April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

[duckyisback]

Do you think he'll crack and get it done lulu?

Cupcake he sounds lovely. A gentleman is exactly what you deserve. There is a 22 year age difference between me and my boyfriend.

Ds is loving pre school! Had my appt with the solicitor today to hand in statements about all the abuse I suffered from stbxh, it was something like 17 pages long, and I had photographic evidence of some. I just want all this to go away!

[Cupcake92]

Wow ducky that's a lot of evidence which is great! I'm sure this will all go the way you want it! :)

It's my birthday today!
Kids are at their dads last night so I'm like all alone for the first time on my birthday :( and it sucks. I was also menna go out for dinner and drinks tomorrow but everyone had forgot and can't make it :/

[duckyisback]

Happy birthday cupcake!!!

That sucks about everyone forgetting have a large wine and stick a movie on, that's my fave thing to do!

[Cupcake92]

Thanks ducky! I did have a large wine and my 'friend' came over
He also came with me to my procedure yesterday. He was amazing. Saw him today for a coffee too.
I really like this guy, but I've no idea if he's wanting a relationship or just fun or what?

[duckyisback]

There's only one way to find out cupcake! Sounds like you found yourself a good egg!!

Most people forgot my birthday too

[LuluJakey1]

Happy belated birthday both of you.

Cupcake, give him a chance but be careful, go slowly and use double contraception- whatever you are on and a condom. Take your time really getting to know him so if he turns out to be a wrong'un you haven't over-invested.

DS is at nursery and DD had her breakfast and is asleep again. It is bliss. I am having a cup of coffee before I start making some curtains. I bought some amazing Voyage material on a market stall and am making it into full length curtains for our front room. It is a bit of a challenge but is keeping my brain active. I might get an hour before DD wakes up - she had a bad night with teething.

MIL is staying with SIL at the moment so she is going to babysit tonight and DH and I are going out. Can't believe I am so excited about a meal out.

[Cupcake92]

Hello!!! Hope everyone is well?

My ex has been doing some awful awful stuff recently. Like calling social services on me and the police and everything.
Funny thing is .... him and his girlfriend broke up. Haha.
And now I'm working on him not seeing the kids as his behaviour is shocking also my 2 year old has come home seriously hurt where I've had to take him to the doctor!

Hope everything is good with everyone else

[duckyisback]

Omg cupcake sounds awful! What did he say to social services?

Court overruled and gave supervised contact in a constant centre to my ex. He's been awful to me. Had one session and ds refused to go in, refused to look/talk to him etc. He doesn't want to see dd. Now I've had the court advisors round saying they're going to advise the court that he has indirect contact only.

[Cupcake92]

Oh ducky he told them he's not happy as he believes I feed them McDonald's too often I can't even afford bloody McDonald's the idiot.
I've just started a 2nd job as money is a bit tight.

What does indirect contact mean? N surely him not wanting to see one of his children shows how irresponsible he is!

[duckyisback]

Indirect means he doesn't see them/him. Just letters etc which seems ridiculous as he can't understand them. He was 3 today.

Have been so stressed, read an article this morning (4am!) about a man who was abusive and many of his lines were the same as my exes and he killed the children. Haven't been able to sleep

Have had a speeding ticket go to court which he opened and kept for 6 months too. Just feel like everything is going his way.

Have also started to notice tendencies in my boyfriend I don't like, which I'm finding hard as I love him .

Too many mc Donald's what a pathetic excuse! Have you had ss come round?

[Cupcake92]

Ah I see. Maybe that's the best thing though?
He's seems like such an evil boy. And I say boy because he doesn't deserve to be called a man.
And happy birthday to your ds!!

As for the speeding ticket tell court he kept the letter.

What tendencies are you noticing?

