TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

Oh Kate, sorry you're going through this. Feel free to cry and throw things, even scream if you need to (unless you have paper thin walls). Just do whatever gets you through the day right now. I don't know if this is relevant to your situation but we were going to go to the implantation clinic at Coventry next cycle to take part in a NHS research project looking at the womb lining and the part it could play in early miscarriage. Sorry if it's not relevant but I found planning things helped a bit with my mc.

The brown spotting is continuing, hopefully it's nothing but it's really taking the shine off my bfp.

Alb welcome to the thread, these ladies will take great care of you. I'm so sorry for your loss and am in awe of your strength to get back to ttc.

Thanks Jpeg, I'd like to say all the bd-ing done this cycle was magical and special like in the movies but after over 2 years of ttc and several MCs, doing the act is the most important thing, how romantic, eh?

So sorry, Kate and for all those struggling. Hope nobody minds me still posting here. I'm struggling atm. So scared of every twinge.

Hi Whatser, I'm scared of every twinge too and not ready for any of the pregnancy boards. I think I'll lurk here until my first scan at the end of June, hope you guys don't mind.

No dont mind at all, but I'm not sure if people mind me posting during my miscarriage as well, I'm quite negative at the mo! Promise I'll try to be more positive.

So sorry to hear alb1. Still birth is my worst nightmare. Did you know anything was wrong if you don't mind me asking? Good for you trying to look forward again. Also in awe. You never forget or replace xx

I'm on the pregnancy after mc thread. It's quite quiet and there are a few people from this thread so it feels familiar.

Cheeky I'm glad you post. We have to be here for each other.

Cheeky post away, we've all been through that bag of w@nk. It's probably good to share with ladies who aren't all at the coalface of mc, and be reminded of the light at the end of tunnel.

Sorry everyone, I think bring preggo again has made me a bit sweary .

kate and cheeky I'm so sorry to see your both currently going through miscarriages, it's such an awful time

cheeky I went to a routine midwife appointment and the heartrate was 340 so I got sent straight to hospital were we discovered she was in severe heart failure and had hydrops and I had a lot of excess fluid as a result, they tried to save her by giving me medication but we were too late and she died the next day. If we'd have found out a few weeks or possibly even days earlier she'd have been fine. My bump was huge and so sore, everyone commented on it but it never occurred to me something might be wrong, and I reported a change in movement to the midwife a few weeks before and they told me it was normal, they were so wrong. Iv not found anyone else that's had the same thing happen to them tho, it's incredibly rare and very unlikely to happen again thankfully.

Thank you all for being so welcoming. And sorry again for my long post, I get carried away on here cos I don't get to mention it in real life, know one nos what to say so they've all vanished apart from 1 or 2 people. I promise all my posts won't be this long

Hi girls really sorry to hear about your losses I really do feel your pain! But please dont give up your dreams will come true and you will all will be blessed with your rainbow babies.

I had a silent miscarriage about a year ago i found out at my first 12 week scan baby stopped growing at 6 weeks we were absolutely devastated dreams were shattered, it took me a while to get over it fully you never forget but the hurt gets easier as time goes on!
What kept me going was the fact I had my little girl to look after I suppose that made it a lot easier, ive just got a bfp a year after my miscarriage and ive got to say it's not easy the emotions are so whelming terrified the same thing is going to happen again:(

Im just trying to take each day as it comes went to scan last week to find out im only about 4 weeks pregnant and nothing can be seen but a 3mm sac I just don't feel lucky enough to pregnant again I don't know where it's going to go but what ever does im totally prepared for it good or bad ,it's so hard to he excited right now I feel like if I am tempting fate, I really hope you all find the happiness you want and you all get BFPs soon and can join me on this rollercoaster of highs and lows , sending you all the love and luck xxxxx

Just a quick check in to say thanks for all your kind words earlier. You're all right, there are people going through far worse. I think whatever is making AF so late is putting me on hormonal overload.

Having a beer because I'm pretty sure I'm not pg & I think I deserve it this evening. Will catch up on all your posts properly when I'm back from weekend away. Hope you're all OK

Alb don't apologies for long posts. We are hear to listen. That is so very sad. You sound incredibly strong. I can't imagine being as calm as you sound...

Pink, welcome. Hope it's a sticky bean for you. Have you been TTC for a while? I had a mmc in January (discovered at 12 weeks and was approx 9 weeks when it stopped growing). I was lucky enough to fall preg again fairly quickly but unfortunately going through second miscarriage at 6 weeks. The bleeding seems to be easing up now and we will continue to TTC. I'm on track for promotion in January and the cycle I fell preg, I was considering putting TTC on hold for a few months so I could announce after promotions. But then I realised I was preg and was cautiously excited and couldn't give a toss about work. I am going to leave it in natures hands again though and not put TTC on hold. See what happens..

Glad to hear your ok IC. Enjoy your weekend and yes have a drink! It isn't going to affect anything. Take it easy xx

Enjoy IC!

