April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

Yeah I’ve had to get 2 jobs just to afford everything.
I work as a healthcare assistant at the hospital and also a nursery assistant at a nursery

He’s okay, but he’s said he’s still not ready for a relationship :/

How do you feel about that?

You really are a super hero!! No idea how you do it!

I feel a little down about it but I can understand why he’s not ready. He’s been with his ex 15 years and he was so in love with her and she cheated on him. So it’s obviously going to take a bit of time to be fully over her and trust again. But I can’t wait forever. He’s so sweet and kind tho. We went out the other day for lunch and then popped into the furniture shop as he needed to order and extra bit for his sofa and was talking to the salesman and referred to me as his ‘girlfriend’ which he has never done as like I said he’s not ready to be in a relationship. I looked at him and he said ‘what?’ All nervously

Oh gosh no I’m no superhero I’m constantly exhausted haha

Maybe he's coming round to the idea then cupcake! I've had a few problems with mine this weekend

I think he may be ducky! I had such a nice night with him last night and he opened up a lot and spoke about his family and even said about me meeting his dad one day.
I’m falling for him though and it’s getting hard to stop myself.

Oh no what problems have you had ducky? :(

Sounds like he really is coming round to it then!

Well I only see him every few weeks. He goes out with these mates 1-2 times per week, when he's with them he won't even look at his phone at all, when he came round he must have put his phone down for a maximum of 2/3 minutes at a time, spent the rest of the day staring at it and messaging people. He has started showing very very little interest in me sexually at all, then I noticed he's started following all these pages of pictures and videos naked women. A few times I spoke to him and he was so busy looking at his phone he didn't even register that I spoke to him. I told him later on the night that it upset me and he got a bit defensive but then said sorry. It sucks because my anxiety has been sky high recently and it worries me, but I'm so in love with him.

Then to make things better the kids were up all night Friday, in the end he went and slept in the lounge. Then dd was up literally all night Saturday so we didn't get any time alone together at all.

When he left this evening he seemed very off

It's sucks aswell because it kind of hit me last night, I have literally no friends I have been joining groups on Facebook to try and speak to new people but it's all just a bit awkward I find

Oh ducky :( it’s hard when you really love them as you are desperate for them to stop all these stupid bits.
Next time why don’t you say to him that both your phones are going away for the night and you both have a nice evening like have a takeaway and movie etc?

I totally understand about the no friends thing! You can always talk to me tho!

That's a good idea cupcake! I'll suggest that, but there's always an excuse cus he has kids aswell I spose.

Thanks just feeling super lonely at the moment. No idea why it's been so bad recently. I think maybe I'm getting a bit of confidence back (finally!) and I'm starting to realise, the couple of people I thought I was friends with only contact me when they need something from me and actually treat me like shit too

Oh that’s awful ducky
It’s hard to find real friends these days.
Or a good decent man!

I keep hoping things will suddenly be easy, but in reality there’s always going to be something testing us but I guess that helps keep our strength up!

Yes there's always a bloody challenge! Still stuck in this horrible flat too!

I’ll admit tonight I can not cope. At all.
I’ve had a breakdown as I just want to go to sleep. I’m exhausted. My youngest is poorly so has been awake since 12am and my 2 year old is just being a little bleep and ya also woken up and refusing to go to sleep.
I have work and need to be up and out the house at 7:30am. It’s 3:15 and so far I have not even been asleep! I didn’t get to bed till 11:30 as I had work today then ds3 was so ill I had to take him to the walk in centre where we didn’t get out till 7! Then I’ve had to wash and dry school uniform as ds1’s are all dirty.

Why won’t they just sleep!!!

Oh cupcake that's awful how did you get on today?

I'm having one of those nights tonight. Both kids over tired, fighting and grumpy, manage to get them to sleep after 2 hours of trying then upstairs start having a party and it's real loud. Wakes ds up who wakes dd up, I've really shouted at them and feel awful ds gone bed again but dd is completely refusing.

I didn’t go into work in the end. Ds3 was quite poorly so had to have a day off. He just cried all day :( he’s a lot better today tho!
Oh ducky that sounds like my night the other night :/
I hope it all quietens down for you and you all get some sleep

It quietened down near midnight feel bad cus I ended up telling the kids off and it wasn't their fault. Just desperately need to move house

Oh I miss this thread so much!