TTC - a relaxed thread.

[lostindubai]

Looking for like-minded mums to be who are taking things as they come and fancy a friendly chat along the way.

I'm 36 and just started ttc my second. My ds is 28 mo and I still bf him once a day, most days. I understand this may affect my fertility but, although a three-ish year age gap would be nice, I'm a long way from worrying about it at this early stage. It took me a year of trying (and a mc) before ds came along so I already know what it's like to wait for good things!

Technically I'm not charting or anything (wouldn't know how) just counting roughly 10 days into my cycle and dtd as much as reasonable (!) around that time.

It might not be the most dynamic way of ttc but it suits me for now

InFrance sorry to hear about your MC, fingers crossed this time works out for you.

Justme, no never seen him live before. I can't wait, his DVDs make me cry!

Elllimam, how disappointing! I hope next cycle is successful for you.

Lostindubai - big relief on the wine front! I hope I don't go off meat though, i'd be gutted! Curtain shopping excites me, i'm already thinking about new curtains for our living room and I haven't finished stripping the wallpaper yet!

Darkpandora - I love it too! I think i'm taking too much pleasure in ripping it off the walls!

Ooh things have moved along since I last checked

AF here so drinking prosecco on a Sunday! Don't work on Mondays anyway and my birthday is Tuesday so celebrating early :)

Yes Zumba, we're getting busy in here, great isn't it! Enjoy that prosecco.

Well strange things are happening here. AF didn't stay very long, just yesterday afternoon in fact. I've had (TMI) a slight amount of brownish discharge today and I'm now wondering if it could be implantation bleeding?? So those wedding drinks may be on hold after all

Elllimam you said AF came early for you too. Any chance it could be the same?

Hey Zumbait is getting busy I'm so glad I have people I can talk to don't feel so alone now I think sometimes it takes other people joining for people to have the confidence to join I was like that

dubai ooh exciting! When are you actually due on? I hope AF stays away for you and that's what it is when will you test?

I'm off to bed as have a blood test early in the morning. night ladies take care x

Go for it Zumba! Enjoy that cheeky prosecco!

ooo Dubai It sounds like it could be! Exciting! I hope you're right, keep us updated!

I feel the same darkpandora, it's nice to have others to talk to that are in the same boat as you.

Alan Carr was great by the way x

I was due on yesterday so thought it was a day early, but it did feel unusual. I don't remember getting an implantation bleed last time around so nothing to compare it to. Apparently a lot of people can mistake it for AF. If that's what it was then I can see why! I suppose a test is the next step - will pick one up in the next couple of days. Eek!

I'm only taking folic acid at the moment Pandora. Once I'm officially pregnant I might move on to pregnancy vits but will depend if it affects breastfeeding. Would have to check with GP.

Glad you enjoyed Alan Tamara!

I think I'm in a similar situation Dubai though not sure if my body just has the crazies. AF should have been Friday but I only had some brown spotting Fri and Sat but nothing since. Last week I had a tiny bit of red blood but that's it. I did a test on 11dpo and it was BFN. Now on cd37? Not sure if it's me being crazy?

Good afternoon ladies

How's everyone doing today?

Justme and dubai I have my fingers crossed you are both experiencing implantation and AF stays away

I had a blood test today which I was not happy about cause I'm a total needlephobe so just need to wait for the test results now.

Glad you had a great time at Alan Carr tamara I really have to go see a live stand up one day I love comedians.

Dark it's really worth going to see live stand up. The atmosphere is great! I hope your test results don't take too long to come through.

I've just been asked to go on a hen do in May, which sounds amazing but if I fall pregnant this month, then I'll be due then. Trouble is I need to confirm in the next 2 weeks if i'm going and pay the deposit. I've said that I'll have to confirm later in the month. But, if i'm not successful this month then i'm going to keep trying, so either way I won't be able to go. Plus it's expensive!

Sorry for the ramble ladies, i'm umming and ahhing over whether I've made the right choice.

Do you think you can just say it's a finances thing instead? If it's expensive anyway I'm sure they will understand? It is difficult to know what to do for the best. You're not going to be able to go if you're due around then but don't want to fork out the deposit etc in the interim

Tamara I agree with Justme just say that you haven't got the finances to be able to join and that your really sorry.
I have found myself doing a similar thing, I'm a member of an adult drama group and we have a pantomime at the end of the year then after Christmas we do another show I keep wondering whether I should drop out of panto or to stay cause if I fall pregnant I will be unable to do very much but if I don't I will miss out on performing and I love doing shows.

Ah the planning we all have to do eh?

Hi can I join?

TTC number 2. My little girl has just turned two. I was pregnant but mc 2 weeks ago. DH and I have decided to start TTC right away but taking a relaxed approach and just dtd. No charting or anything. We took the same approach with our daughter as I mc three months prior to conceiving her. Waited 3 months and got pregnant with her straight away. Hoping I will be just as lucky this time.

