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TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 29/04/2016 14:11

Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

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HopefulKate1980 · 30/04/2016 10:58

Thanks IC

AmyB1986 · 30/04/2016 11:06

I've always had periods on the heavy side but it wasn't this bad last month although i did ov earlier this cycle making it a 27 day cycle, shortest ever cycle and was expecting a lighter af. Obviously my lining built up super quick which I guess is a good sign? It normally last 5 days with heavy to medium flow and a couple of days of spotting after.

I've looked on the nhs website and it says an average blood loss is about 30-40ml and heavy is classed as 60-80ml or more. If I use my mooncup I lose 80ml in the first two days but it overflows so I can't say that's accurate that's just what's in the cup and on the lighter days I lose 20ml a day. It says most of the time it's normal, seeing as I've always had heavier af's it doesn't seem to be that there's anything wrong. Damn you genetics! Feel for my poor dd's if they inherit this off me when they reach their teenage years (or 10 like me!)

redstrawberries101 · 30/04/2016 11:58

Hi! I'm so glad to have found you eventually, thanks to the girls who PM'd me that was very kind. For some reason I was looking on the miscarriage board Sad I even created a new thread there and jpeg found me but I've posted to say come on over here now. It was all very traumatic looking for you guys and wondering how I was going to manage with the invaluable support I've had from you all!

How is everyone? Plans for bank holiday weekend? Amy that's not good about AF. Watch your iron levels as they can dip fast. My periods have changed since miscarriage but not as heavy as yours.

jpeg28 · 30/04/2016 12:02

Thanks cheeky I've now found the new thread!

Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I'm on cd9... Time to start dtd! My OH has been annoying me so much this week! I've got him cleaning the whole house today whilst I have my hair done! Possibly a bit unfair but I'm so fed up of spending my weekend cleaning after he has left it in a state all week!!

redstrawberries101 · 30/04/2016 12:05

Good on you! Not unfair at all!!!

AmyB1986 · 30/04/2016 13:28

Thanks cheeky I take a supplement that has iron in it everyday so fingers crossed it shouldn't drop too low. Glad you found us as well.

JPEG I don't think that's unfair at all. My DH does no housework at all so I make him clean the kitchen. He cooks while I'm at work and don't get home till gone 8, walk in to a kitchen full of pots, crumbs and food packages everywhere. He has no excuse we have a dishwasher and a bloody bin!

On my 3rd maxi pad of the day. Seems to have slowed down a little bit but we'll see what happens when I start running at work!

BertieBotts · 30/04/2016 14:12

Hi all, can I join?

DH and I started TTC in March and were pleased/surprised to get a BFP on the first cycle. However, it was a bit strange and faint and here in Germany, where we live, they do an ultrasound and take blood HCG levels at the first appointment. We were told that it was earlier than we had thought, so we thought OK I've just ovulated later for some reason. However, last weekend I started bleeding and it became clear that the pregnancy was ending, which was confirmed by another scan on Monday. I would have been somewhere around 4-6 weeks depending on whether you go by LMP or HCG levels. That's comforting in a way because I don't have a due date so (hopefully) I won't be thinking about it when the time comes around.

I felt okay about the mc. Disappointed but not devastated. DH has a balanced translocation so we knew it was a chance and I don't think I really got into the mode of expecting a baby, so I don't feel like I lost one. Just that our plans have been pushed back. However this weekend I've noticed that I am feeling a bit up and down and hormonal and I'm finding it a bit sensitive when people I know in RL are announcing pregnancies and wanting to avoid being around tiny babies a bit. DH says it's hitting him a bit this weekend too. Mostly though I just feel impatient to be pregnant again!

My doctor wanted to wait two weeks and then check my HCG levels again. But I stopped bleeding relatively quickly and I am wondering if I can just get away with taking HPTs until they turn negative? I don't want to wait weeks and weeks for a period either.

Oh, I also have a DS aged 7 from a previous relationship :)

5tardusty · 30/04/2016 16:07

Hello bertie, i am just taking pregnancy tests every few days. I'm about ten days now since i passed the sac and my last hot was v faint. Hoping i'll ovulate soon.

I read recently that it's increased oestrogen that prevents ovulation, not HCG so hoping that my hormones have been low enough to allow my ovaries to do their thing

jpeg28 · 30/04/2016 16:28

Ok glad I'm not being unfair! I have just got home after a lovely day getting hair done and shopping and whole house is clean... Wish it would stay like it!

bertie sorry for you loss and good luck TTC. I am pretty sure I ovulated about 4 weeks after my MC but everyone is different.

5tardusty · 30/04/2016 16:33

That sounds fab jpeg. I've been shopping on my own and loved it. DH out at football so just me, the pooch and netflix. Lovely!

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 30/04/2016 17:25

Yay glad you found us jpeg and Cheeky!

Welcome Bertie. I started ttc again as soon as the bleeding had stopped. Considered waiting for af but then for me just getting back at it helped me to move on rather than waiting around. You could always do both - test with HPTs for your own peace of mind but also get tested by the doctor in 2 weeks. It is possible in 2 weeks a blood test could pick up hcg with a new pregnancy if you ovulate immediately though. I ovulated about 3 weeks after my mc at 10/11 weeks. Can't remember when I first got a negative hpt. I had retained tissue until af though according to the ultrasounds.

Ordered a new 2 decimal place thermometer from Amazon which arrived on Weds and have used it since.

