TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

Nitnat my cycles are longer post-MC, but because I got pregnant straight after I stopped taking the pill I'm not sure that's anything other than my body adjusting to it's own rhythm rather than an artificially induced one. My cycle norm is now 31-33 days, and I have a latish OV within that at CD 19-21, which gives me like you about two weeks of proliferative phase once AF stops and nearly two weeks of luteal phase after OV. I'm becoming more accepting of that though as my moods are more positive off the pill than previously on it, and particularly in the proliferate phase. There are plusses of that being long too, like more time when I feel unpressurised by TTC and am motivated to do other things. I also notice I'm calm and contented in the luteal phase now. Currently CD25 and no sign of PMS (yet)!

AF is being a bit weird. Can anyone relate? It was spotty yesterday, still light today but darker blood than normal and thinner. Is that because it's likely to be anovulatory? It's been stringy/mucousy but not clotty.

I can also get away with a pantyliner but that is fairly normal for me. Possibly it's slightly lighter than normal still, hard to tell.

Hi Bertie, mine was the same this month - not sure what it means. I googled brown discharge (sorry tmi) and a lot came up saying if it came in place of period it could be 'Implantation bleeding' so I got momentarily excited and took a test but it was negative. It then lasted longer that what googling said it would - was def lighter and darker than normal though x

Thanks for the birthday wishes everyone! Had a lovely day but haven't tested. Because of my crazy post miscarriage cycles af could arrive anytime so going to wait until I'm 'late late'.

Nah it's not brown for me, it's definitely fresh red blood, it's just more like blood from a cut than period blood if that makes sense? Not so tissuey. Like there isn't much womb lining.

I could be imagining things though! Maybe I should go back to using my cup. I am not used to using pads so maybe that's why.

Glad you had a good birthday whatsername, I wouldn't have tested either, I don't think I'd ever want to test till I was pretty sure it would be a BFP!
waiting have ranged from 28 to 56 days myself, but before I started taking the pill was pretty much dead on 29 all the time, and for the period I was off the pill, was regular until the crazy long cycle in which i conceived. So this long cycle business seems new to me. Sort of reassuring to have a long cycle buddy though, even if I wouldn't really wish it on anyone.
Lucky I'm the opposite, the pill was great for me, was much more even tempered and liked my predictable cycle. But I like your sanguine attitude, I should take a leaf out of your book and be a bit more zen about it!
Amy am holding my breath since our move as our cats have got a cat flap again for the first time in two years, so expecting "gifts" to appear any day now...Glad your dog is feeling better Brenna

Waves to 5tardusty. I hope AF turns up soon.

Amy I had awful acne as a teenager. Luckily it has cleared up over the years and I am quite glad to have got it over with by now.

No idea bertie

Glad you have a good birthday Whats. I think you are right about waiting to test.

I didn't have to mop the floors when I got home from work today. DDog is definitely on the mend and had some boiled rice and chicken for dinner.

I forgot to phone the clinic today, oops. Oh well, will have to phone tomorrow.

I have googled the blood and it's nothing particularly worrying so I'm sure it's fine, just a bit weird.

Amy in my first few weeks pg my skin was awful!!! And since then it's so much worse than it ever was before. As a teenager I never got spots and now I get them all the time.

5tardusty hope af is just around the corner.

So my temps didn't rise today... They dipped. So fertility friend doesn't think I ovulated. I did have to get up in the night a couple of times so maybe that affected it?? And woke up loads as my bf was talking in his sleep!!

On another note... My nipples are sooooo sore!!! Any one else had this around ovulation??? I had it last time I was pg but it's way too early for symptoms!

Jpeg what CD are you? You could just be a late ovulation and the nipples are just another crazy symptom.
Have you seen anything on boards about Agnes cactus? From what I have read it is supposed to help regulate ovulation and get your cycle back on track.
I feel all weird and crampy today. Due to ovulate any time now. Can I do OPK's in the morning? I think I saw posted that should be later in the day but i drink lots and lots of water at work so just don't think I would manage to OPK later.
Worried we have missed my surge as DH and I are still a bit all over the place with dtd.
Today was supposed to be my 12 week scan.

Miami I'm cd26 now I think. Positive OPK on cd23. It's my first real cycle so that's why I've ov late I guess. The temp has worried me though. I suppose only time will tell!

Sorry that today was your scan... I was a mess the day that it was supposed to be mine. Make sure you treat yourself somehow!

JPEG I get sore nipples and my boobs feel hot and really full but by 6-7 dpo they go back to normal. I also get a temp dip sometimes 2-3 dpo it's a fallback rise. Your temp will probably sort itself out again tomorrow morning. All sorts can affect your temp, I find when I've had a restless nights sleep or I've got up in the night my temp is a bit lower in the morning.

Miami I took opk's throughout the day, I did one at 10, 2 and between 6 & 9pm depending on what time I got home from work at. I hope you're ok, reaching significant dates is really tough.

