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TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 29/04/2016 14:11

Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

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Brenna24 · 16/05/2016 15:41

Aww, thanks Jodie. I am so sorry it is taking so long for you. Can you get a referral after all this time. My wee sis is 8 years younger than me too. Luckily she is working and travellingin China and having a second teenage phase and her husband is working over here, so no chance of being baby bombed by her. I hope you get there just before your sister and then you can go through it all together, which would be fun. Flowers

jodiebee664 · 16/05/2016 15:56

Thanks brenna

I will definitely ask for a referral if no luck this time.

I did see a gynaecologist at the end of the long bleeding spell and they said everything clear. I then had mittelschmerz and was in hospital in Feb and had a follow up with a gynaecologist but again was told everything was fine with me but after all this time I just don't get where we're going wrong.

Yes, that's what I was thinking re my sis :)

Miami81 · 16/05/2016 20:06

Good luck Jodie.
What is conceive plus?
It seems like things have started to reset themselves for me finally. Just took two different HPT's both seemed negative. One was Amazon cheapie dip stick which says that it is super sensitive and if I held it up to the light there was a really faint shadow but that's so much better than Friday's one. So I think I will check that again maybe midweek, but I am confident now that my body is doing what it should. I was dreading that I had retained products or something as seems to happen to so many people, I was really scared of the ERPC.
Anyway also did OPK's which seem fainter than last week even though by my temps I have definitely not ovulated yet. Hhhhhmmmm. Will just have to keep checking them I suppose. I think I finally had some CM today also so again all seems to be back on track as such. 3 weeks tomorrow since the mc, I am ridiculously glad to feel like I will be through the worst of it (physically anyway) by June.
I know this has probably been asked and answered but did you wait a cycle before trying?? My DH works away a lot and it is really stressing me out thinking about missing a potential just because of dates. I temp anyway so will have ovulation date to go by. Also on the mc cycle I had a clear temp dip at 9dpo which apparently shows implantation. So my dates last time were super accurate, I totally freaked my poor GP out.

Whatsername17 · 16/05/2016 20:23

No af as yet (although that doesn't mean anything - going by previous cycles it could be due any time between today and Sunday. Ovia says to test tomorrow but it is my birthday so I'm not!

jpeg28 · 16/05/2016 20:27

Miami I started TTC as soon as bleeding ended, got a negative HPT 6 weeks after MC and af returned the very next day. Now I'm on my first cycle since then which has been really long! Ovulated today on cd24... Good luck... Hope things get back to normal for you really fast!

Whatshername... So exciting! Fingers crossed for you. Maybe a birthday gift of a BFP?!

jodiebee664 · 16/05/2016 20:30

Hi Miami,
Conceive plus is a fertility lube (can't think how else to describe it) that you insert pre dtd. I've read some v good reviews on it so thought I'd give it a go!

Whatsername17 · 16/05/2016 21:02

I doubt it. We took the month of ttc due to me being diagnosed with ptsd due to how badly the hospital managed my miscarriage. I had a chemical in March and it all got too much. If AF is not here by Saturday I'll test but I'm not ruining my birthday with a BFN!

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 16/05/2016 21:04

Happy birthday for tomorrow Whatsername. A birthday bfp would be wonderful although a bfn wouldn't be so nice so I can see why you'd not want to test. If I got a bfp this month then I'd be due just before my birthday next year!

Miami I didn't wait a cycle. I did think about it but as soon as I stopped bleeding and felt comfortable dtd with dp then we got back at it because resuming normalcy helped

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HopefulKate1980 · 16/05/2016 21:15

Happy birthday for tomorrow! It sounds so hard, so hope you get some joy soon. Xx

Nitnat10 · 16/05/2016 22:04

Hi ladies, just spent 45 minutes catching up on this thread, so many BFPs! Congratulations Kate, Cheeky and Clarity, hope everything sticks. And a wedding as well, must be such fun to plan IC, definitely a good distraction. On CD21 here, still no sign of o, though for about the past year CD21 is about the absolute earliest I would o so theoretically normal I guess? I hate these long cycles I've been having (after a lifetime of 'normal' 30 day cycles) , makes me feel like I get fewer cycles in a year to ttc if you see what I mean! Anyone have super long cycles? I find the time between the end of AF and o so long now, everyone else at least gets to start 'having a go' as soon as AF is over for a week or so and then it's back to the tww whereas I feel like I have a tww till o, then another tww till AF!
Completely over all the waiting, have a Dr appt to get a referral for fertility testing on Thursday, need to feel like something is being done. Luckily we've been caught up in doing up and moving into our new house this past month, so had little time to dwell on it.
Happy birthday whatsername, hope you get spoilt!

Brenna24 · 16/05/2016 22:06

Happy birthday What. I really hope this is your month. You deserve it.

