TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

It is very normal to feel sad and scared after what we have been through. I hope that everything goes smoothly for you. The tests are not quantitative and it is mid afternoon so I woulnd't worry about what the line looks like. Too many variables can change things there. I would tell him, you are going to need the support whatever happens. Jsut be prepared, Dh wasn't very enthusiatic when I showed his my positive test last month. He just kind of muttered "It's not that strong, we will wait and see." Admittedly he was in bed ill at the time but I was a bit flattened by that. I think also he needed some space from it in case what did happen happened.

I will need someone to supply me with plenty of ice packs for my fanjo for the next few days. I texted DH saying I had ovulation pains and he relied "Ready for tonight " I am going to be raw and flattened by the end of this month.

I understand how you feel cheeky and i think i will be just the same. I'd advise going to a GP you trust and explaining the anxiety is causing you problems. They should hopefully refer you for an early scan and they may have you back every couple of weeks.

As we know, it only tells you about today, not tomorrow but at least you won't have to wait until 12 weeks. I am really hoping i am able to get that level of support if i am lucky enough to fall pregnant again.

Haha brenna i salute you! Here's to conception!

Go Brenna!!! Sounds like a plan!!!

Glad you are feeling better Mrs. I seem to get random cramps at all parts of the month now. I don't remember them from before. I think this is down to actually paying attention now. I'm off home to walk DDog and clean the kitchen and bathroom floors, then do a respite group for disabled kids. Then I ought to be making icing elephants and doves for tomorrow and saturday. I suspect DH may bash me over the head and haul me off to be before I get the chance to do those.

Brenna you do make me laugh!! Ice packs!!
Cheeky I agree... Go to the docs and get a blood test and then you'll know for sure although the line isn't that faint. Take it a day at a time. And try to relax... Although I know that must be hard! You deserve a healthy 9 months!!

thanks girls.

Yes lots more BfPs!! It won't be me... Caved and took 3 OPKs today... All negative yet my cervix is high soft and open and has been for a few days. Ahhhh I hate my body sometimes!! Wine and take away tonight I think!

I've made an appt for doctors next Friday. Don't want to get ahead of myself so hoping I can and will just take it a day at a time.

Really hope you can join me now. I feel like it's all a lie as it was a missed miscarriage discovered at 12 weeks last time and I just don't know how I can assume I'm pregnant? Just need to take it easy and forget about it , focus on work!

Take it easy Cheeky the chances are this will be a completely fine pregnancy. See what they say at the doctors Friday. Get them to take bloods. You'll be fine

Cheeky just to say being nervous is totally normal. I had private bloods done at 4/5 weeks to check hcg rising. Then private scan at 6w and 8w. An NHS one at 9+2 (spotting and cramps) and another private one at 10+3 (but measuring 11). My 12w scan is next week at 12+3. So 2 almost a week until the next scan and I'm petrified again! I'm trying to relax, after next week we won't have another scan until 16w so I need to relax.
Just to put it in perspective for you - you won't be going as loopy as me! I had a mmc too and the thought of another one hunts me but we've got further than the baby was growing last time.

Really hope there's lots more BFPs this month. Still lurking here as the support here is unbelievable and if Loki is lurking, I hope you're ok too.

Thanks Jo , that's so comforting to know. My DH is against early scans etc but he said if I want one this time then that's fine. I read your message out to him!

Congratulations cheeky!!

Jo so glad everything is going well going well for you.

Mrs I get random cramps during my lp too but like Brenna said before I think I must have got them before but wasn't really paying attention then.

I think I'm 1dpo now going by the cramping feelings I had yesterday. Temp has gone up a bit but no confirmed ov on my temps yet. Feeling shattered and ready for a rest now. Can't stop blowing off again, only since I've had that massage! It's really embarrassing

Gosh so much to catch up on today! Thank you for all your kind wishes. Congrats cheeky very exciting news, stay positive!! Brenna I burst out laughing when I read your post haha brilliant. Is there anyone else on here who is roughly same stage pregnancy as me? 8&2 tomorrow if all is correct...

Hi Jo. Congratulations at nearly being 12 weeks now. That has flown. Glad all is still going well.

I would have been Grapefruit.

Congrats cheeky! Understandable you're feeling nervous. Got everything crossed for you.

Brenna - sounds like a good plan re your posh hotel weekend away.

CD4 here and it's going so slow. Expecting my period in a weeks time. Have felt random cramps as well but who knows what it could be.

Morning all

I write this with so much caution and fear but yesterday I got my BFP too!!! I got a v faint one on Tuesday which I ignored as I had a chemical a few months ago but yesterday's was significantly darker. I'm thrilled but like you Cheeky frightened. I'm going to lurk here for a while if that's ok as I find you all so brilliant and supportive. Argh!!!! Please universe!!

Oh and I won't and don't believe this until I get a Clearblue Digital positive. I have only tested with a FRER and have been here before sadly. Here is the latest at CD26 of 26/28 day cycles.

Congrats hopeful!! That's such great news! We can hopefully get through this together... Like you though I'll be testing again in a few days and hoping for a darker line.

Hopeful your line is significantly darker than mine.... I am worried as I was 4 days late yesterday when I tested on an superdrug early, but it wasn't FMU. I think I'll test again tomorrow morning with FMU.

Cheeky, they are different tests, with different amounts of dye in, and bodies are different. When I got my faint on Tuesday I did loads of research and it put my mind at ease. A line is a line, so they say. And yours is a pink clear line. We may need to keep each other calm! I am worrying constantly about my age, history, etc. Gonna book myself into yoga and seeing my consultant will help, if I get that far...