TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

Wow congratulations Hopeful!!!! That's so exciting! Two BFPs in a week! Keep them coming!!!

Thanks hopeful... I'm trying not to think about it but can't help it at the moment as it's just new. Hopefully I'll be able to put it to the back of my mind and just carry throwing myself into work etc. Hopefully the time will pass better that way. On that note I need to get dressed for work! What are you up to today? I'm going to phone the midwife service and get booked in as last time they were so busy and they said people should phone as soon as they know so they can get the relevant Appts at the right stages. I'm so happy for you hopeful, and here you were thinking you needed to consider IVF !

Grapefruit sorry I missed your good news before, I was caught up in my own situation worrying about my cycle being messed up etc. Congratulations and nausea and exhaustion all seem like encouraging signs!

Congratulations to the BFPs :) Try not to worry too much - easier said than done I know!

Mini rant - DH always seems to be flipping poorly when it's my fertile window. Last month he had a stinking cold and really didn't feel like it, and this time I got a positive OPK today and he's got thrush (sorry for TMI - He's diabetic and is prone to it due to sugar fluctuations.) Grrr.

DTD on Tuesday so MAYBE there's a small chance a few little spermies are still floating around in there when I OV!?!

Thanks everyone. I really appreciate your kind words. And thanks cheeky! I was looking into loans for IVF. God hope I don't need to. Today I've got a busy day at work then date night with my boyfriend.

Let me know how you get on with more tests. I'm going to try again tomorrow eve. Afternoon wee seems stronger for me for some reason...

Congratulations Kate and good luck! I knew May was going to be a lucky month!

MissClarke sperm can live that long, especially during your fertile week when conditions are right so hopefully you've still got some waiting around!

Congratulations Kate!!

Hi there
I have been lurking with you ladies since my Mmc on 26th April. I just wanted to say congratulations to all the BFP's. I am sitting here at my kitchen table having a cry as you have all given me such hope for the future. You must be terrified but stay positive (literally) the stats are with you. Wishing you all the best for stress free 9 months.

I am so impatient for either signs that o has happened or AF to turn up. I just really feel like I want my body back a small bit. I temp and in the last few days it has been up and down crazily (I think it is crazy hormones still lurking iykwim), also last night I finally plucked up the courage to do a HPT hoping for it to be BFN so I would know I had some chance of ovulating. But it was faintly pos and that just sucks. I have done some OPK's but there doesn't seem any point whilst HPT is still showing pos. Any advice? How long did it take you all to get back to a bit of a normal cycle. Oh also I had a medical miscarriage. Thanks

Congratulations Kate. At this rate we are going to need to have a virtual alcohol free party for all the good news. Everything crossed for you my lovely.

Welcome Miami. So sorry you are here. Please stay and enjoy the madness though. I differs from person to person. I go straight into a normal cycle the moment the worst of the bleeding and cramps are over. Even if I am still bleeding lightly. I haven't done an HPT sooner than a week after each miscarriage started but in each case it was already BFN by then. You can go into a cycle with traces of HCG in your body, so don't give up hope yet.

My temperature was up a bit this morning and the ovulation pains stopped yesterday evening. We DTD before bedtime so hopefully we are in for a chance this month.

I had the funniest thing happen in tescos last night. I went there on the way home from volunteering to pick up everything I needed for the cakes today. At one of the aisle ends I turned back towards the beginning as I had forgotten something and nearly bumped into this guy. Said sorry and smiled and headed off to look in the cookware bit. Coming back up I bumped into him in the middle aisle, then again by the butters, then up at the icing sugar he came up and asked if I was baking a cake this weekend. My trolley had 2 big bags of flour, 2 of sugar, 4 of butter, 3 packs of eggs, icing etc. I laughed and said I'd been dumb and booked two in for this weekend. He said he was a chef, then started chatting away and asking questions about me. By now I have twigged that he is not just a very friendly american (from Atlanta, Georgia apparently). Thankfully he then asked if I still lived with my parents, so I was able to say "No, my husband" and get that vital piece of info into the conversation. I was feeling a bit fat and frumpy and useless with the weight I have put on from the first pregnancy that I can't seem to shift, plus the miscarriages themselves, but I feel a bit younger and more like myself again now. DH was very amused when I picked him up from dropping off the minibus we use to transport the kids and told him about it. The guy was really quite hot as well .

Welcome Miami. I'm sorry about your loss but there's lots of support here, and some positivity as you can see from recent posts!
Took me 5 weeks from mc to next AF but still not back to a fully normal cycle 4 months later, cycles are shorter and having symptoms I've not noticed before. before AF. Miscarried naturally at just shy of 11 weeks. It is different for everybody though. Have you had follow-up scans to make sure it has completed?

Go Brenna clearly you have got it going on right now! My regular parcel delivery man has a crush on me and is wearing more and more aftershave at each delivery which is starting to choke me when I open the door!

First month of temping is proving to be quite fun. Temp spiked this morning after a text book 3 day dip. It's quite interesting to see the pattern. Managed to dtd every other day since cd9 until yesterday, today is cd18 so hopefully that's enough. My sex drive has been through the roof this cycle though so I could happily have done every day if I didn't think it'd kill my poor DP.