My skin is even worse this morning. It's all greasy and the spots are really sore and painful to touch. Looked back on my chart for last month and I had a skin breakout a few days after ovulation before I got af as well, must be hormonal changes attacking my skin.
I had no gifts from my cats this morning, they were both asleep in their beds when I got up, don't blame them it's chucking it down here. Good for the garden but not for hunting cats.

Hugs Miami. My 12 week scan was supposed to be on the 10th anniversary of Dad's death. I was really looking forward to something positive on the day.

Take it easy on yourself today Miami these milestones are really tough.

jpeg (my phone wants to autocorrect your name to Josef!) I've had sore nipples from ov until AF ever since my mc. Don't remember it being an AF symptom before mc but then I pay more attention to my body now.

Bertie I've had a watery period since mc. Definitely not the 1st or 2nd, they were very heavy but perhaps the 3rd, can't quite remember.

Feel really teary this morning for no good reason. Might have to listen to some ballads & get it all out. AF due in 5 days so no doubt pmt getting an early start.

Hello all,

As you know got my BFP this week at 12dpo ( supedrug) which was quite clear, did a test on day 13 and 14 too, these were different tests from sainsburys but they were really faint. I was a bit worried so i bought a digital which also said pregnant and made me believe it was real. Today my actual period is due and I've started bleeding lightly and feel a little crampy. Do you think this is the end? Is it worth even going to the GP?
So disappointing as last time I had an early bleed which stopped and then started again at 10 weeks leading up to the mmc. I can't go through that again if this is going the same way. Or maybe it's just a chemical.
Feeling sad.

Hi Clarity. Sorry you are going through this. The sainsburys ones are less sensitive and will be fainter, so don't worry about that. The cramping and bleeding may be something or nothing. I had that last month and it ramped up and turning into a miscarriage, plenty of other people get it and it turns out to be nothing. Unfortunately there is not much they can do if it is. Last month I just went to bed for the 2 days I was cramping and bleeding and hoped it was going to pass if I rested.

I hope it is ok for you and just one of those things - I have one friend who bled through every successful pregnancy (in one pregnancy several times she was hospitalised the bleeding was so heavy) and miscarried the ones she didn't bleed in if that helps.

Hi clarity.
Sorry you are going through this, it just be so difficult for you. If it helps in any small way at all loads of people have bleeds at 4, 8 and 12 weeks (when AF is due) before the progesterone is gone so high that every part of your body realises you are preggers. It is very common. Definitely worth checking your levels I think, both your hcg and progesterone as there are fixes if they are the problem (or at least a try to fix, won't help if still other underlying problems). But I suppose at least then if you have to have an argument with a doctor to get tests it gives you something to focus on other than the worry. My sister has had 4 healthy pregnancies and felt like getting AF for the first three months with all of them.
I do hope you are ok. Try to stay calm and best of luck with it.

Sorry to hear that Miami and Brenna. That must have been really tough. I would defo do something to treat yourself - this business is really rough on us

JPEG I've never tracked ovulation but I do think I ovulate late. I know they say there should be a temp drop but there could be other variables so I would just focus on dtd every other day. It's more difficult to relax when temping and OPKs and that can sometimes stop the body conceiving.

Clarity sorry to hear that but I back what Brenna says. It could be something or nothing although can appreciate how tough it will be. Try not to worry (I hate it when people say that) and do bed rest if you can. I would still go to the docs. Even if it's bad news it will be recorded on your records and that's important.

Clarity I do hope everything is ok for you. When I started bleeding lightly with my MC I posted on the glow app community and sooooooo many people replied saying how they had bled in their pregnancies. I know that might not help and j can imagine you are feeling really anxious and down but fingers crossed you get your hcg done in your blood tests and everything is fine.

Sorry af got you mrs fingers crossed for next month!

I had a break from dtd last night. I'm so not used to dtd this much!! I'll go again tonight just in case. My cervix feels lower but still soft and still have ewcm so must still be fertile.

Thank you for all your support it really does help when you feel so alone.
I text my partner but I'm kind of dreading him coming home and having to talk about it.
Been through one tampon already, this now feels like a normal period. I'm so angry about it, I can't even cry yet. At the moment I feel like I want to just pretend this ever happened (all irrational). I know this is the end of the pregnancy, I can just feel it but thank you for your optimism Brenna, Mrs, Miami and JPEG. At the moment I can't ever envisage me and my partner having a baby. I'm sure the anger will subside.
Thanks again, so good to have others to sound off too. I think I will see the GP next week, although it's 'only' the second time I want to make sure i flag it up. I'm not even sure I would tell my partner if I got pregnant again. I feel like such a failure when it ends and he gets his hopes up.

Sorry clarity. Id still contact the GP. You have got a positive test so they should do bloods to confirm either way.

So sorry Clarity. Huge hugs.

Sorry Clarity :( I know it's shit but in some ways one step closer to getting answers I suppose?