April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

[Cupcake92]

New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

I like India, Ellen and Anna. I also like Nina and Scarlett (but they are not on his list ) and Elisabeth (which goes off and on his list). I actually like quite a few of the names on his list. I love Indiana but it is a bit unusual. We'll see.

What did you call DD Ducky?

Yes we have told everyone Cupcake. You can tell now that I am - am 23 weeks. We wouldn't have minded a boy or a girl but DH is just over the moon it's a girl. He says if the next one is a boy we are stopping then. There is not going to be a next one

DS says baby because we say the word but it is just a word. He does not associate it with us- just other babies.

Cupcake course you can do it! I did it with dd and it was amazing! The difference on how good I felt after was unbelievable! They been ok with you having a vbac?

Lulu my dd is poppy, Scarlett was on my list! And ava

Ds was great in his play. He came on with the others at the back, looking sparkley with his tinfoil wand. They all sang Twinkle Twinkle (sort of, was mainly the other children) and waved their wands and were led off.
We took him out to tea at the Italian restaurant we like. He is in the conservatory, playing with his flashing musical wand from last Christmas and singing with DH. I am lying on the sofa infront of the fire. The cats have gone upstairs to get away from his singing.

Cupcake, I just had gas and air with DS - it was too late for an epidural. It wasn't too bad.

DH and I were just talking about when DS was born and how stunned we were. We just looked at him for hours. I can remember late at night in the hospital room waking up and DH wasstanding at the window, holding him, showing him Newcastle and talking to him - telling him how loved he was and that we would always look after him and what they were going to do together. I got all weepy. He thought I was asleep.
I bet they send me home the same day this time depending on the time. SIL and BIL are coming along to stay with DS and will take him to their house.

All those baby girl names are so adorable!! :)

I had my midwife apt today. Baby is very low head down! That's why my stomachs dropped a bit. She said he has lots of room still so may pop out so not to worry as it doesn't always mean he'll come early.
My bloods came back brilliant :)
And I had my anti D and whooping cough injections!! :( the arm where my whooping cough was done really aches!

Also... got my results for my glucose test too. I've NOT got gestational diabetes this time!!! Wooooooo! I'm so so glad cuz it means my vbac can go ahead as planned! Yay!!!! :)

Also I've moved my maternity leave forward and I now leave on 1st January which I'm glad about as I need to get all baby's stuff ready and buy stuff for my hospital bag

That is excellent news Cupcake - all of it. When is he due?

DH and I went shoppng this morning while DS was at nursery.Then he took DS out for lunch and a walk and a train ride and I had a sleep this afternoon. Bliss!

I'm not due till 12th March lulu. But have a strong feeling he'll come before that.

Oo sounds like a lovely day lulu! :)
My ds1 broke up from preschool last week!

Unfortunately today, ds1 has caught the sickness bug ds2 had :( he's been so poorly today! And now I'm so scared I'll have it for xmas day
But I knew he was getting sick. He went to bed at 6:15pm last night and just slept all the way through till morning!
He's fallen straight to sleep tonight too but keeps saying he's 'freezing' but he feels warm. Bless him. I hate it when the kids are poorly.

Merry Christmas guys :) hope u all have a lovely day today.

I'm spending it with my mom as she's on her own all day as her husband is at work!
Kids are at their dads 10-2 today but all mine for the rest of the day! :) I'm happy about that! But..... it's nearly 7:30am and they are still fast asleep!!

Still asleep! Ds was awake at 6. He kind of gets Christmas this year.... he's a fan of presents

Had a bit of a shock though. Last thing Christmas Eve, it's all over Facebook (I know I shouldn't bother looking!) stbxh is 'in a relationship'. It's with one of the girls he was speaking to when we were together.

I take the kids to see him on Saturdays, I messaged him first thing Saturday morning to ask if the house would be clean when I took them round, it has been filthy recently. He ignored the message. I got a message at 11.30am, I usually take them round 9.30/10am and it just said 'no'. Later that night I got a message saying he had been asleep as he had been out all night.

I took the kids to see him this morning. I told him that I need some maintainance, he said no.

The reason he didn't see them Christmas Eve was because he had taken his new girlfriend out for a meal and drinks. He never did that for me. He then stopped at her house. He won't tell me how long they have been together.

I think she was upstairs the whole time I was there...... in my house.... that I had to move out of.

I know he got her an expensive Christmas present. He hardly spent anything on ds.... and dd doesn't even register on his radar. He said he didn't bother because he knew I would get them loads of stuff.