In other positive news as I can't tell anybody IRL we're eloping in October! We want to be married but we're both really introverted so don't fancy a proper wedding. Our only option is nobody or everybody as otherwise people would get offended so we're opting for nobody and doing it in Autumn, my favourite time of year. Would LOVE to have a bump by then, are you listening universe?!

Thanks insufficiently and brenna.
Laughing at being stalked around the supermarket brenna. Always good for a wee boost of confidence. All this stuff can make me feel a bit frumpy if that makes sense. Also like I am not working correctly as a woman therefore why would DH fancy me. I know that is just emotions and hormones talking but it can really knock your confidence.
I am so excited about your elopement insufficiently. We got married in October last year and it was amazing. I love an Autumn wedding. And great to have something to split the focus from all this stuff too, it feels like it could easily become all I think about.
I have decided that we are going to do up our garden for the next few months.
And I feel a big af'ey today so for once I am hoping that she does raise her ugly head.
Thanks for the welcome.

My goodness this thread has moved on!There's some BFPs and a wedding (maybe a BFP there too soon!) congratulations!

Finally stopped bleeding (god, this forum is the only acceptable place to announce that!) I got a positive OPk last thursday. I'm symptom spotting like a mad woman - I just don't feel right. Testing Monday unless AF arrives.

IC that is so exciting. Best of luck for the wedding. I hope you are waddling in . Where are you going to go for it? I am laughing at the parcel delivery guy and the aftersahve. That is hilarious. I was tempted by a september wedding but DH really wanted May, so we went for that. In the end we had a second wedding out in Italy in September(was supposed to be a blessing Mass for his grandparents just after our wedding but his parents got a bit carried away), so we each got what we wanted.

I hope the garden turns out lovely Miami. I want to move from our flat to a house with a garden. That is the plan for this year. Then next year I can do up our garden. Fingers crossed the witch gets you.

Congratulations on the BFPs kate and cheeky. How are you feeling about it? Is it hard to get excited or are you able to forget about the worries and enjoy it?

Completely opposite for me. I got my BFN today. I'm really pleased as my MC has been going on for 5 weeks now and it feels like the end might be in sight. Still bleeding a fair amount though so hoping that will stop soon too.

Did everyone here wait for a missed period to try again. I will probably get back to DTD as soon as bleeding stops but when I had my CP in December I did't O the month after so think that I will need to wait until my next period to reset myself so to speak.

Enjoy your weekends.

So many great messages!! A wedding! How exciting!!

Ants I started TTC straight after I stopped bleeding but I didn't dtd that much. I know everyone is different but I quite like that I had af so that I knew my days... Even though my cycle is still screwed up!

So this week has been pretty rubbish for me. Argued with OH about loads of nonsense and then yesterday he tells me he has lost his passport two weeks before we are going on holiday... And he wonders why I'm annoyed!!! Haven't dtd all week. My temps are still low so definitely didn't ovulate this month. It's cd22 and I'm feeling really af'y today. Just a general ache down there! Also... My Cm is quite heavy and creamy... Sorry for the tmi! Is this a sign af is coming??

I hope everyone is enjoying the sun!

Congratulations Kate! Wishing you a very healthy and happy pregnancy

Oh and congratulations insufficiently! So much on this thread!

I hope all of you have got lovely weekends planned. I'm glossing the stairs (yay...) and going to a probably cloudy bbq. Should be fun though!

CM has gone v sticky today. Do you think we're safe to knock dtd on the head for a few days? Bit worried about feeling like we havent done enough when AF eventually comes a-calling, but OPKs and CM both say not fertile just now.

Hi everyone. I've been lurking for a while but wanted to say a massive congratulations to cheeky and Kate. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months

Aw Thankyou. I missed my opportunity to test with FMU this morn so will wait for tomorrow now.

Wow congrats cheeky and kate! I had a feeling we were due some BFPs again. You're both a good advert for the relaxed approach to TTC, hope you can keep taking one day at a time xx

I'm now about 1dpo going by temps and OPKs. I'm now wondering if I should put more weight on the temps as I seem to get a reliable dip around OV that doesn't exactly correlate with OPKs but last time we caught the dip (march) I got pregnant. Caught it again this time but will have to wait to see whether the dip theory is right ..

Also congrats insufficiently!! Eloping sounds very romantic and couples I know who've chosen to get married that way have always seemed very happy with the choice xx

Congrats insufficiently!!

Thanks lucky. Just shows that everyone will fall preg sooner or later. Zx

I feel so anxious trying to forget about it but it's not working. Anyone got any advice?

Thanks so so much for everyone's kind words and congratulations!!!

I still don't want to believe it. I am suspicious of every twinge. I don't mean to sound ungrateful but it's just tough to think it will all be ok after everything. I think I'll feel better when I know my HCG levels are rising. I saw my consultant yesterday who ordered the bloods and I went this morning, and I'll go again on Monday. I'll let you know how I get on. How are you Cheeky??

How is everyone else? Good weekends ahead!

Xxx

And congratulations IC!!!! That sounds v romantic! Xx