Miami81 · 16/05/2016 22:14

Thanks Jodie. Have googled, will see how we go this time round and maybe add it to next months bag of fertility related buys!!

Miami81 · 16/05/2016 22:15

Thanks IC and jpeg.
Just wanted to check that I wasn't about to do something that messed me up even more.

Miami81 · 16/05/2016 22:17

JPEG I am sure that your cycle will settle down soon.
you have o'ed. my book says that is all that matters. Do you temp?
N x

Miami81 · 16/05/2016 22:21

Happy birthday whatsername.
Nitnat - I'm afraid I haven't experienced long cycles. Do you take any of the vitamins and things to try and get it back to your normal?? Is it Angus cactus or something that is supposed to help. I have been taking b complex and magnesium since the mc.
I had been worried about mine as they were 23 - 25 days before the mc. I thought my luteul phase was too short to conceive, but that seems like it was ok, although obviously not carried yet so maybe still an issue lurking there.

Nitnat10 · 16/05/2016 22:45

I take pre-pregnancy multi-vits but otherwise nothing specific.
I had 3 cycles in a row with a 7 day luteal phase (the frustration of a 48 day cycle and only a 7 day lp is some next level anxiety inducing witchery) when I started temping for ttc #2, which did worry me (I fell pregnant with DD1 the month I started temping so had no idea if that was 'normal' for me). But then got a bfp two cycles later (mc) and cycle after mc went to 11 days so we'll see if that stabilises.
Clearly my body is all over the place, so will feel relieved if I can see a dr about it.

jpeg28 · 17/05/2016 07:01

Happy birthday whatshername hope you have a lovely day!

I do temp Miami... Temp was up 0.3 today so hoping that's enough to signify ov. Temps have been all over the place since MC. We dtd sat sun mon... I just hope that's enough! I'm also trying to be super healthy. I know there is nothing I can do now but wait.

Good luck seeing the doctor nitnat. Hope they have some quick answers for you. Before my MC my cycles were normal and now after they are long but I'm hoping our bodies just take a while to get back to normal.

AmyB1986 · 17/05/2016 08:14

Happy birthday whatshername hope you have a lovely day.

Nitnat my lp varies between 11 & 14 days although they say that the lp is fairly consistent mine isn't. I do t know what it varies.

Fertility friend has changed my o date and cover line this morning so I'm only 6dpo not 8 according to that now which does correlate more accurately with my other signs and the pain I had cd13 is where it is now saying I o'd. Trusting it as I don't know anymore than my temp rise and cm this month. Usually by 6dpo I start having cramps but I'm not this time. Hoping this is a good sign that my cycle is normal again, sure the cramps were some after effect of the mc.

Brenna24 · 17/05/2016 08:27

Nitnat. No experience sorry.

Glad you are feeling more normal Amy

Happy birthday for today What.

DDog and I slept through the night and I didn't have to mop the floors this morning. He didn't explode on his walk either. I am trying him with boiled rice for breakfast. Hopefully I won't have to mop the lfoors when I get home from work.

AmyB1986 · 17/05/2016 13:10

Brenna glad your dog is feeling better. My cat is in the bad books, I got up to a dead wood pigeon half eaten on my conservatory floor! I hate it when they kill birds, mice are fine but birds no. It seriously makes me want to re-home them Sad

Brenna24 · 17/05/2016 13:37

At least she ate part of it, instead of just killing it to create an art installation. I never feel quite so bad when they do it for food.

Waitingformiracles · 17/05/2016 17:49

Nitnat I have really long cycles too although mine come and go. One month it could last 33 days the next 63 days which is so frustrating. The shortest cycle I've ever had in my life was 29 days and the longest 70. I know they get thrown off if I'm stressed but strangely it's normally the next cycle not the current one that is affected but apart from that I haven't a clue. I'm in my mid 20s and have never been on hormonal contraception in my life and eat well and exercise so no idea what's causing it. I haven't posted on here for a while as it's so frustrating and as you say it feels like you have less chances to ttc in a year.

Amy and Brenna DH is trying to persuade me to get a pet but you've reminded why I'm not keen....Grin

Happy birthday whatshername!

Brenna24 · 17/05/2016 18:09

Grin waiting There is no better preparation for parenting than having pets. I am not even phased by waking up to find out the house has been pebbledashed.

5tardusty · 17/05/2016 19:06

Waving to all of you. I'm so bored of this non cycle now. 31 days since medi mgmt and still waiting for... Anything. Absolutely nothing about my boring flipping lazy incompetent ovaries to report but i am lurking!

AmyB1986 · 17/05/2016 19:39

Waiting I agree with Brenna and you're right at least she ate some of it!

5tar hope af shows soon for you.

I've cleaned the house and washed all the bedding today, it was very sweaty work. My skin is awful as well, broken out in teenage style acne. Massive sore spots it's horrid. I didn't really get spots as a teenager but they've gotten worse as I've got older.