You looking forward to mat leave cupcake?

How many weeks are both of you now?

I still have no internet!

And happy Christmas everyone!

Happy Christmas!

I am coming up to 23 weeks. I have been saying that for 2 weeks until DH told me last Friday I was just 22 weeks.

Your H is a complete knob Ducky. I have no other words.

DS has been excited today but mainly about all his company.We did lunch here because SIL has morning sickness and it was a bit much for her so we had them, PIL and grandma here. Ds was so excited. He opened his presents but was more interested in taking them to people to play. He has repeated his choice of a duck rather than a baby to grandma and MIL. He was adamant. He also told MIL he has a willy. Not sure what the context was.

Somehow, I managed to pull together a fab lunch - if I say so myself! I was really proud of it. It was a fluke that it all came together but it did.

They left about 7 and Dh and I have just lazed around with cold drinks,talking and listening to music and watching a bit of telly. Eastenders was quite good.

George Michael is dead! I am so shocked. Love his music.

Ducky he is such an ass!! In a relationship?! Who moves on that fast! Inconsiderate arsehole
I'd be saying to him if he doesn't pay maintenance then he won't see the dc's till he does. Show he can be a responsible adult by paying for his kids before he's trusted to see them! men!!!

I'm very much looking forward to mat leave ducky I'm so tired now it's getting harder. I'm 29 weeks now!! Hoping i go early and only have 8 weeks lefts or something

Lulu well done in cooking xmas lunch! I'd be useless at that!

I think ur gonna have to buy ds a pet duck lulu
I had a lovely peaceful xmas evening as well. The dc's fell asleep in the car and I literally just took them one by one to bed and that was it for the night! I sat downstairs watching the soaps and eating chocolate with a cuppa most peaceful night I've had in a while!

And yes I know! I'm shocked about
George Michael!! They said it was heart faliure :( sad. My friend died of heart failure at only 23 years old. It's an awful thing!

Ha lulu, I hope ds isn't disappointed when he sees the baby and no duck! he must really likes ducks! Did you have a vegetarian Christmas dinner? Or do you have meat?
Are you settling into your new house?

Cupcake sounds like you had a lovely night! Did you go dm's for the day? Not long now until mat leave! Feels like it has gone so fast!

I'm so angry and a bit upset. The one friend I have I messaged and they haven't replied.

I was snooping on stbxh girlfriends page and there's another girl, I think it's her roommate. She put a picture up. A picture of my slippers. Stbxh had brought them for me a week before we split. I had worn them a few times but they look brand new. The caption said 'absolutely love my Christmas present from stbxh and new gf'.

I sent him a picture of it and said I know and I suspected him of having an affair with her and this has just confirmed it. He text back saying he thought I didn't want them. He wouldn't deny the affair, and wouldn't tell me how long they have been together.

I still have a lot of stuff at our house. Now I have to try and find storage somewhere until
I have somewhere bigger because if I don't it will 'go missing'. A few of my things have 'gone missing' recently. At least I know where they have gone now

It is so cold here -3 at times today. DH took DS to the tennis courts with a ball. I could see them from the bedroom window. DS was so funny, DH was kicking the ball and DS was running after it then pickng it up and running off with it. Perhaps he won't be a footballer! He fed the ducks as we and DHsaid he was talkng to them and quacking at them.
After lunch we took him along to the lighthouse with his little bike. DH ended up pushing him while DS looked for birds- there is a wildlife reserve and it is full of birds over the winter. He thinks they are all ducks. He could not concentrate on his bike- just sat on it and got pushed.
We are tucked up now and he is excited because it is his second birthday tomorrow. PIL are coming up with grandma and all comng for tea with BIL and SIL. DH is helping him make them a card each - very cute. I am having a lie down.

Ducky, just let your H get on with it as far as women are concerned. Poor things. You have had a lucky escape. He will never be the dad to the children that you hoped he would. You need to have really low expectations of him or you will be very disappointed. Don't torture yourself by checking up on what he is doing - just be glad he is tormenting someone else and not you. If you question him it makes you sound interested- don't give him the satisfaction of even thinking it.
Could your mum or your grandad or your brother store at least some of your stuff so it is out of there?

Well DS is 2 !
He had a lunch and tea party - PIL, BIL, SIL , grandma and Elisabeth the old lady we are friends with, and me and DH.
He was very good. He got a tea set and a kitchen and crayons and paper and paints and brushes and some old fashioned toys like a spinnng whizzing top thing amongst other things. He has been serving tea and giving cups to us all and putting sandwiches on plates and handing us them-including nes he has dropped on the floor and picked back up and ne the cat got.
I was watching DH with him and am just in awe of how amazing a dad he is. I felt all soppy about it.
Happy New Year you two, I hope 2017 is your best yet.

