TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

Jodie, probably a bit late for implantation but light periods/spotting during pg are fairly common I think. Congratulations!

Hi Ali,
Thanks, was barely anything when I wiped so will see.
Sorry to see you here...re my af after mc, it was very heavy and clotty (mine are normally light) but I think there might have been 'stuff' left in there that was passing. Everyone is different though, hope yours in trouble free!

Hi allium sorry for your loss. How far along were you?
I was 9 weeks by the time I had the mc.
Counting first day of heavy bleeding/ day I took the tablets for mc as cd1, first cycle was 33 days.
First AF pretty heavy, cramps have been ok but just really heavy bleeding. All my other usual symptoms were very light, so no sore boobs, no headaches etc. I have felt very bloated since the mc though so it kind of feels like this AF will help sort that all out.
Thanks yep we might be ok. Will have a nice time dtd before he goes away and pounce on him the second he gets home just in case.
Have googled and there seems to be no way to delay ovulation other than being super stressed so I won't be trying to do that!!

Jodie a line is a line. Congrats. Hope all goes well for you.
Thanks Macauley and nitnat, good to have positive stories!
IC do you temp? When do you think you ovulated? Not over til the witch comes, must be very hard for you.

Thanks Miami, I do hope so but just scary and daunting....i want to feel happy and hopeful though! Keep thinking of symptoms now, with last pregnancy I felt v sick and tired - not felt sick but have felt v tired.
I agree with other re dtd as ov timing can change too...just try and stay relaxed although I know that isn't easy.

We are back.

I am so sorry Kate. You throw as many shampoo bottles as you want. It really is so unfair. Have a big hug from me.

Hi to all the newbies waves. So sorry you are here.

Kate my DH is lovely. Such a kind man. He drives me bonkers sometimes, but he has the biggest heart. He arranged to leave work early on friday to go shopping with me before we went away. He snuck there even earlier and had a scout around the shops to find suitable candidates. I went into the changing rooms to try them on and they were really busy, which kind of made my heart sink as I had to walk up and down from the back so he could see the dresses. I came out feeling amazing as it was a group of ladies in their 60s or so in there and they were all coomenting on how lovely I looked and asking where we were going. It turns out DH has great taste in clothes. i felt lovely in them, they suited me and I was getting complements right, left and centre. Dh was also waiting happily outside the changing room and not sighing and tutting. We had really good fun shopping.

I ended up getting two dresses. This is my favourite

www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_018020692760_-1

I also got this one

www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_028020651360_-1

Plus he had been off scouting at swimming costumes and I got a polka dot one with a tummy control panel.

I got stopped in the hotel as well by people who told me how much they loved my dress.

So now I feel pretty and sexy again instead of fat and frumpy. More than that I feel very lucky to have a husband who goes out of his way to make me feel special.

The rest of the weekend was lovely too. We spent ages in the outdoor hot tub and had some lovely dinners. I went swimming before breakfast every day and I went for a run on the beach too. Plus I read most of a book. I feel a lot better.

Aah lovely Brenna, glad you had a good time, he sounds so lovely, good on him for cheering you up! And the dresses are lovely too!

Hi ladies... Sorry I haven't been able to catch up on all the messages... Hope everyone is ok.
I'm in Italy having a great time, although sometimes I have this huge wave of sadness that I should be here 20 weeks pregnant not drinking copious amounts of wine. The wine is lovely but I would rather be pregnant! My friends have no idea how I feel and now and again they will just mention something about babies or pregnancy and no one thinks about me... Maybe I'm being selfish.
I'm now on cd2... This af has been not that normal, think my body did need it though.

Hope you ladies are all ok. X

Hi jpeg. Sorry your friends aren't thinking. It is hard being in your own private hell. Glad the wine is good though.

AF got me on saturday. Naturally since I was on a posh spa weekend. At least it meant I could drink without guilt and I get to do my blood tests at the end of june.