I'm still seeing that guy, still taking things slowly. But we both really like each other we just don't want to rush things incase it all goes wrong! My kids like him and find him hilarious and I've met his son who is lovely, he's almost 3.
Because I've known him years he knows my exh and knows what he's like so he's really supportive of me when dealing with my exh.
Ss never came round no. They called and I was told to get them to contact my hv and since then it's all dropped

[duckyisback]

Well he made out the other night I only feed my kids mc Donald's (do they all get their lines from the same place?!) then he was a bit funny with me all night, then said he was sorry for being arsey with me it's just cus he has a cold. I mentioned it the next morning and he denies saying that, said that was just how I interpreted that and I need to learn to take a joke.

Told the courts, they dropped one of the charges but I still have to pay a £410 fine that I can no where near afford some of that is the court costs, it would had never of gone to court if I'd had the letters tho.

Sounds like you got yourself a good one cupcake!

How are all the ds's?

[Cupcake92]

Argh men! they seem so nice... then they open their mouths lol.
Just make your you put him in his place ducky and make him know your the boss.

That's so frustrating!! How do they expect people to just pluck out £410 for bloody fines!

I'm hoping he's a good one ducky. I've been having awful pains in my stomach that I can only describe like contractions. The pain comes and goes and it's awful! I'm having to have a scan done to try and see what the problem is. But I'm gonna ask him if he'll come and hold my hand

The ds's are all great thank you! Very cheeky! How are your dc's?

[duckyisback]

It's a bugger cus most the times he's lovely, he just has little episodes where he's horrible!

When is your scan?

I have court again the 18th. I think I'm going to treat myself to a piercing after!

My dc's are fine although we're all going insane, been snowed in the past 3 days, haven't got a garden or anything so ds can't go play in the snow and we're all trapped in the one room. It's driving me crazy! Hopefully we'll have rain later to clear it all away!

[Cupcake92]

My scan is the 18th of January! That was the earliest they could book me in.
I've been told it could be endometriosis or possible my body rejecting my coil but they won't know until they look at my scan when I've had it.

Oo yes, sounds good! What piercing would you get?
I'm treating myself to a tattoo next week 😂

Oh wow you must have got lots of snow! We got a little bit but nothing to brag about! It's forecast to rain so hopefully it will for your sake!

[duckyisback]

I'm going to get my medusa done, and my tounge if I'm feeling brave... probably not a good idea to get them at the same time tho! Going to get my tattoos in the new year!

So so fed up, meant to rain here but not til later and we are all going insane. I've shouted at the kids so much just so fed up of never having a break from them too. It's stressful being round them 24/7 and we're still stuck in that horrible little flat so all in the same bedroom (and bed)

[Cupcake92]

Oo I like the medusa! I've got my lover right lip done and I want the other side done as well.

Hope you managed to get out the house ducky!!!

[duckyisback]

I've gone crazy and decided to get my medusa and tongue done at the same time I've wanted my tongue done for years but never had the guts!

I got out after 3 days! Did go crazy!

[Cupcake92]

Oh wow! Bet that looks great!

I've got my tattoo tomorrow! I am beyond excited!!

I'm just sat at the hospital just now waiting to go into my scan. Hoping they find whatever is causing me pain!

[duckyisback]

Oooh what tattoo you having?

Good luck for your scan! Let me know how it goes!

[duckyisback]

Hope everything is ok cupcake

[Cupcake92]

Sorry I’ve not responded ducky!

They found out what was causing my pain! The cyst on my ovary has burst! That was where the pain was coming from. But it’s all gone now and I have no pain anymore


I’m currently feeling really run down with a cold and I’m back at work tomorrow! Not looking forward to that haha.

Hope your alright too ducky?

[duckyisback]

Glad it's sorted now! You feeling run down from that or just a cold?

I'm ok, lots of stress going on but getting used to that now 😑

[Cupcake92]

Just run down from everything ducky! It’s so hard and stressful being a single mum of 3 kids and trying to work 2 jobs and sort childcare. But I also have an awful cold too which really isn’t helping!!

I hope the stress eases for you!!

[duckyisback]

2 jobs cupcake?! You really are a super hero!

How's the new man?