No idea when or if I will even ovulate this cycle because of the mc. Fc we all get our bfps soon!

Welcome Reebok so sorry to hear about your MC's will keep my fingers crossed you get your BFP as soon as possible.
I have heard Sometimes the relaxed approach has better results because stress can stop ovulation or mess it up do you think this is correct?

I am also hoping we all get our BFP's soon and we can all celebrate together

Can I join too please. TTC number 3 with a large age gap. This is cycle number two and desperately trying to be casual. Is anyone else finding it difficult to not start taking it all a bit to seriously ? Determined not to start temping etc but already symptom spotting like mad.

Thanks darkpandora.
Stress definitely affects my cycle! Started getting discharge a few days ago (sorry tmi) so figured it might mean ovulation as I stopped bleeding last week so decided to have a go at dtd! Lol Really want to go back to work in September (I'm a teacher) and be pregnant again...dreading it if I'm not as two of my colleagues are pregnant. But I guess not much I can do. What will be will be right!

notro I have never done charting or ovulation sticks or anything when TTC...just kind of left my body to it. I guess roughly what period I ovulate as I'm quite regular (although this time it's harder as I have just mc)...must admit I am a symptom spotter though!!! Think we all are!! I blame those awful tww!

Ooh it's getting busier in here

DS was conceived after 4 months of trying. Having been on the pill for years and had v irregular cycles before that we just winged it that time! But since having DS my cycles have been bang on 28 days or just under, so that's why I've been curious about when I ov, hence using the opks.

After a load of inconsistent opk results I was going to give it up, but I thought I might as well use the box up and got a full on smiley face this morning, having dtd last night, so fingers crossed.

Just going to let nature take its course from now on, but if the test is right I am probably ov later in cycle than expected so will bear that in mind next time (if there is one!) but not stress over it.

Hope those were false AFs Dubai and JustMe, and that everyone else is feeling happy and excited too!

Thanks Justme and Pandora, I've just messaged the girl organising it and she said it's fine and that they're going to do one in a town near me after. So i'll just go to that one. All this forward planning eh?!

Sorry to hear about the mc Reebok, I hope you have better luck this month. I'm a teacher too and feel like you, I really want to be going back in September being pregnant!

Oo hope the ovulation kit was right Decca! Fingers crossed for you!

Hiya Reebok and Notro, warm welcome to you both!

So sorry to hear about your mcs Reebok. I hope you're ok.

Notro I have to say charting or temping or whatever was a foreign concept to me before looking at this board. I've seen a lot of angst connected to it so no, I'm not tempted at all! Hope you can manage to stay chilled - we'll try and help you if we can.

JustMe fingers crossed hey?!

Tamara, glad you got that hen do sorted. You did the right thing. Definitely hard to plan ahead with things like pregnancy but I think we have to be optimistic and be prepared!

Almost bought a test today in Boots, but was on my lunch break and didn't fancy taking it back in to the office! Day off tomorrow so I'll pick one up then.

Thanks guys. Feeling ok. Have my days but my LO helps me through them and reminds me that I can carry to term. Feeling excited about TTC again. Although starting to get cramps so worried might mean AF is coming early...odd as after a mc I figured would come later.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you decca, justme and dubai!

This group is helping me to feel better already!

Hey ladies welcome Notro

Everyone had a good day? I'm off out to the shops with OH tomorrow to buy vitamins for us both and this week is all go! Had my first DTD without any protection today at CD 10 and I'm now really excited and a little nervous lol

Ooh this TTC could send me loopy keep me calm ladies

Haha! Know what you mean darkpandora! Already on my folic acid and vitamins....to be honest been on it since I was pregnant. Didn't stop in case we decided to try again. Ordered a whole load of preg tests off of amazon. No way am I spending cash on expensive tests like I did last time! Feel excited already as we have dtd a few times...doubt I will get pregnant this cycle though as no idea when I ovulate but in the mean time, may as well have fun dancing! Lol

Hi can I join this relaxed thread obvs a popular approach.
TTC No 2 , no. 1 is 18 months. Not used charting, temping or ovulation kits before & it worked ok with No.1.
Had coil removed last month & taking folic acid. Not really had any symptoms and due AF this week so expecting she will be on time.

Morning Apple nice to have you with us!

Oh Pandora your first time without protection yesterday! It's a strange feeling isn't it? Especially when you've spent all your time up till then making sure you ARE protected

Reebok did the doctor tell you what to expect in these first few weeks? I can't remember specifics from my first time around but I know I had one AF after mc and then conceived right after that.

Welcome apple!

dubai just said it varies with each person but to expect to bleed up to 10 days which I did. With my first mc, I had to have an erpc as I had missed miscarriage. We also decided to wait 3 months rather than try straight away. Can't remember when AF arrived. So all this is rather new to me!