April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

I'm back in hospital been admitted till baby is here. Trying to keep him in till 37 weeks which I'm 37 this weekend so a week I could be here being monitored :/
But I've effing stbxh texting having a go and moaning because he 'feels ill' and I've 'made' him have his kids!!! I'm stuck in the hospital making sure his unborn child is kept safe but his problems are worse than mine?!! Got I hate him!! He's moaning cuz I didn't bring any keptchup in their bags for their dinner!! Bloody hell!! He's seriously being horrible :( I wish my kids could stay here with me I rele do

Cupcake, that is fucking awful. He's their father! He made a choice to have children! They make me so so so mad.

I hope everything goes as well as it can for you. Will stbxh be there for the birth? How are you feeling in yourself?

Well I had an eventful weekend... my friend also stood me up didn't let me know or anything, luckily I asked two of them and one turned up and we had a great night. I don't remember much tho all I remember was going back with a guy I've known years

Meanwhile, stbxh has decorated our house with roses and petals (and all my candles) so he could propose to his new girlfriend he even dressed in a suit! He didn't even get me a card when it was my birthday, and when he proposed to me he didn't ask me, he made me buy a ring and just put it on the side when I got back.

I'm glad u still had a good night ducky!! U deserve it!!!

And what the hell???!!! How is he already proposing??
He's such a low life scum bag! eugh, good luck to that poor girl. He's pathetic ducky. Rushing into something else won't last long and he'll soon find out.

Yes he's supposed to be there for the birth but he's made me so angry the past few days for asking him to take care of his own children that I wish I could just tell him not to bother coming. But he wants to.

I feel crap in myself! I'm so exhausted, the pain and aches is getting to me :(
And the hospital have now said I'll go home tomorrow and because my contractions haven't gone back to being regular again I can wait till 27th for my section!!! So they won't bring it forward anymore! Said only way now would be if I went into labour. So I need to try and kick start labour asap cuz I can't cope like this for nearly 2 weeks!

Oh cupcake that's so frustrating! I know what you mean about not wanting stbxh there. Have a good think about it, I very much regret having stbxh there for dd2's birth and if I could re do it I definitely would not have him there, he ruined the whole experience. I just felt at the time because he was the father he had a right to be there, but every midwife said not to let him in! Just do what feels right. Have you got a birth ball at home? I'm convinced that helped me with dd2's labour.

I'm feeling very down tonight. I have so much going on at the moment, the divorce, selling the house, dealing with my current husband apparently asking someone to marry him, getting stood up when I was excited about meeting someone then seeing that guy. I feel like I'm being punished for leaving stbxh and he has everything going his way. I met my friend but haven't heard off her since the day after and just feel so alone at the moment.

Oh ducky it's a shame I don't know u personally or live close or I'd be Inviting u for coffees and everything! Don't feel like ur being punished tho, u made the right decisions and in the long run u and ur kids are gonna have an amazing future!
Maybe try and start some mum and baby groups? Or something like that to try to meet new people?

I may just possibly be buying some Green Day tickets tomorrow!!!! They added a new date and in sheffield so not too far! Anddddd I won't be pregnant! I have to go see them they are my long time favourite band I've loved since I was little :) seen them live before and they are just amazing!

I've tried mom & baby groups cupcake and didn't get on great, there were like the same one group of moms that go and all know each other and don't seem to like me, one kid kept being vile to ds and they wouldn't tell him off so I ended up tripping him over. Then he ran over to kick ds and I grabbed his foot and told him to back off, his mom still didn't say anything but since then I have been made to feel extremely unwelcome

Oooh I have seen green day live a few times they're pretty good live! Have you seen them before? I'm going to see blink 182 later this year, think it's July am trying to arrange dressing room tickets because I'm crazy in love with Matt skiba

Eughhhh hate mom groups like that!
And hate when u get snooty parents who let their children get away with hurting they kids.

Oh yes I've seen green day before! So amazing!
This is also in July ducky
See, I'm completely in love with Billie Joe Armstrong if I could find a man just like him.....perfect!! I'd be happy forever

Haha sounds ace cupcake! I'm really looking forward to going a gig! I'm dragging my brother along with me maybe I'll drop lucky and Matt will decide I'm all he's ever wanted

Haha ducky u never know!
I've ordered them, so I'm deffo going to see them
Oh I'm going with my mom haha! She's been to the green day concerts with me before she likes them too
My moms only 41 so likes tha kinda thing still haha

She's so young!

Tbf my mom likes all my music and knows all the words she recons it's because I brainwashed her when I was younger. I still listen to all the same stuff because I'm boring.

Haha brainwashed her

My mom got me into my music, get favourite band when she was grown up was Nirvana.

