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TTC after MC #5

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Bristolian1 · 18/03/2015 11:41

New thread!
This thread pretty much does what it says on the tin...
Shall we start with some stats?
I'm 32, TTC since last Jan, 2x MMC last year and on second cycle of trying again.

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MarysPrayer · 27/04/2015 20:03

Thank you Littlebunny an Romeo, cd1 is the always the worst day isn't it?

I can relate too carrot and Romeo. I've not yet reached the date when I would have had my 12 week scan but I know that it will be a sad day. As for her due date, well that is etched on my heart for evermore.

Your little rose tree was meant to be Mamama, that's so lovely. I wanted to something to mark my little bean's very brief life. It's so difficult to know what to do. I feel so sad that there is nothing left to remember her by.

Sorry for the sad post. CD1, dh on a night shift and I'm feeling a bit lost tonight.

MarysPrayer · 27/04/2015 20:07

On a happier note: welcome atat and congratulations littlebunny. I am genuinely happy for you; a bit jealous yeah, but you give me hope! xx

AtAt · 27/04/2015 20:38

Thanks for the warm welcome. This feels an end step in the whole journey of my mc, so fingers crossed for a positive result soon

Tootle10 · 27/04/2015 20:49

marysprayer sorry you're feeling low Flowers for you.

I also find it difficult when I think about what would have been. One of my friends is due a week after I would have been due (she doesn't know about my mc) and it's tough not to compare. I just try and detach from it and see everyone else's pregnancies as completely separate to my hopes and dreams. It's tough though!

MissMrsMummy · 27/04/2015 21:20

marys so sorry you're feeling low xx I'm glad to see you still have hope! stay positive!

Adventuregame · 27/04/2015 21:51

So am I right in thinking this is a positive opk ?

TTC after MC #5
Mamama31 · 27/04/2015 21:55

Missmrs yes I remember you saying you were ttc for a while prior to your bfp. That gives me such hope. But also I need to not put everything on it happening soon as the sheer disappointment would be too much. Silent optimism and lots of prayers is the strategy I need to go for!

Marys we did think the little tree was meant to be. We passed it and looked at others but I was thinking the whole time I wanted that one but it was quite expensive. Then DH said "I think we need to get that little tree we passed that said remember me on the label" and I was so relieved as I felt the exact same way! (I'm not exactly green fingers so hoping we can look after it well).

And Marys I'm sorry your feeling low, my DH works shifts also and I do struggle particularly when he's on nights but actually at the moment I struggle when he's working any shift! Hoping for some independence to return sometime soon!!! If you like reading I find that a good book is a great distraction or get a new box set to watch when DH is at work- that helps me.

Adventuregame · 27/04/2015 22:07

mama if you're after a box set - have you watched 'Scandal' ?!!!

Mamama31 · 27/04/2015 23:02

No I haven't is it good?? What's it about? Love a good box set! :) and YES that opk looks pos to me!!!

Adventuregame · 27/04/2015 23:15

So if that's positive it means I'm ovulating on day 26 of first cycle post ERPC which I think for me is pretty good going really. Hopefully af will come 2 weeks today then we'll be officially TTC !!

Yes mama watch Scandal - it's on Sky Box Sets if you have them. Written by Greys Anatomy team and a bit like West Wing but better than both !!!

brickiemum2 · 28/04/2015 07:59

Huge congrats littleb hope your pregnancy is non eventful Smile
Welcome atat
Wine for marys on cd 1
Yes adventure pos opk....could you not just dtd now?
What a lovely thought about the tree mama

brickiemum2 · 28/04/2015 08:06

carrot yes I think we're on a similar cycle! I'm cd 20 and 7dpo I think Now I know we're not supposed to be ttc until I get all my test results back but we did dtd on CD12 before I found that out. Well I know I shouldn't be symptom spotting but.......I feel SO sick, life could hurl at any second. It's been getting worse for the last 3 days. I can hardly bear to put my bra on, my boobs feel like punching bags and when I walk I almost want to hold them in place.
In order to not drive myself crazy I've given my hpt to dh and told him to hide them until what should be CD1 if af doesn't show up.

littlebbunny · 28/04/2015 09:17

Adventure opk looks positive. GL Smile

Adventuregame · 28/04/2015 09:21

Brickie that sounds like symptoms to me even if you weren't looking for them ?
We could dtd but I think because my cycle is so odd/long/unpredictable I wanted to wait out one cycle to see what was happening - and a little more time to get my head in the right place. If I got pg this cycle I think I would worry even more than I will when/if it does happen ? However I am so relieved to know I have ovulated and everything has started to work etc ! I've never studied my bodily functions so much !!!

