TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

Oh dear Kate naughty boyfriend!!!

That's such a good way of looking at it. I'm not behind. They are all getting married so it won't be long and hopefully they will never experience this! But I'm doing the kids before marriage thing and they all think I'm crazy!! We aren't that young, all 29/30 but I'm the first to even think about having kids. I can understand why they don't talk about it with me as it I just not in their lives right now and they have no idea!! As soon as they start temping every day and worrying that I'm not completely lying still is my temp accurate... They'll understand!!

Also hope you have a nice day with your aunt and uncle. That's such a sad story. What a strong woman she must be!

That is so sad Kate. And makes me realise and appreciate all the blessings we have in our lives. She must love him a great deal.

I'm tempted to throw everything out the freezer and start again. Got so many odds and ends in there! I would have to tell a porkie to DH though and say the freezer defrosted...

Sounds like a great idea Cheeky! I've just gutted our bedroom and on hands and knees washing floors! Don't know what's gotten into me! Also.... This is the darkest OPK I've had this month... Does it mean just maybe I'm close to ovulating??

jpeg you could be close to ov. My last ovulation spike came out of nowhere; the tests were very faint then one morning just went vv dark, it was unmistakeable. That lasted two days then back to v faint again. Your surge might be more gradual but i'd look for a very dark one to confirm.

I hope it's coming!

Thanks 5tardusty I am going to take a few today! Shame bf is playing bloody cricket AGAIN all day! We dtd yesterday morning though so hopefully that's ok and the minute he is home I hope he still has energy left!! If I am... Two weeks today we are off to Italy. So I'll test before we leave!

JPEG my ov tests last month looked like yours a couple of days before I got a super positive. I've included a progression pic for you xx

Thanks so much Amy I just took another one and it's clearly positive! This is the first time! Will I be too late if we dtd tonight??

Just go for it jpeg. The egg can survive 24 hours after ovulation and it just takes the one sperm to meet the one egg!!

Go for it jpeg, normally I ovulate with the first positive according to my temps but the surge carries on for around 24 hours after I ovulate. For most people though the surge starts 24-36 hours before ovulation. I think I probably start during the night hence the ovulation (temp spike) the next day.

Thanks everybody. We have a shortlist of places but as it's something we've talked about for a while it's good to finally commit to doing it and decide when! Hope you're all having good weekends.

Good luck Jpeg!

Thank you everyone, early days but so reassuring to know I can get pregnant again especially as I will be 39 when this baby is born, if all goes to plan.

Cheeky - it's very bittersweet, I've lost all my pregnant naivety. My partner is so pleased but we are both saying 'let's wait and see how it works out' rather than 'we are going to have a baby'. I won't relax until I get past the 12 week scan when I found out about the mmc last time. I would definitely speak to your mum no one understands more than your mum. Pregnancy and misscarriage shouldn't be a secret in my view.

JPEG - don't give up, I found the cheap OPKs never worked for me and my temperature never had the sustained rise for three days. I'm not sure I did it correctly but I was starting to think I didn't ovulate at all. The only different thing we did thing month was using the fertility gel and DP starting the male pre -contraception vitamins.

Here's to more May or summer BFPs.

I'm crampy and moody. Pretty sure af is on the way which would make another 24 day cycle. Feel very down today

congratulations clarity! May is clearly a lucky month.

brenna glad your appointment's come through. I find it reassuring to know that recurrent miscarriage referrals can be processed quickly as depending on what happens if and when I fall again, I may be joining you.

cheeky that's a really strong dark line now, I didn't have one that clear with either of my pregnancies. Hope it's a good early sign of a healthy pregnancy!

I've been soaking up the sun this weekend having read that vitamin D is good for regulating hormone levels. It's definitely left me feeling more relaxed and contented anyway. I'm now 2 dpo, temp shot up to 36.9 this morning which is very high for this early in my tww. Maybe that's just because of the warmer weather though.

Everything crossed for you Bertie.

Great news Kate.

Luckily we have company in here JPEG. I have friends and family who are either in a similar situation or are not scared to ask and talk about things, so I am less isolated and very lucky really.

Congratulations Charity. Best of luck. I hope you don't follow my lead.

Your poor Mum Cheeky. I am sure she will be a good support.