My cramps have started but feel strangely relieved - hopefully it can get started soon & over with as quickly as possible.

I'm drinking wine! But I'll catch up properly tomorrow too.
Xxx

Hope your takeaway is nice cheeky!!!

Xxx

Really sorry to hear about that Hun it really is hard to get your head around how did you feel when you found out, and now? What are you doing to cope, I think a second loss would completely ruin me I dont think I could go through it again, and I lost my 2nd pregnancy 22nd may 2015 and found out im expecting 19th may sent urine sample of at doctors came back positive 23rd may so it's taken us a year wasn't expecting it this month at all was a big shock we kind of given up, dr refereed us to early pregnancy unit, we had a scan Wednesday the lady who did scan was very positive all looked well but nurses were negative and said it was 50/50 so come away feeling not one bit reassured just added to anxiety more got to go back the 8th June constantly grabbing boobs to see if they hurt still , i really do hope your ok xxx

Aw pinks I've been doing the whole grabbing boob thing too. There is no reason why this can't be a successful pregnancy though so the nurses could've been more upbeat. They say every pregnancy is different. Symptoms etc. I know it's incredibly hard but try take it one day at a time. Your pregnant today. You don't know what the future holds but you can only base it on what you know today and today you are pregnant.  really hope you are successful this time.

It was heartbreaking when I found out in Jan. I'm a cancer survivor and in my 20's and the pregnancy was really good news for us. It was our first cycle of trying and we were so excited. We saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks. I ended up in hospital with a nasty infection just before New Years and had to make all sorts of decisions about antibiotics and them harming the baby and then it transpired that the baby had already stopped growing. Had a two month recovery before starting to TTC again and fortunately fell pregnant second cycle. Just hope I manage to fall quickly again. If it's bad news again... at least after 3 miscarriages they investigate.

P.s I have nc.

Have you changed your name cheeky?! Maybe I should do the same to give me some luck! Xx

Hi all, been a bit quiet lately as I always feel like nothing is happening with me between AF and the eternal wait for 'o' but seems finally I 'o'ed on day Cd30 and am in my TWW. I don't want to read too much into things (but who am I kidding), but exactly 4 years ago I also 'o'ed on the 25th of May and on June 10th got my BFP which led to DD1. So have decided to wait until June 10th to test, if AF comes before then I'll have spared myself a BFN, and if I get a BFP on the 10th it would be a lovely anecdote....
Kate and Cheeky, am forever admiring your fortitude in the face of what life has decided to throw at you, hang in there. Welcome Alb and Pink, hope you'll feel supported here, and whatser, Mimi and pink keep posting, crossing everything to hear positive pregnancy news from all of you, gives everyone hope. But completely understand the anxiety. Brenna, hope you don't even read this because you are too busy being pampered!

Oh wow you have been through so much for your age you sound asif you could do with something to look forward too,and I'm so glad I'm not the only one boob grabbing it's kind of a habit I wake up and they kill lol during the day they just hurt to touch do you get that too? I go back the 8th i hope I'm as lucky as a you to see a heart beat hoping it isn't a missed miscarriage again and no baby has even developed in sac as that was all that could be seen Wednesday I left with doubts in my mind, taken us a year to conceive I want this so much even more for my little girl shed love a little brother or sister, thank you for your kind words you seem a very brave and strong lady i wish you all the best xx

Yes hopeful...! Sorry to ask again hopeful but can you remind me of your story? I know you were thinking of giving up TTC naturally but then you got your BFP and now again you mention that you will prob try IVF if you decide to TTC again (which I really hope you will!)

Pink - thank you. Yeah have been through the mill to say the least. It's funny how lonely it can feel.

Hello all, haven't posted for a while and just catching up. Sorry to those of you going through a difficult time

CD7 (maybe?) Think my first 'period' is clearing up now, though it certainly wasn't a typical AF. Very brown and watery, never more than light. So we shall see if my hormones have settled down.

This month's plan is daily OPK from day 8, daily berocca, 2000mg Evening Primrose Oil, temping and Preseed.My normal cycle has me oving at CD17 ish so i'm really hoping it happens this month. I didn't ovulate last month.

Good luck to all of you. You deserve your BFPs

Hi everyone and welcome to anyone joining us.

Hope everyone is doing ok...

Kate I hope it is over quickly for you and I'm so sorry you have to go through this again.

Cd6 for me and I'm just spotting now. This af I've had only a few cramps cd1 with af but none the other days, it was really a good af. Manageable flow wise, heavy for two days but not overflowing. Still determined not to take any opk's this month again but with my weird temps we're going to dtd every day until it is sustained. We dtd last night despite af, it was lovely no pressure but then I couldn't sleep. DH was snoring had to roll him over but I still didn't manage to drop off until 2am.

We are now at the Santa pod raceway enjoying the noise of 300mph cars. Dd's have their ear defenders on sitting on the hill waiting for the ground shaking vibrations.

Hope everyone has a nice day xx