April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

How's the divorce going ducky?

Did you bf ds2 cupcake? I can't remember?

I still haven't heard anything regarding the divorce, just can't wait until it's all over and done with.

I'm sick of seeing pictures of stbxh girlfriend sat in my house, using my stuff but unfortunately until this is over I can't delete him as I need to take evidence of stuff, like when he's saying he can't afford to pay a penny towards his kids yet he's taking her out for meals, buying a whole new wardrobe and buying her flowers and booze and take always and going to concerts.

I think he's trying to get my name removed from the mortgage too secretly so he can keep the house. It's a long story but to cut it short, on our income (my income!) we shouldn't have got a mortgage as big as we did, but stbxh grandad was very very high up in the bank, he'd passed away but his dad still had connections there, so our mortgage was 'dodgy' and done through his connections. I'm worried that he may actually be able to remove my name somehow which would leave me without a penny from the house I had paid for, every bill, I had paid to decorate and furnish. He had everything. But I spose we will cross that bridge when it comes to it.

I think I just agreed to a date with someone

Oooh who? Is he nice? How did that happen? When is it? Where are you going? 😉

Yea don't think it's going to happen.

It's someone who lives by my grandad. I'd known him when we were little bit lost contact. Started seeing him about recently and started messaging today.

He asked me to go for a drink and I said yes. We had been messaging all day non stop. But about an hour ago it kind of slowed down and was seeming kind of disinterested.

Then about 15 mins ago he said he felt like shit, I said why, he said he felt depressed and just wants to sleep so I just kind of left it at that

Kind of gutted tbh now.

You don't want a depressed man anyway- he'd suck the life out of you.

That's why it won't go ahead I think lulu I dealt with stbxh sucking the life out of me for 10 years so can't go through anything that could do that again.

Just feeling down now, I'd been saying to my friend for quite a while now that I liked him. Then that happened. I had been smiling all day, but now just feel kind of blah

Don't be down, be glad you didn't get involved with another man who is a 'drainer'. Don't contact him again Ducky, he will draw you into this. You deserve someone who is mentally well-balanced and knd to you- not another 'me me me' self-obsessed and self-indulgent man.

Thanks lulu. I haven't heard from him again.

Do you have any birth plan this time? Or are you just going to see what happens?

How you doing cupcake?

Hello!!
Sorry I've been distant. I am literally exhausted :(
Did anyone else get breathless even just going down the stairs?
I'm so breathless.
He's very low down and it's aching my back too :(

Aww ducky. U need THE perfect man next so a depressed one isn't the one! U need someone to be able to pick u up when your down and treat u etc :)

I'm off men for a very very long time

Lulu how's the pregnancy going?

CupcAke I had the breathless thing!! It was awful! Has stbxh been helping out?

I have another date for Saturday now so nervous! X

I'm glad I'm not the only one who got the breathlessness I can't do anything without sitting down to catch my breath haha

Going to build the crib today and Moses basket once ds2 is asleep for his nap!
Ds1 is ill.... he has an awful stomach bug! he's that bad he pooed in his sleep last night and woke up covered all over him, his bed covers and his teddy!! I was nearly sick at the sight of it

Oooo good luck on ur date!!!

Well that lasted long. I saved up some money, I had it for a bit. I haven't brought myself anything in ages and I only wear leggings and strappy tops, so I went out and brought a whole outfit for Saturday along with some new make up. It used up all my spare money. He's cancelled . Now I'm feeling right bleh!

I feel like stbxh was right and I won't ever meet anyone else.... and I've wasted a lot of money and organised a baby sitter (which was a pain in the arse!) all for nothing. I can't even go out with any friends cus I don't really have any!

Just after I got told that, another guy asked me out but I just said no. He wasn't my type, but I think I'll be like you cupcake and stay away from men.

Poor ds1 cupcake! Is he feeling any better now? How many rooms does your house have? Did you save ds2 Moses basket and stuff?

My ds fell over earlier and bashed his face and I think he bit his lip because there was quite a bit of blood he keeps saying it's sore and asking me to kiss it better

Ducky, where are you finding all these men 🙂

Haha lulu, the people in the village I grew up in think they are match makers now I split up with stbxh they aren't very good at it!

I had a message absolutely ages ago from a friend I haven't seen in about 9 years asking if I would like to meet up for a drink. I messaged her the other day and she said she'll meet up with me. So I'm actually going out

Aw ducky!
Glad ur going out with ur friend tho :)

I'm feeling awful :( I'm in pain and feel crap!!!
The other night I had painful contractions from 2:30am till 5am every 9-10 mins then they just slowed n I've been having a few irregular ones all day n night since.
But today sharp pains down below and awful back ache all day and I've been feeling so sick all day like I'm gonna throw up :( :( I dunno what all this means! But it's awful! I can't do much with the kids like this :(
Going to my moms on Saturday and she's having the kids while I go lie down for the day. But I dunno what this is all about, is it beginning of labour or what?

I don't know cupcake but I know when I was 36+5 or something I had painful regular contractions about every 5 mins or something, went on a good couple of hours then nothing! Apparently if you have a warm bath and it's not labour it should stop it? I don't know if it works tho. Have you got a midwife you can message/call to check?

I had one this morning but it didn't help me at all and tonight everything's worse! :(
My back is in agony!!
Sat on the loo feeling like I need to go (sorry tmi!! ) but I don't need to go! It's driving me insane!

Nope only numbers I have is pregnancy assessment unit or I call up doctors surgery in morning and ask to speak to my midwife
:(

Did you speak to anyone? I would maybe call mau if it's still happening for advice!

Hey little update, I called up pregnancy assessment on Friday morning and went in with contractions, they had me prepped for a csection all Friday wasn't allowed to eat all day. Contractions were 3 in 10. Then kept dropping to 2 in 10, then back up to 3 in 10. Then a new doctor came on shift and told me I wasn't going for a section anymore! But also told me that my contractions and baby need monitoring as if my scar ruptured 'your baby will definitely die and so will you'
But today had my 2nd dose of steroids and another doctor discharged me! Said I was fine and come back on 27th for my scheduled section!! I'm still in pain and contracting :( they are utterly crap at hospital!! So I'm sat at home now In pain not knowing what I'm supposed to do. I need labour to fully kick in but nothing's working!!

Omg cupcake!!! Have you tried spicy food and all them kind of things? I'm not sure any of it works. How many weeks are you now?

I've tried spicy food, pineapple and pineapple juice. Need to get a birthing ball. I'm 36 weeks today!
He needs to come out now !

Was ds1 premature cupcake or did I make that up?

I went into early labour at 32 weeks with ds1 but they stopped my labour then!

Ohhh any more happening now? If you go into labour will they let you have him naturally?