2014 will bring me a BFP!

[DulcetMoans]

I seem to remember there was a year thread when I first joined for 2013 but that didn't go my way. I can't see a 2014 one but I am determined to get my BFP in 2014 and hoping positive mental attitude will help.

Thought if see if anyone wants to join with 2014 goal to get upduffed rather than a monthly bus - some of us just need a longer term strategy!

We've been trying for 12 minth's and did 'see what happens' for three months; dtd based on days for a few months; then went to opks since may 2013. My plan was from jan / feb to go back to seeing what happens and also (very sadly) start to plan for life without dc e.g. Decorating the would be nursery as a spare room.

Ttc can take over and I am scared that life is in hold and may pass me by. In the meantime, I await my fertility appt.

All that said, it is sooooo hard too 'unknow' the science so not sure how dtd when we feel like it will do ... I just don't know...

Firstly congrats Lottie!

I'm doing reflexology once a month alongside my cbfm. I like being in control so the monitor suits me...I don't get in a stress with it and oh likes knowing what's what too. I've had one session and it was relaxing and just good to confirm what I already know about ov and all the ins and outs and trust my body a bit more... I aim to go for 6 months (it's not cheap!!!) and then if not preggo we are going to save like mad and book an amazing special holiday for jan instead!

Sazzle great plan! Hope that holiday never comes ! Fx for you

One - I like the sound of your idea! I don't have any to add though!

My tactic for this month is to just look after myself...I'm having a dry January, I'm trying to eat healthier rather than my usual calorie counting (so more protein, vegetables, etc & less processed foods), I'm trying to get more sleep, be a bit more active (using my Fitbit to be my conscience), I'm starting acupuncture next week & I'm making more time to read & chill out, rather than my usual fast pace of life.

I'm not using OPK's, predicting dates, etc. - we're just having sex every 2-3 days & mixing things up with a few new games & outfits

My NY resolution is to not be a slave to this goddamn infertility...but not to give up either ??

Oh & we've planned some weekends away & a holiday in September...pregnant or not, we all need time to relax ??

Can I join? TTC #2 for the last 10 months, 2 chemical pregnancies in august and October. used opks fir the first time this month. Not holding my breath. Ten months ago I had in my head that i would be holding number 2 now, how naive. So here hoping for a sticky bfp this year. X

OneInAMinion I completely agree with you. That's an important thing for a couple trying to conceive as there is so much of stress, sometimes social pressure(not if verbally, sometimes the gestures do the stuff )

I was also stressed out, depressed and thinking of it all the time, forgetting that I have many other things to enjoy along this mission.

So, definitely, the couples must enjoy the whole thing not to be very conscious about the dates, etc.
Have a quality time with your partner, eat well, do exercise, go out for long drives, nice music and here you go!
Just to add a bit more, sip on the green tea more! It really helps

Green tea hey? Will give it a go - thanks fausher!

The more the merrier cotton wool

fauser thanks for the green tea tip - how does it help? just full of good things? it has caffeine in, which i'm not particularly cutting out anyway, just wondered what wonder things it had in as extra!!

Hi cotton - do jon us, think a long term goal is more relaxing than monthly goals...and i all think we had those thoughts 9+ months ago!

Hi everyone

Can I join as well? We have been ttc since Dec 2011, although we have only lived together for a year of that, so it's hard to say exactly how much of a chance we have given ourselves. I used to temp (did it for about 6 months) but found it too stressful, so have stopped all that now and just concentrate on fairly regular dtd particularly around the middle of my cycle. My cycle is pretty regular at 28-29 days, though, so ov is reasonably easy to predict, generally around day 14-15, give or take. Just starting 2ww at the moment so fx :)

Had bloods which were ok and DP has been checked which is ok - Our first appt with fertility clinic is 3rd Feb. What sort of things can we expect from the first appt?