That sounds horrible Amy. Hugs.

Kate, I hope your day with your relatives wasn't too hard (and that your boyfriend isn't under the patio .

So sorry Whats. I hope next month is your month.

I have been trying to get lots of sun too Lucky.

DDog has been very poorly today. My god mother was here friday and saturday evenings learning how to bake a cake and decorate it for her church party today. She brought tons of chicken for him both days and fed him lots of other crap. We woke up this morning to Poomageddon in the house. Poor DDog has been exploding regularly all day ever since, each time I took him out and then in the flat as soon as we got back in too. I have a blister from scrubbing the floors.

We also went to the allotment and planted lots of stuff today. We have peas and beans and sprouts and rainbow cauliflower in the ground. Wednesday evening I am going to do the leeks and maybe some pumpkins. This is going to be a good year on the allotment.

Hello all,

I've been lurking for the past week and thought I should introduce myself. I'm 36, had a mmc 5 weeks ago. Still waiting for af. This would have been my first, and really I've only just started trying, but the mc caught me by surprise. It's been good to read about other people's stories and you seem like a nice group of ladies. I'm single, going the iui route. So just waiting for af to come and start over again. Having some good day's with the the bad ones. Sometimes that thought of 'but I'm supposed to be pregnant right now...' that thought rears its ugly head. So I pick up my iPad and come here for reassurance that not all is lost. Hope you all had a good weekend. .

Welcome Karen and so sorry for your loss.
I hope your af returns soon!

Brenna your poor dog!!! Poomagedon!!! The allotment sounds great! I really want to get into planting veggies!
OPK is very positive today! Had left sided pain last night, never had ovulation pain before and I'm worried it's all in my head! Temp dipped today so fingers crossed that means ovulation! We dtd sat and sun... So hope bf is full of energy when I get home from work later!

Hi and welcome Karen. So sorry you are here. That must be hard going through this without a partner too . Come and join the madness here.

That sounds like ovulation to me. I'd definitely get on it tonight too. The allotment is great but a lot of work. totally worth it when the veggies come flooding in though.

DDog is still not quite right this morning. And quite put out that he has missed dinner and breakfast hasn't appeared either. Poor wee soul.

I bet home grown veg tastes so much better!!
A friend at work just told me his wife is pregnant. I could have crumbled to the ground!! Happy... But not!

Welcome Karen. I'm sorry for your loss. I have that 'I'm supposed to be pregnant now thought' too. Less often but around any significant pre-planned events where I'd anticipated being pregnant it's particularly bad. Being here and focussing on conceiving again and believing that next time will be better helps though. Good luck

Managing to not symptom spot this 2ww so for once I'm taking it easy and not driving myself mad. All out of Amazon cheapies too so no poas until a missed AF.

We have just had a week of epic weather, when I was supposed to be on maternity leave and I am stuck inside at work. The level of unfair is through the roof. All I can hear is my Mum's voice in my head saying "Life isn't fair". I wish it was still only unfair over ice cream.

Hugs Jpeg. Your time will come.

I think my period has started! Hurrah!

Congratulations Bertie.

It is funny we are either desperately wanting our periods to not show, or we are wanting them to show. Life is weird.

Hi All,

I've posted before on one of the earlier threads and then been lurking on an off here and finally caught up on your news.
brenna so sorry you're going through a tough time, I'd seen your positive news when lurking a while ago and was then so sad for you when it all changed.
I had a real feeling I'd catch on the last cycle, we'd dtd a lot at the right times and i felt like I could sense it so it then felt so crushing when AF came! I came back from the loo and was on a conference call with work and nearly burst into tears :(
kate and cheeky and any others I've missed - so very happy before you, whilst lurking I'd seen some of your messages kate in the 2ww and was so hopeful for you so am glad it's a +ve result and you're getting help.
I do understand how it can be daunting too

I'm going to really try this cycle, have bought some conceive plus, going to cut out drink and caffeine but if nothing I'm going to go and see the doc as it will have been 10 months since my MC (did bleed for 3 months after though)

Good luck to all those waiting/trying/hoping - really understand how tough it is with all the baby news around...i feel like my little sis will tell me soon the she's pg and i know i'll find it so tough whereas i want to be happy for her when it happens for her (she's 8 years younger than me)