April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

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New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

Cupcake speak to your health visitor about housing. Mine seems to be quite good with that stuff.

So I went to meet stbxh. The place was empty apart from one member of staff who wasn't in sight and an old couple sat at a table the other side of the room. He immediately became aggressive. He was shouting at me about calling the police and saying he's not selling the house until he knows he will have enough to buy somewhere else. I kept saying to him that if he carries on I will leave and he kept being horrible so I put dd in her car seat, and went to get ds coat on. Ds started saying 'want to see daddy' so stbxh turned around and said 'I want to see you too but she won't let me' so I told him to go and see his son instead of sitting shouting at me.

BecUse i called the police on him, the health visitors in this area were notified ( mine is in another area) and this new one came out to see me and was lovely. She talked through everything that had happened and was really supportive. She said she thought I could do with a support worker. She gave me the number to call.

I called them and gave them the whole history, they said they think I'm very high risk and because of that they're reading my case out first thing tomorrow in a meeting with loads of organisations including social services and the police its shook me up a bit. They said they wanted to get a safe guarding thing in place so I can stop all contact with stbxh. They have arranged a support worker who should be contacting me before the end of the week. Scary stuff

Sunny some men are just immature that's why. Can't handle responsibilities.

Ducky, I'll have a word with my health visitor then cuz it's getting so cramped here.

Oh gosh ducky :( but in a way that's good as they will make sure stbxh doesn't hurt u or the kids, mentally or physically. He's such an ass ducky.

Been to the nurse today and have to go back tomorrow to have my wound properly packed as it's got worse. I'm so worried. She said my skins breaking down. Just hope it stops and starts to heal :(

Ds1 had an Easter bonnet parade this morning :) we sat and decorated his hat yesterday :) he looked adorable bless him! I find out what school he gets into on the 19th! Then we have to go and view the school, he's growing up way too fast!! :(

That sounds bad about the wound cupcake! I didn't even know that could happen!? Are you moving about ok?

that ds1 is starting school already! That's crazy! X

That sounds bad about the wound cupcake! I didn't even know that could happen!? Are you moving about ok?

that ds1 is starting school already! That's crazy!

I'm moving about fine and it doesn't hurt but it's just not healing.
And oh my god... I've got to have my 1st smear test tomorrow scared!!!!!
And I know :( can not believe he's growing up so fast!!

Gosh once they start school time really does begin to go fast. My kids love school so I'm sure he will be fine. Hope the wound heals quickly. 😥on the smear test, i had mine recently and then they had to do it again because there weren't enough cells taken!! I've just had an injection to numb my mouth from the dentist and it's taking ages to go back to normal.

Good that you're going for the smear my emoticon was really for my double smear lol

I have been having pains now since about 6 this morning. Pretty regular. Not too bad. DH has taken DS out for a walk and I am just relaxing with my ipad. Rang the hospital who told me to take 2 paracetemol and stay at home. I hope this is it. Am so fed up.

We are home. She arrived at 2.38pm and weighed in at 7lb 6oz. She has very dark hair and I think she is perfect- although every photo we have taken she looks grumpy on it. It was ok. Gas and air. No stitches or tears. I am so tired though. Have had a bath and am in bed. DH is feeding her. TT Perfect Prep back in action. DS is fast asleep at SILs and we will get him first thing. He doesn't know yet. He thinks we have gone to fetch her and has helped SIL make some cakes for her.
I did get a bit odd on the gas and air- I get a bit sweary and say strange things. Apparently I told the midwife DH is having a vasectomy and if he doesn't go to the Dr to see about it, I will do it myself with the bacon scissors

Congratulations Lulu and to your dh, that's lovely news. Wow you were saying you were having pains at 1030ish and she was here 4 hours later. That's great. How fast did she arrive after your waters broke? Bet your dh is made up. Lovely news and glad you're all well. How was DS when he saw her for the first time?

I started about 6 in the mornng and stayed at home until about 1. By the time we got to the hospital I was 8 cms. Waters broke at the hospital. Last time they broke at the start, this time it was really late. She arrived pretty quickly after that.
I had forgotten how tiring newborn babies are. Today we have fed her, fed her, fed her, fed her. She snoozes between feeds but soon wakes up.
DS looked at her and was a bit non-plussed. After a bit of stroking her head and giving her a kiss, he said 'Where da box?' He likes a big cardboard box and we think he thought she had come in a box.
DH is already besotted.He has been telling her about football as he fed her this afternoon. We took her for a walk in the park and DS fed the ducks.He wasn't very impressed that we didn't take his buggy.
I slept for two hours this afternoon. I seem to have quite bad wind for some reason

Yes you forget how much they feed In the first few weeks. It's non stop. You also forget how tiny they are compared to your older children. I found it really weird the first couple of days getting used to handling a newborn again.
When i brought ds2 home ds1 was not bothered at all. Did the same, took a look at him and then carried on playing. Funny that your DS was looking for the box. My two were alot older when ds3 was born and were obsessed with how ds3 was going to get out. Having a newborn is just so lovely though and just the wonderful times and togetherness they bring.
I bet it just makes you feel so complete.
Not sure what to advise about the wind! Dh will probably be happy when that phase passes😀

My dh has been obsessed with the jet wash today, showing the boys the wonders it can perform and they have been very impressed by the power and how great a job daddy has done .

