm cycle day 26. My mums anniversary on 11th march AF due 13th feel like it could be a rotten month for me 😭

User
I can totally see a line. Hoping this is a fresh sticky for you. Congratulations.

Congratulations *User
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I'm still lurking 😜

I got my bfp immediately after my miscarriage with no AF inbetween. I was worried it was leftover HCG but the EPU saw me early due to the circumstances and confirmed it was indeed a new pregnancy :)

Great news!!

Ah that's ladies Claire how soon did they see you? I really don't want to get my hopes up x

I left it until I was 4 weeks. Then went to the walk in one near me who are monitoring me every two weeks which is amazing as I'm not even having my antenatal care there!

Fingers crossed for you!

What amazing news user! So happy for you, gentle hugs of reassurance and hope for you x x x