Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

Sorry yours is being an arse too.Would be saying bring on the baby making but at the moment the only thought that is keeping me going is the thought of sticking a vacum into a certain part of his anatomy
And if he says it's my hormones making me irrational I will hold him to it and not be responsible for my actions

Must be a day for men being idiots. I can think of better things than the hoover though noroom

fluffy sorry that was a ref to my afternoon.It was either that or the thought of sticking a needle in the end of it.
The last time one of the children ran into him we had 10 mins of laying on the floor and I'll never know what it felt like because 'I am a woman' -and therefore not know how much pain he could be in.

Haha. Yep they're all the same. But a hoover isn't painful enough when they are being ass holes.

Noroom the needle sounds like a good plan.

For those of you who had an erpc and didnt have a regular cycle 4 weeks after- did you feel any pains around the time your leriod was due?

Pretty sure I ovulated on day 14, had slight twinges around 28 days, uterus and fallopian (have had slight twinges since thr erpc) but no AF! Have convinced myself I have ashermans but dont want to pay for the 3d scan to check until 9 weeks, currently 5 weeks post erpc and going crazy wishing my period to come!

I'll tell you in two weeks Mulder! Had ERPC just over 2 weeks ago. Bleeding has only just stopped and I've got loads of EWCM (sorry TMI). DH is away tonight (he only told me yesterday just to fit in with the current theme...) so I can't make hay while the sun shines...

Mulder I had an ERPC 4 weeks ago tomorrow and still waiting on AF. I don't track ovulation but pretty sure I ovulated about 10 days ago as my cycles are pretty long anyway so this is currently normal for me. Never wanted AF to show up more in my life! Did the hospital say anything about how long it would take? My leaflet said up to 6 weeks.

To add to the OH frustrations my DH is also being a pain this evening!!

So you got a leaflet, owl, you lucky thing! I got sweet FA either before or after the op. I was v envious of the other ladies who'd brought slippers and dressing gowns.

Water what a nightmare, you'd think they'd better prepare people especially as it's such an emotional experience to go through. The leaflet was basic at best. I didn't get any advice in advance apart from not to eat anything, thankfully took slippers (my mum reminded me) but didn't even think about a dressing gown and they had to lend me another gown just to preserve my decency!

That being said my experience whilst in hospital was amazing and the EPU have been lovely when I've rung a few times.

I hope AF turns up this weekend so we can get back to TTC soon!

Hello everyone and especially mouse. Another sad new joiner here.

I had an early miscarriage (4+5) on Monday. Really gutted as I had such strong symptoms from 7dpo - nausea, nosebleeds, sore boobs, implantation bleeding and cramps...everything! It was cycle 1 after a year break following a chemical pregnancy last Feb- started bleeding 2 days after bfp. I had no symptoms with that one which is why I was so sure this would work out.

So now I've had 2 early losses in the 2 months we've tried. I'm having crazy and pointless thoughts like what if there is something wrong with me, what if i can never have children etc etc. DH has not helped as he's completely blasé - doesn't really feel sad about this loss at all.

I'm trying to focus on the positives - I can at least conceive. I'm glad my MC was sooner rather than later. We're going to start trying again immediately so hope my cycle goes back to normal soon. Bleeding slowed a lot today so think nearly done. So surreal to think that last week I was pregnant. Sorry for such a long post!

WaterI know a whole printed piece of paper.All I got was arrive:....procedure .......scrawled on a post it.Am feeling very left out.
Although the nurses were lovely, I got more info when I bumped my head playing netball that one even had pictures.

Sorry for your loss harriet.

The lack of info on the op was weird. I was told not to eat or drink after midnight -- which I obediently observed. But apparently I could have still had water until 4 hours before the op. As it was, I went to the loo before I left home, then had a terrible job trying to squeeze out a urine sample so they'd let me have the op. Doh!

The doctor who consented me couldn't remember when I had to fast from so said 'have breakfast and then only drinks ,I'm sure that'll be ok.'and shrugged.
Lack of info is indeed weird.
As is aftercare.Do what ever you fancy or don't fancy and poas at some point and if it glows get back in touch.

Oh anyone know why that bit in my post is pink?
Didn't do it on purpose.

Ok the words 'doctor' and 'who' were bright pink in my post a minute ago

It's a hyperlink to a Dr Who page on Amazon.
LOL!

And a.ma.zon has just hyperlinked itself on my post.
Bog off, automatic hyperlink-bot!

Before he bogs off can he travel 9 months into future and give me heads up.

Morning ladies... anyone testing today? I'm not due AF til the 25th and it's dragging, although ovia is for some unknown reason telling me I can test tomorrow I know if I test today it'll be BFN but can't bring myself to wait, it's like a sickness

Thanks water and owl guess i will just have to be more patient. Hospital said 4 weeks ish but have since seen it will probs be more like 6-8. Normally i hate having my period, just need it to come so soon.

Have spent the last week convincing myself I have ashermans, I was so chilled when I was prego too!

Your doctor sounds v odd water i think every time i have GA they say fast for 8 hours so surely he must know that is standard? I've also been told in the past no nail varnish so they can monitor your colour etc.

murder the no nail varnish is for the pulse monitor on your finger, the machine can't get an accurate reading through varnish.

mulder not murder

Harriet I'm sorry for what you're going through!

I think it's sometimes hard for the OHs to grasp that from the moment you see that positive test, you think of that cluster of cells as an actual baby with a potential life ahead of it. And of course a life change for yourself, in the role of mother. I know that I had just spent a couple of months getting used to the idea of myself as a pregnant lady, and now I have to unconvince myself of that! So with an early loss it can be difficult for them to understand your grief. It was only when my DH saw the scan photo (sadly when our mmc was confirmed) that he started to cry, and I think that's what made it real for him. Had there been no scan photo, and had I had an ERPC away from him to clear everything, I don't know if he really would have understood the emotional side of it either. As it was, he was incredible through my natural MC at home. But the good thing is, that the ladies on here do get it! So you can talk to us, and maybe explain how you're feeling to your OH when you feel you can.

Hugs and to you!

Thanks WL I think you're completely right. I'm all over the place myself - swing from thinking don't be silly, could have been so much worse, other people have it so much worse so get a grip, to feeling totally bereft and heartbroken, to panicking that there's something wrong with me, to feeling desperate to try again as soon as possible and just move on, to wanting some time to grieve. I keep googling mad things about fertility after miscarriages, statistics, pros and cons of various supplements, private fertility clinics etc etc etc. DH meanwhile is just getting on with life - I should be happy for him or at least jealous but instead I'm cross!