Adventuregame · 28/04/2015 09:25

Thanks littleb - I feel like I'm on some secret science experiment, taking temp in the early hours when I wake up etc. It amused me this morning. How are you feeling ?

Mamama31 · 28/04/2015 10:28

Brickie wow how could you ignore those symptoms! When I was pg I was walking around holding on to my boobies because they hurt so much....

Adventure I must check that box set out! Thanks! :)

kep1979 · 28/04/2015 10:52

marys sorry the witch got you Flowers

adventure definitely a strong positive - i admire your willpower refraining from dtd Smile My cycles can be long and irregular too, so I totally understand wanting to know where you are with it all.

brickie wow those are some symptoms! I hope they bode well - again I admire your willpower giving dh your hpts!

AFM I had positive opks Sunday morning, and yesterday morning - today's was a potentially positive but a smidge lighter. My temp dipped yesterday, and stayed low today, although my cm changed, so I think I may have ovulated. Will dtd again tonight, just to be sure, and timing looks pretty good. So fingers crossed my temp rises tomorrow. I'm on cd18, so not bad considering what it can be.

Mamama31 · 28/04/2015 11:28

How long did it take you all to get a bfn after mc/d&c?? Just wondering when I should test to check all is back to normal and a bfn :(

ThePug · 28/04/2015 11:29

Hello all
I've been lurking on the thread since finding out last Tuesday I'd mc at around 7 weeks. Had failed medical management Wed/Thurs so went in for ERPC yesterday. All went well (I have had absolutely no bleeding since, so although I know I still might, I presume that means they got 'everything') and I am now anxious to get back to ttc.

I charted very carefully the month we conceived and want to start doing so again now so I have a record of dates etc. I'm using FF. Should I put yesterday in as first day of bleeding so it resets chart to CD1? I'm not planning to actively try this cycle, but will be next one.

It's totally crap how many ladies there are on this thread (and I recognise several of you) but you seem to be a supportive bunch so hope I can tag along for the ride Smile

Mamama31 · 28/04/2015 12:04

Welcome pug! And sorry to hear that you have also been through this horrible experience. I'm sorry I can't help with the charting as I don't do this, but I'm sure another knowledgeable lady will be along soon to advise you.

MarysPrayer · 28/04/2015 12:16

Thanks everyone. I've been at bit tearful last night and this morning. Probably just day 1 hormones.

Sorry to see you here Pug, we've met before on various buses I think Thanks I can't be much help with charting I'm afraid but I think your first day of negative bloods/urine as cd 1.

MarysPrayer · 28/04/2015 12:20

Fingers crossed brickie, good symptoms Smile Wise move to get the hpts confiscated though. I should've done that

ProbablyMe · 28/04/2015 12:27

Well, after positive FRERs at 10 and 11 dpo and "pregnant 1-2 weeks" I a digi at 13dpo today (15dpo) I decided to use my last FRER and the line was fainter so I also used my last digi and got not pregnant. Assuming a chemical pregnancy. I'm absolutely devastated. Sat was was three months since I delivered my baby who died at 15 weeks. I had even dated to feel a bit happy - stupid me. DP works away during the week and I'm all alone waiting to start bleeding. I genuinely hate the world today.

MarysPrayer · 28/04/2015 12:41

Oh, probably I'm so sorry. There are no words really. Do you have anyone in RL to talk to and be with you until your dh is home?

If not then keep talking on here, we're here if you need us. xx

Romeolovesjuliet · 28/04/2015 12:44

Oooh fx for you brickie - sounds very promising.
Welcome pug, sorry you find yourself here. I would count the erpc as CD1 but I could be wrong.
Mama it took about a week after erpc to get neg test and 4.5 weeks after medical management for me. I think they say call them after 2-3 weeks if you're still getting a positive.
probably so sorry to hear of your chemical, that is so tough. And no fun dealing with it on your own either. Flowers to you and to everyone else feeling low today.