TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

Hi everyone. Feeling really flat today energy wise and mood wise. Just cannot be bothered with anything

Forcing myself to get dressed and go and visit my mum.

Hi all.

How is everyone? We are off to the Cotswolds, still feeling sad but much much brighter than yday. Still waiting to bleed but looking forward to getting it over with & start trying again.

Xx

Enjoy your trip hopeful xxx

Mrs I've had a name
Change (cheeky)

I don't drink so ignore my ignorance but does drinking affect ovulation? I didn't know that. For what it's worth I'm sure it did you more good than harm by allowing you to relax a little. I do think relaxation is key to conceiving.

I can't wait to have sex again. It feels like it's been too long. The bleeding is getting less now so hopefully not long..

I thought a name change might bring me some luck! Lol

I'm sure your chances haven't been affected, I wouldn't worry about that.

Not sure if it's because I'm getting ready to ovulate or if it's because I just desperately want to be preg again. Also just want to feel close to DH ; I've been taking my stress out on him which isn't good for our relationship

Relaxation is something I try and focus on. Before this pregnancy I changed my focus to weight loss and embarked on the 5:2 diet. I'll be getting back on it now. I had lost half a stone but think I've put it all back on now. I'm also going to try do a relaxing stretching DVD as my body feels so achey and tight.

I dont know if this is the right thread for me.

I have two DCs a dd 12 and a ds 6 (he has Down's syndrome, Adhd and autism) last sunday i had a mc at 9wks6days. Im totally heartbroken. This would have been Dps 1st child. I am 30 hes 28. We had been Ttc for 6months. I am eager to TTC again relatively soon but am terrified of mc again. I have been told that your more fertile and less likely to mc within 6months of a previous mc, is this true? I want to try again desperately but dont think i could go through this heartbreak again

Hello there, I am ttc as well after miscarriage last year in December. I had retained products and had an awful time afterwards trying to cope with the loss emotionally.
This month I started ttc again, but no luck. Will try again! I really hope there is a BFP for all of us in the near future. All the best to everyone.

I'm back again....BFP Wednesday, BFN four days later.

Other than implantation bleeding, which was before my BFP, I guess I'm just waiting for a bleed now?

I'm so fed up. It sounds weird but I can cope with the loss, but I can't cope with the waiting and not knowing what's going on. How can I get a BFP and then my HCG drop low enough for a BFN before any bleeding?

If I don't bleed soon, do I need to go and have an ultrasound?

Ugh. The whole process is just utterly exhausting.

So sorry MissClarke :( I guess that is a chemical pregnancy? I would probably phone EPU and ask if you can. Or NHS direct might know maybe? Or GP.

I hate the waiting around with no idea what's happening either. I hope you get some answers soon.

Thanks for the reply Bertie. I've just started bleeding so hopefully that will be it over with then.

Sorry miss Clarke hope you are ok. Take painkillers if you need them and hot water bottles. Get comfy with a nice book if you are able or Netflix xx

Hi rach- they do say that one is more fertile after miscarriage and the chance of successful pregnancy within 6 months of a miscarriage is higher. In my case I did fall pregnant fairly quickly (miscarriage in Jan, took two months off, started TTC in April and fell again in May) but unfortunately I miscarried a second time. It's pretty uncommon though - after one miscarriage you have every chance of a successful pregnancy. Wishing you all the best of luck!

Welcome girl on a bike - here's hoping it's good news for all of us soon.

Hi all
I was away at the weekend so just catching up on posts. Sorry to all with bad news and sorry to all the new ladies who have found their way here after their losses.
my first AF after the mc arrived yesterday. I was expecting it as I didn't really believe that we had timed dtd at all to coincide with ovulation and also pretty certain that I just about ovulated!! So now am freaking out that next ovulation will be whilst DH is away from the 6th-10th of June. My pre mc cycles averaged around 25 days and I normally ovulated around day 13.
I know everyone will have different experiences but any thoughts on whether cycles get back on track straight away? Or anyone know of any neat tricks to delay ovulation for a couple of days. I temp so I will know once it has happened and will be so mad if it is the Wednesday or Thursday that DH is away.........

Just to give you a bit of hope miami, I 'o' ed a full five days after dtd with DH when we conceived DD1, so I'd make sure to dtd the last possible moment before he goes away

Hey all,
Just catching up! My AF was due on Wednesday but had been really hoping I wouldn't come this time (as we all do) felt like we'd tried hard with timing, taking vits, trying conceive plus etc...anyway just got home from a walk and wiped when I went to loo (sorry TML) and saw faint brown so presumed AF was here...had a little cry with DH....but still.went upstairs and did a test (had some cheap amazon ones) a line has appeared and whilst not dark, I wouldn't say faint!

Could this just be implantation bleeding? Would a positive be really dark?

It doesnt always have to be really dark. Try again in a few days. Fingers Xd for u

No not at all jodie! With pregnancy tests a line is a line! They are normally fainter than the control line.

thanks girls, trying hard not to get excited...not even mentioned it to DH yet but did go and do another which is showing the same!

miami just to give you a little hope! Second cycle after mc, DH away through fertile window. Day he came back we dtd and thought nothing more as sure we'd missed it for this month. Got bfp two weeks ago

Good luck Jodie I hope it is a sticky bfp for you.

Welcome to all the newcomers. Sorry you find yourself here but I hope we can at least offer you support and a place to share with those of us going through similar experiences.

Back from my weekend away. Lots of cycling & walking which I thought might get AF going, I even tempted fate by forgetting to pack my moon cup but nothing. A week late, no bfp. WTF is going on?!

Hi all,

My first post on here after MC on 3rd May and first AF just starting, albeit just spotting at the mo.

Miami, how was the first AF? I'm expecting a heavy, painful one.

Not sure I ov'd this month as didn't get sore boobs like I normally do. Did get 2 lh surges though.

Miami, if DH is back on 10th then you should be ok and first few cycles might be slightly longer? How long was your first cycle after MC? I don't know any tricks to delay ov I'm afraid.

I'm also around a 25-26 day cycle.

Good luck!