Aww congrats lulu!!! :) glad to hear she's here!
Oh ds3 is still constantly feeding we aren't past that stage yet I think it's cuz I'm breastfeeding tho.
Hope u are all doing well :)

Sunny I want a jet wash
Jet wash the children clean I'm joking ! But wouldn't that make bath time easier

I'm still exhausted with 3 children lol its Easter holidays now n ds1 is off preschool for 2 weeks. It's only day 3 and I can't wait till he's back he's been so naughty so far.

Well DD had a bad night last night but has been asleep for two hours now - longest yet. As DH put her in her pram at 8 this morning to push her round the park and see if he could get her to sleep (she had been awake since 1am apart from a brief nap) he said to me wearily 'This was your idea'.
The same man who was saying airily on Sunday 'We should have at least 3 Lu.' He is finding a vasectomy more appealing after last night.
But she is very sweet when she isn't crying.

Oh my god! Congratulations lulu!!! And good timing with the holidays! What was her name?

Anna Elisabeth. DH won't take his paternity leave until the exams are over Ducky - July - and will only take a week because there will be too much to do at the end of term. But he's got almost 2 weeks holiday now so it's Ok - although he is going in to do revision classes for three days next week.

She only woke twice last night for a feed and went back to sleep after so that was better. PIL are comng to meet her this afternoon .

That's a lovely name! And sleeping so well already! How is ds being with her?

DS is not very interested in her. He does not like her crying or taking so long to feed. DH was encouraging him to give her a kiss today but he said 'No' very firmly and wandered off. He will stroke her head and sat next to her on the sofa for about 30 seconds for a photo for FIL. She is too little really for him to be able to interact with her. He gave her his car but she didn't do anything and he got fed up with that.

She was awake for over 2 hours in the middle of the night last nIght. Everytime I put her down she cried and stopped when I picked her up. DH took her and sat at the window in a chair, wrapped her up and settled her but it took him over an hour.

DS calls her 'Nana'

I've been really anxious and down for the last few days. I am trying to ignore it and just get fresh air, go for walks and make sure I have some rest but I keep thinking about Trump and North Korea and it ending up as a world war or nuclear war and us having brought DS and DD into that world. What will their future be like? And so on. DH has been telling me why it won't happen or what might happen instead but it has really got to me.

How is the new man Ducky? Is your divorce sorted now?

How is your scar doing Cupcake? I have a sore back- just pulled a muscle I think. It has been a bit better today.

Aww sounds like ur all settling well lulu! It may just be ur hormones making u feel anxious like that, hopefully it'll settle down soon.

Ducky How's the new man? Hope things are going well!

Lulu my scar is still terrible. I'm still having it packed, and I'm on antibiotics again as it got infected again. I'm so fed up with it :( it just wont heal! It's awful having a gaping hole there! I've had to change the dressing and pack it myself this weekend as doctors being closed on the bank holidays.

Found out about ds1's school today! He didn't get his first choice so won't be going to the school literally opposite my road

I agree lulu probably your hormones are still all over the place. Are you getting out ok with the two of them? Does ds go in the push chair or walk himself?

That's rubbish about the scar cupcake! Surely they can do something! Are you happy with the school you have been offered?

My new man is absolutely amazing, but it all feels so crazy to me. I'm not used to someone being like this to me so I feel sometimes I try and push him away but he comes bouncing straight back but I am a bit worried about how I keep feeling I don't deserve it

Divorce is still ongoing. Haven't heard of stbxh in 3 weeks. But he has finally got himself a solicitor. I'm permanently worried about him going for more access with the kids. It's making me quite ill with all the worry. As he refused to sell the house I had to pay court fees to send it to court to decide, I got a court date through but it isn't until July seems so unfair that he's dictating this all and he gets to just sit in the house until then. The last time I saw him he said he wouldn't pay £4 for ds to have some good as he can't afford it and just after his girlfriend was posting pictures of all this jewellery he had brought her then he took her out too

I think you are both right about my hormones. I had a chat with the midwife today and she thought that and the backache are related to giving birth.

DH has been at work all day doing revision classes. It was my first day on my own with DD. DH dropped DS off at nursery. I saw the midwife this morning, took DD out for a long walk on the sea front this afternoon and then we both had a sleep.

Cupcake - how long will it take to close up? How big is the hole?

Ducky- there are nice men, try just to enjoy him being one. You do deserve it. Stop yourself looking at STBXH's Facebook and the girlfriend's. Not worth a minute of your time.

Oh Cupcake i hope your scar heals quickly, must be really hard dealing with that stress and the kids.
Lulu i think it takes a while for hormones to settle and you do get the baby blue s while everything is settling down.
Ducky enjoy every minute of it. Life is for living and take this opportunity to be happy. I agree with Lulu that you should ignore what ex is doing with his new gf as it will only upset you

DH was getting DS ready to take him to nursery this morning while I fed DD.

DS - mummy come too
Me - I can't come DS, DD is having her breakfast.
DS - (shakes his head) - norty Nana. (how her says her name)