Jodie I got my first very faint bfp on Thursday, and have had brown spotting since. Done a couple more tests, all getting darker, so I'm just putting the spotting down to my womble is having a bit of a spring clean.

Congratulations on your BFP!

Thanks Mimi, when I told DH, we did another (more expensive first response one) and the line was a lot darker. No spotting this morning so fingers crossed.
I think I said it further up but congrats again to you too!
Now need to work out how to hide not drinking!

Miami, I was 8 weeks. Let me know how your symptoms are this month. I found it so odd not having sore boobs that I think I didn't ov - despite getting several +opks. I've been so emotional, hope that settles down too. Hope June is a lucky month! x

Oooh, congratulations Jodie and Mimi.

No idea as I have no experience with th Clomid but that does sound good Mrs. Everything crossed for you.

AF has arrived at last. 8 days late
Obviously I was hoping for a different outcome but this is better than not knowing wtf is going on.

I hope you manage to enjoy your holiday jpeg. Could you tell your friends how you're feeling? I find it difficult to talk about but perhaps the wine might help facilitate a heart to heart so they understand what you're going through

Allium I don't think I o'ed either or certainly not when I thought I had if that makes sense. I kept thinking I was having o pains but then my temps never seemed to go high enough.it seems like you and I are on the same timeline so I will certainly keep you posted. Things are still pretty heavy today but a bit more manageable, not like a normal period for me, all bright red and very few clots (normally very clotty).
Emotionally I found it very difficult yesterday when period was so heavy as it just kind of felt like the trauma of the mc again, I was really glad that I was off work anyway, so be kind to yourself as well allium, it is all very hard.
I am going to OPK from around cd 8 as my cycles pre mc were pretty short.
Good luck to all the BFP's and to all of us who are starting new cycles this is it June is our month. I feel really positive about this now, whilst I was upset by AF I am also really glad that my body is back doing what it should be!
JPEG so sorry she got you, but time to look forward to all the dtd in June though.
Brenna your weekend sounds lovely, sorry she got you too. Your DH sounds like an absolute legend though. What a sweetie.

Mrs I have had sore nipples every month since mc except for the cycle that has just ended, don't recall ever having it before.

Hi mrs. I have a picture of a month of OPKs that I took at one point. Mine gets as dark as the control line, but I wouldn't have said any darker. I'll post the picture when I get home as it is on my home computer. I don't always get sore nipples, but I do sometimes. I can't see why it would be a particularly bad sign. It is just a response to the progesterone.

So sorry the witch got you IC.

My Dh really is a legend. If I wasn't married, I'd marry him again.

Totally can't catch up, so sorry if I miss anything.

Anybody eating your lunch, look away now!

So this very late period is acting rather strangely. Very little bleeding and most of it is brown (ie old blood) and some white tissue. Only a very small amount of red blood. Anybody else had this? Can it still be hangover from mc in January? Seems ridiculous to still be having problems but my cycles haven't been the same ever since

Insufficiently were you ever scanned to check for leftover tissue?

I had loads of scans, 1 every week for 4 weeks after mc, and every time there was some retained tissue but the hospital discharged me after 5 weeks and said I should have a period soon and that should shift it. Did have a period shortly at 5 weeks after mc but now I'm wondering if perhaps I never fully shifted all the retained tissue.

IC I passed white and grey tissue three cycles after my MMC in Jan (had surgery to remove it too so would have thought they'd got it all!). I think it's totally normal but you could always speak to your GP and asked to be referred for a scan?

I'm finally bleeding!!! I never thought I'd be so happy for a miscarriage to start but after 2 weeks in limbo it is a relief. It isn't heavy yet, just a light period but I'm hoping it will speed up soon and so I can get this over with as quickly as possible.

My hope is that my HCG should drop in a week and then we can start TTC again but who knows if it will drop that quickly. Come on!!!!!

Haven't had chance to catch up with all the posts yet as was away this weekend but congrats to the new BFPs!!! I'll catch up after work.

Xx