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HopefulKate1980 · 30/04/2016 17:29

Hi bertie sorry you are here but welcome. Considering how far along you were your levels should drop relatively quickly so I'd just use hpt and then as soon as you get a negative, hit the sack!!

jpeg and 5tardusty that sounds lovely! My fella is out at cricket and I've had my lashes done, bought a second hand bike and off to the gym shortly...

I still have TONS of EWCM so my sexy batsman better come home with lots of energy!! He has some work to do tonight!!

cheeky glad you find the thread! I felt exactly the same when I saw it had closed. I panicked!!

Xx

HopefulKate1980 · 30/04/2016 17:30

How are you cheeky??

BertieBotts · 30/04/2016 18:01

Yes picking up HCG from a new pregnancy was my concern! I think it's unlikely though, isn't it? What would they do if that was the case? I was worried that they might think that something was retained and give me methotroxate (or whatever it's called)... I might try to phone them and ask if I need to be jabbed or not. I don't like needles so if it's unnecessary I'd rather not. I know that they likely want me to wait for a period for dating reasons but DH was like "Well, can't we just... not try, but also not really prevent anything?" We did use a condom while the bleeding tapered off and just after as my cervix was feeling a bit odd. TBH, I haven't really been able to relax, get into and enjoy sex since, so I might wait until that comes back anyway.

They could see an empty, flat sac via ultrasound a few days after I started MC. I think I bled for about four or five days in all. It was just like a period for me.

I also wanted to ask - if it's okay - I'm having really vivid dreams like pregnancy dreams but they aren't normal/nice dreams, they are all horrible ones. Like I dreamt that we were driving along the motorway and suddenly we went up a bridge where there had been an explosion and I could see burnt skeletons sitting in their cars. And then I had one where I was visiting a house where I'd been as a baby and it was making me feel all wrong and sort of nostalgic but creepy and bad at the same time. And then one where I went to a pub with all of my friends and then some scary bouncers came and kicked me out (which sounds not that bad but it was horrible!) it's weird Confused

5tardusty · 30/04/2016 18:02

Ooh insufficiently i've just ordered a thermometer too! Hope i can make sense of it.

Get the Barry White music on kate Grin

Clarity77 · 30/04/2016 18:07

Hello all, found you,
Cd 9 buddies- started last night, going to break tonight and then do every day for the next 4 days with the fertility gel as I ovulate on cd13. DP will be good for nothing after the rugby today, but tomorrow I will make extra efforts to make this a good month.
Brenna- the new thermometer arrived so I'm already to do my temperatures for the first time this month. DP is taking his supplements so fingers crossed month 4 will be lucky.
Been 7 months TTC if you don't count the miscarriage and as I am over 35 I've been thinking about when to approach the doctor too.
My period are heavier since the miscarriage, the first two days are crazy I had to change my pyjama bottoms twice one day this month.

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 30/04/2016 20:00

Bertie I had really intense and awful dreams when pg and still get them now before af is due. Lots of blood, gore, death of loved ones, tragedy etc. No idea why, hormonal perhaps.

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HopefulKate1980 · 30/04/2016 20:22

Bertie. Very soon hopefully you will have sweet dreams and interrupted dreams! Must be hormones. I had awful insomnia after mine..

FozBoz · 30/04/2016 20:24

Hello to you all, may I now join you? I recognise many of your names as I was a.major lurker on the previous thread.

Only had my MMC 6 weeks ago now so rverything felt a bit raw. I did want to try again asap but like nails, I still have bleeding which rules me out of any baby making I would expect.

Anyway, I'll try and keep pace with this thread!

AmyB1986 · 30/04/2016 20:37

Berty & foz welcome and so sorry for your losses.

Just home from work, had to change twice at work! Putting my feet up, drinking coffee and eating fish with mashed potato! This is the life Wink

HopefulKate1980 · 30/04/2016 20:59

Welcome foz. Don't lurk if you don't want to! I've found this thread amazingly supportive. It's such a painful experience but it does get easier, eventually.. Xx

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HopefulKate1980 · 30/04/2016 22:12

He is a HERO! He got home shattered from cricket and with a burnt face but he still managed to DTD!! 7 times on the trot, it's a personal best, surely we are covered now?! Surely?? Fingers crossed. I feel full of love and hope tonight! Please let this be the month for me and you all... Xx

BertieBotts · 30/04/2016 22:16

Yes it's strange, when I was pg I had really vivid dreams like I felt I was there, but it wasn't bad dreams, just normal ones. Now I'm getting these ones with the sense of doom. They do seem to be fading though. Hope I don't have one tonight. It's very unusual for me to have nightmare like dreams and when I do they are not normally gory, the danger is usually out of sight and I just know it's there.

I don't feel like I mc, I just feel like I was pregnant for a short time and then wasn't. I suppose that is what happened but it's very strange.

jpeg28 · 30/04/2016 23:11

I have been having such weird dreams... Lots when I was pg and then now before af arrived. I guess it is hormones

Mrs you really are on it! Good work! I'm cd9 so I'm going to start ovulation tests tomorrow... Hoping that I'll ovulate in about 5/6 days time so need to keep dtd until then!

Welcome foz and sorry for your loss. I have found the thread so so useful over the past few weeks. I feel like I have no one to talk to about it and it's so nice to just post stuff on here and have people reply!