Not long to go till This baby is here!!!!!!!!! 6 days!!!
I'm seeing my midwife today as well. No idea what she's gonna say about everything that's happened. And I've got both kids to take with me This is going to be fun.

Ohh how'd it go cupcake? Less than a week!

Does ds1 understand properly now what's going on?

It went rubbish! Wasn't even my midwife she was off :(
She said I've got protein in my urine so they are sending it off, good luck with csection and bye.
Wasn't impressed.

Ds1 completely understands, yes he is constantly telling people he has a baby in his tummy! And that his is a girl. he desperately wants a sister and keeps telling me this and tells everyone else that 'mummy is having a girl' he really is going to hate me when he sees his new brother he also tells people his baby is kicking

Any news on your urine sample cupcake?

Not long now!!! How cute of ds

I have been having a nightmare with stbxh. First of all I found out the solicitor hadn't sent the divorce to court, it was only sent last week instead of last month like it should have done then I feel like stbxh is constantly bullying me. The other week I had to take ds and dd to soft play to see him. When we got there he 'forgot' his card so I had to pay for everything, then today I had to take them to the pub to see him, what a surprise, as usual he 'forgot' his card so I ended up paying for everything again. He told me if I go to csa I will get £1 a week at best cus he's looked into it and then when I argued with him he started going on about why am I so horrible to him and what has he ever done to me

No news on the sample at all so I guess it's okay?
And no not long at all! I'm so so scared. Literally terrified of having a csection. The dc's go to my moms tomorrow night! So I'm on my own sorting all baby's things ready to have him the next day. I'm even nervous being all by myself I don't get a night without kids usually! It'll be weird not to put them to bed! I go into hospital at 7:15am Monday morning and I'll find out soon after when I'm on the list. I hope it's 1st so I can just get it done with.
Told stbxh not to come into the hospital till I know where on the list I'll be. Said I'll text him. I'll be scared and nervous as it is n him being there asking questions would just make me worse.

Next time ducky if he 'forgets' his card or money I'd just say 'well I have no money at all either as it's all gone towards taking care of the dc's' then tell him you'll have to take them home and arrange something else another time when he remembers to bring some cash.
He's an idiot.
And that's absolute bull crap about
Csa. If he was on benefits, and that was his only income you'd get £5 per week. (I think per child) But if he's employed you'll get more.

Don't let him walk all over u, take him for all you can get as u and the dc's deserve it.

I'm so nervous

He's here and I'm home already.
I'm in so much pain
7lbs exactly he weighed :)

I haven't been able to get on here for a few days but I was thinking of you cupcake.

Omg he's gorgeous!!! Well done you! How did it all go? How are you feeling now? Have you got some help at home?

The section went all fine.
But I'm in so much pain now at home :( it's horrific. I'm crying all the time as I can't get up or move or walk or do anything without being in so much pain :( I wish I was still in hospital so I could have stronger pain meds as paracetamol and ibuprofen are doing nothing! :( :( :(

I do not wish a csection on anybody. Not even my worst enemy. This is awful :( :( I've made stbxh stay over on the sofa as I can't do this on my own :( it's so sh*t :(

Oh cupcake that is awful surely they can give you something stronger? Have you spoke to the mw about how much pain your in?

Hope your ok lulu.

Well I called my midwife up today and she sent me back to hospital to be checked over. I have some extensive bruising that's apparently a lot worse than average and that's where most of my pain is coming from. I've been given some strong anti inflammatories and omg they've made such a difference!!!
Thank god I called up the midwife today! Honestly these tablets are helping me feel just that little bit human again! :)

And yes lulu I hope ur okay!?
When is baby due for u??

That's good cupcake, how has it been with 3?

I have another date Sunday night. I'm very nervous!

It's been bloody hard with 3 :( I'm not going to lie. It's very different from 2 especially after having a csection. It's so hard :(
I've had a tough week with
It being week one of Recovery.
I'm still in quite a bit of pain and I just wish it would go away!

Oo good luck with the date ducky! Hope this one is good! :)

Lulu, hope ur alright!

Have you got plenty of help cupcake?

I'm so excited for it. He seems like a genuinely nice guy. It kind of doesn't seem real

Hi ladies. Wow! I have gone back to work after maternity and caught up on the thread. It's been busy looking after 3. I can not believe how much has happened while I've been away. Congratulations to you Ducky and cupcake , your babies are beautiful. Congratulations Lulu on your pregnancy. Really glad to read that you left your h ducky because he never sounded like a good egg. I really hope that this new man is nice. Hope you're coping ok cupcake. I've got three boys and it's amazing. They're so loving to each other. Really nice to read that after all the crap you've had to deal with over the last few months things are looking better. PS ducky can't believe your ex h has already proposed to his gf!