Lulu happy bday to ur ds!!
Glad u also had a nice xmas.
:)

Ducky, ur H, like lulu said, is just not worth it. He's not worth ur feelings or energy. Forget him and focus on making u and the dc's happy :)
He's always gonna be a tw*t and nothing ain't changing that! But u can move on and be so much happier and live a better life than u ever would if u had stayed with him.
He's immature.

And deffo see if a family member will let u store ur stuff in a garage or somewhere. Ur H has no right to give ur stuff to people !

My mat leave starts tomorrow. I'm glad as it's now getting hard. I'm 30 weeks now!!!! Can't believe it! Already 30 weeks! I could only have 8/9 weeks left if worse comes to worst n I have a csection. I'm hoping I go into labour early. I feel like I will as baby is so soo low down!
I'll attach a pic of where I believe my belly has dropped n see what u all think?

Gosh, it has dropped Cupcake! Has baby not just settled low down? Could it be to do with 2 previous caesarians and muscles being cut? My bump is still pretty small. Have only put 6lbs on.

We have been poured about 10 cups of tea this morning - all empty by DS from his plastic tea set. He has just handed DH a plate and said 'Hungry Daddy' . Almost lunchtime I think.

We are off out to the antique/junk market after lunch then havng tea at the Italian place about half 4 and walking home along the seafront.

Just us tonight. DH- who has been planning what he is having at the Italian place all morning - has bought stuff for a cold supper later on- olives, hummus, flafels, tzatziki, cheeses, bread, a camembert to cook in the oven, crisps and some salad. He is looking forward to all the food and a quiet night he says. SIL is suffering badly with sickness being pregnant and goes to bed really early.

Have a happy New Year's Eve and a good 2017 everyone.

Happy birthday to ds for yesterday lulu!! Your dh is a good egg I hope I find someone like him one day! Is sil having ds tonight?

That has most definitely dropped cupcake!! Does ds1 understand there is a new baby coming?

When I last spoke to stbxh about that 'present' I told him I couldn't speak to him right now because of how angry I was. I have not heard a peep from him since. He usually sees the kids Saturday but every Friday he will text to confirm the time and stuff, I didn't hear from him so I didn't take them. I'm tired of fighting for him to have an interest in his children. I'm tired of having to drive all the way to a dirty house where we can't even sit down because he doesn't clean. He didn't contact me to ask where they were, if they're ok, or when he can see them again but he has been putting lots of lovey dovey photos up with new gf.

I'm feeling a lot stronger and able to stand up to his bullying now, but it just sucks because I have lost all my friends through this whole relationship. I have no one to talk it through with..... so I rant on to you two! (Sorry!)

I have been getting very stressed about the whole thing but had a bit of a turning point earlier. I was sat on my living room floor with dd on my lap and playing with ds and his dinosaurs. Dd has started smiling so was sat there smiling and ds was laughing away and playing nicely. For the first time in a very very long time I felt genuinely happy. I have lost a lot but he is the one missing out on times like that. My children are amazing if only I had chose them a better father!

And happy new year!

Rant away Ducky- happy to listen to you. You are right- you have your lovely children and have dumped the loser- now let him sink himself.

No SIL goes to bed very early at the minute - is really suffering with sickness and only feels better lying down. Is exhausted. DS went to bed about 8, very tired by then. DH is watching a crap horror film and has had all of his snacks and beer. I have had a glass of prosecco. He has just said 'Shall we just go to bed?' It is pouring here and really cold. Walking home along the seafront was absolutely arctic. Says -3 on the outside thermometer. Cats tucked up in their becs next to the radiator. Exciting New Year's Eve

My bobs are so sore at the minute I can't lie on them.

Happy New Year!

Boobs not bobs

What film was he watching lulu? I love crap horrors

Poor sil with her morning sickness! Has she tried them wrist bands? I hear they are quite good.

Am having a bit of trouble trying to get ds to eat recently, he just won't eat anything and I'm getting a bit worried. I have his dietitian soon so I'm hoping she can give some advice.

It began with an S and was about a wman who had aliens growing inside her. It was awful.
SIL has tried everything. It is just continual. She isn't throwing up, just feeling nauseous all the time. Has stopped actually being sick.

DS goes through phases with eating. The last one was a fortnight of weetabix and scrambled egg.