I will have to book a holiday in the next few weeks, I think that's a good idea generally to take my mind off ttc and hopefully will have sod's law effect :)

Green tea does no harms till it is consumed within normal limits. Many people have tried adding green tea to their diet, as it has loads of benefits and helps in conception too.
Just take 2 cups a day from AF ovulation day as it improves the quality of mucus. I also add apple cider vinegar to my cup, I like the combination and its good for CM too.
You can continue after ovulation as well, but I sometimes continue with pomegranate juice from O through the tww.

So, these things do not harm, yet they have no magical powers for conception but do help in boosting the fertility.

Hi ladies, can I join too? Have been off the pill for 9 months and temping for the last 4. First chart was textbook and second was ok, then I had a dodgy one and this month I don't think I have ovulated at all. Have made a docs appointment to get bloods done, hopefully they will do it even though it hasn't been a year yet. We are not the most 'active' couple and it is getting harder to dtd enough and we had our first case of 'failure to perform' last week so have totally given up this month. I am 34 and wondering if I have left it too late. I am looking for a new job to have something else to focus on and hoping to have sod's law effect too!!

Hi jenny. Welcome aboard. Just wanted to recommend maybe exaggerating a bit to the gp in case he is funny about the 12 month thing. Just practice saying 'we've been trying for 12 minths in January...

Good luck !

Welcome ladies!

Good knowledge fausher...I'll be getting on the green tea trail soon

Not sure about other people's first appointments Jennifer, but at ours they basically recorded lots of info on how long we've been trying, periods, previous pregnancies, history & that kind of thing, worked out my BMI, took a smear type swab, gave me the paperwork for more day 3 & 21 blood tests (as there were questions over my ovulation), booked my hubby in for semen analysis & authorised me for a HSG exam (which you can't book until day 1 of your period). Apparently some places do ultrasounds too. Appointment 2 was then to discuss the results & next steps.

Hope that helps?

Evening all !!
I have just poured acup of green tea with lemon( pulls funny face as disgusts my taste buds!!)
But as I have reached the point of trying anything and I mean anything here goes
I have tried reflexology and Chinese medicine from an Indian Canadian witch doctor that was soooooo vile but promised results!!! Held my nose and still vomited up the boiled up mixture yoik!!!!
Anyways sorry for the tmi!!

So for me I am back on the conception tablets and Dtd night before last and will be tonight day 14
However not had the correct mucus yet but wTching pants closely

Fxfor 2014 and all our bfps xx

Has anyone used conceive plus fertility lubricant? It gets great reports on Amazon from those that have used it.

Dildoos - Chinese medicine from an Indian Canadian?! Love it!

one I've been using preseed for two minths. Let you know if I get my BFP on Friday. FX but high hopes!

One - no I haven't but I too have read great results but apparently the tablets cause the mucus to be sperm friendly?! I know it was a long shot and totally changed by usually 28 day to the hour cycle too anything from 28-38 day cycle and different ! Never ever again!!!! I haven't tried smep yet so next cycle that's my plan x

Sorry talking about Indian Canadian bring the long shot

Fx for you m33r x

How did I spend my youth worrying that I'd get pregnant at the drop of a hat when all these lotions & potions are required with precision timing?!

FX m33r!

Ha me too!!! I often wonder if the amount of precautions I took has made me super protected?! I took3 years to conceive dd5 ( almost 6 ) and now been trying to conceive 2 and 1/2 years and feeling like the older I get the less chance of having the 3 I dreamed off is looking slim . I feel wonderfully lucky I have dd but dp has no blood child but his bond with my daughter is just wonderful and no one would ever guess not his blood child. Anyway enough of my sob story I will have a 2014 bfp am sure xx

I had some AF cramps last evening and finally AF is here. The symptoms really deceived me this time. The cycle was long too this time and lots of stuff different. Anyways, I have my appointment with the Dr on my day 2. Let's see how it goes as I never had any such visits to dr before. [Smile]