Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

Harriet- I had to really spell out to my DH how I was feeling. He's normally fairly intuitive but I don't think either of us were prepared for the level of grief it took me to.

If he's not supportive there are others who will be.

I'm going to try my hardest not to test until after AF is due. Last time I forgot to test, AF was 1 day late, and voila! None of that awful peering and convincing myself I saw a line.

In fact if I'm even lucky enough to conceive again, I don't think I'll sign up for maternity care until after a private 12 week scan. I can't bear to do another pointless booking appointment.

Just had my negative test after mmc. It feels so strange that it makes me happy and sad. True realisation I'm no longer pregnant. But at least it's all gone to try again.

It is a funny old feeling isn't it fluffy.

Hi all, I've finally managed to catch up with everything (I think!). To all the new joiners: so sorry you're here, hope you'll feel better (both emotionally and physically) soon. To all those in their 2WW or who recently got their long-awaited BFP: fingers and toes crossed, you all deserve a happy ending!

I have a quick question: my period arrived exactly 4 weeks after my natural MC. It wasn't heavy, but I had a decent flow for a few days. However, a few days after it ended, I started spotting. It happens every day now, particularly in the afternoon and evening. It's typically brown, only occassionally very light pink, and it's mixed with CM (sorry for the TMI!). Has this happened to anyone else? Should I be worried? I had a scan just after my MC and I was told everything was eliminated.

Last night I watched The Light Between Oceans - very bad idea! All those memories came flooding back and I could barely hold back tears. I read the book years ago and assumed I would be okay watching it, but couldn't have been more wrong... I desperately want and , but I'm trying to lose a bit of weight. Guess it will just be treadmill for me tonight

Feeling awful as I had a few pints after work :( needed a release though but feel a dick now :(

Have you not had a good day crazy?

Had a pound shop cheapie so tested and it was negative.Am going to check with fmu but am hoping that means everything has gone now and can start to think about ttc.Have never been so happy to see one line.
MVA was only yesterday afternoon hence double checking it really is negative.Just spotting now.
Spent a train ride working through dates,what do you reckon on using opk from 10 days after bleeding has stopped?Or do you think I should give them a go sooner normally 30 day cycle OV between day 14 or 16.

No not good... tested earlier with fr and didn't use FMU I used midday almost clear urine and it gave me a BFN... how stupid am I?!

No room I think I ov yesterday which was 15 days after surgery I'm not positive though but everything changed just for yesterday. I also bled for 13 days. Spotting for most of it.

Oh dear. Test again tomorrow. Do you ov really early then because my af starts about 10days after ive ov. I tested today to see if all has gone but didn't use fmu so I got a negative just need to double check in the morning. Fingers crossed for you crazy.

I ovulated around day 10 of a 28 day cycle :(

I ovulated really late this time, CD28. So I'm not due until the end of the month now.

Am keeping everything crossed for you Crazy
Can normally tell when OV but am expecting this month to be completely hit and miss.
How mental is is it to have worked out a plausible due date for a baby I haven't yet conceived?
Have I actually turned into this person?
I mean like if I could start trying again on the 20th, I would OV around the 6th of March and be able to test on 20th,giving me due date in December .
Can you tell I like lists and a plan?

Oh ok fluffy so could be as early as the 28th I'd need to be checking from.
Thanks for the heads up.
Although I think am just going to keep dp very busy as soon as we are able.

Thanks noroom I've cried so many times tofay already, OH is being an insensitive arse again too... just not my day, think I need to go to bed :(

Currently downstairs crying my eyes out while he's upstairs in bed texting me asking what's wrong with me because it's making him feel down the way I'm being :( please tell me he's a dick and it's not me?!

Crazy you are not stupid in any way, you just want something very much.And it will be a very lucky little bean to be wanted as much as it is.
Also nothing as therapeutic as a good cry or telling your OH exactly what you think of them as I did to mine last night.

Mine needed telling in words of one syllable exactly what was wrong may have been several four letter words involved to.Also threatened to draw him a diagram.
Sorry my other comment was in regards to your earlier post too.

Ty noroom you've made me feel a lot better... fingers crossed for tomorrow to be a nicer day! :)

Morning everyone. and welcome to the new joiners, sorry you find yourselves here.

I wrote a post yesterday then my stupid screen froze and I didn't have time to type it again. I got AF 27 days after MC, why is the length of my normal cycle. Didn't test for OV last month as was trying to deal with MC and that felt like too much. I don't get OV symptoms like some of the ladies on here.

Will be trying this month though. I so hope it happens as everyone keeps saying (to make me feel better about MC) that you are at your most fertile in the 6 weeks after an MC. I'll almost feel like i called if it doesn't happen then.... So unlikely though given it took us 3 years both times to get it BFPs. Fingers crossed though.

After moaning about everyone I know being pregnant one of my friends had a MC and I felt awful. I had decided to only be positive and c was feeling really good. Was going ok until I found out another really close friend is pregnant due on the same due date as I would have been and i feel like I'm back to square one again. Oh well, just need to DTD as much as possible this month and hope for the best.

Hope you all have a lovely weekend

Oh swimchick that must have been hard! I would have been due 17th August and my cousin is due the 18th so that got me down too :( also having some very selfish feelings about when I'd be due if I got my BFP this month, why does it matter when his/her birthday would be?? Need to get a grip of myself

Well... I think I may HAVE a BFP... won't show on pictures though :( can anyone see it??

I know I remember when DC1 was born (October), some people said oh it's a shame it wasn't a spring baby, wtf! If they had any idea the pain and stress we went through for DC1 to even arrive, they would have realised the birth date doesn't matter at all. It is only natural to have those thoughts though, so don't beat yourself up .

I'm looking on a mobile with a cracked screen so can barely see anything but keeping everything crossed for you Crazy

Arghhhh still positive with fmu.Really should have held off testing will give it till next weekend before I test again.
How are you this morning Crazy?