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2014 will bring me a BFP!

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DulcetMoans · 28/12/2013 00:12

I seem to remember there was a year thread when I first joined for 2013 but that didn't go my way. I can't see a 2014 one but I am determined to get my BFP in 2014 and hoping positive mental attitude will help.

Thought if see if anyone wants to join with 2014 goal to get upduffed rather than a monthly bus - some of us just need a longer term strategy!

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m33r · 04/02/2014 17:25

dog I agree that maybe you're wee isn't concentrated enough. Give it another go in the morning. Let us know how you go; will be thinking of you.

cotton I'm really pleased for you. Hoping and praying it all goes well. How long have you been ttc again?

I'm on 12dpo; ttc 1; cycle 14 and just got a bfn. Just devastated. I know I'm not out yet but I am just gutted. And sad. And a bit lost. Don't want to talk to anyone (have DH who understands and friend in RL who understands) but donmt want to do anything else. Just numb.

DogandBeth · 05/02/2014 11:01

Hi m33r so sorry to hear you're feeling low. Maybe you've just tested too early? It's a horrible roller coaster of emotions when you're ttc isn't it?
I did a test this morn but was such a faint line and I'm getting period type cramps so I'm sure it's just a matter of time before the mc begins.

cottonwool4brains · 05/02/2014 22:58

M33r, about 10 months, still don't quite believe that things will be ok but I guess only time will tell. Keep your fingers crossed for me!

m33r · 06/02/2014 08:33

dog it is a roller coaster and I suppose I just didnmt expect it to be which makes it worse. Try to think positive. Have you been to docs? I think that the amount of dye in the tests can keep the line feint even if the hormone is increasing... Can you get a digi and see what it says?

cotton I have everything crossed for you!!! I bet it was a long ten months!

DogandBeth · 06/02/2014 09:25

Hi all as I feared, mc started today. That makes 3 in 11 months.I'm pretty tough but even for me this is getting a bit too much to take.
Just hope it will be over quickly and not too painful.
M33r any news for you as yet?
Cotton am keeping it crossed for you too.

JennyOfOldstones · 06/02/2014 14:58

So sorry DandB, sending hugs. Have you been to the docs? I don't know much about it but they can give you progesterone to help with mc I think? I hope it is over soon and you can get on to the next one which will hopefully be sticky. Take care x

m33r · 06/02/2014 19:17

Oh dog, I am so sorry. Thinking of you.

Nothing here 13dpo; usually 16 day lp so still 3 days til I'm out. Didn't test today but I'm pretty sure AF is coming. Just trying to stay postive which is not easy as you know. Do you have support in RL?

So sorry again. Thinking of you x

DogandBeth · 07/02/2014 12:39

Thanks jenny and m33r really appreciate your replies. Am going to call doctor on monday as nice doctor I spoke to there last week only works monday and Tuesday and some of the others there are a bit patchy and don't want to get fobbed off. Am going to try and rest and recover a bit at the weekend and hopefully will feel a bit stronger next week.

fausher · 10/02/2014 17:42

Hey Ladies! I am back again. I had clomid from CD 4 in my last cycle for 5 days. Then I had my Fluroscopy... all good, no issues :-)
This was the first time ever, that I couldn't figure out my ovulation days. No Ovulation because of the Clomid, else I never had any such problem.
I had my serum progesterone test on CD 21 and level was 11.9, quite low.
The doctor has now advised to have the Laproscopy in next cycle, I am really afraid and reluctant. I'm clueless what to do.
I'm sipping on the green tea and apple cider vinegar as usual, and will start some orange juice too.

cottonwool4brains · 15/02/2014 18:25

Well I think I am driving myself mad. On Wednesday I convinced myself I was going to bleed (horrible abdomen pain) so I did a cb digital which said 3+, all good as wad 4 +4. Supposed to be 5 weeks today... Stupidly used the other test..... And now it's saying 2-3..... I don't think I could be more anxious... My DH is cross withme for doing another test. Are these thing inaccurate? Or is this another chemical?

cottonwool4brains · 15/02/2014 18:26

I guess I want someone to say yes this happened to me and it was all fine.

sazzlehopes · 18/02/2014 16:25

cotton - i think cb diggies are notoriously bad at detecting the weeks. It depends on so many factors - like time of day, concentration of pee and other stuff that the indicator bit is unreliable. I think the only way you can be sure you are ok is to go to the docs, get them to do a blood test and then repeat it to check your levels. FX you are ok. Please keep us posted. Thinking of you Thanks

sazzlehopes · 18/02/2014 16:25

m33r - hugs, hope you are ok xxx

cottonwool4brains · 18/02/2014 18:54

Is apparently increasing fine! Damn you cb digital for causing me so much stress.

sazzlehopes · 18/02/2014 18:58

cotton, so pleased to hear that - step away from the tests!!!

m33r · 18/02/2014 20:20

Great news cotton. Got AF last Friday so out AGAIN. Next time ...

JennyOfOldstones · 19/02/2014 16:46

I am out too for this month, 2 days late as well which is just cruel!! Having reflexology at the weekend, might make it a regular thing if I like it. Also got a new job which will hopefully be a bit less stressful than my current one. Unfortunately I now don't have anything to distract me from obsessing about ttc.....

You doing anything different next month m33r?

m33r · 19/02/2014 18:31

Hi jenny. I've got nothing left... Tried preseed, SMEP, opks, relaxing (very early months of ttc), grapefruit juice, vita for him...

I booked reflexology then canceled as DH away on ov day this month (very upsetting). Going to go private for further sub fertility investigations - been waiting months on nhs - and try reflexology but not til march.

Booking a holiday this month and trying to dtd as much as poss though will miss ov and day before (assuming ov follows the same pattern).

Very down heartened but more numb than anything... Kinda feeling it won't be for us. Thinking of adoption longer term. Waiting for free turns of ivf on nhs first though so it all just seems very far away and very out of my hands.

Oh well!

How're you?

m33r · 19/02/2014 18:34

Sorry jen I meant how're you feeling about things? Good about the job! That might distract you a bit... FX for the reflexology - do keep us posted!

Jessewalt · 19/02/2014 21:27

Just a bit of an update. Cycle 9. Been trying to keep away from mumsnet, mainly as it fuels my obsession with ttc! Currently day 24, getting my usual pre-AF cramps, and just waiting...
I have had bloods done, and husband has booked an appointment with pathology lab for next week to hand in his sample.
Other than that, another pregnancy announcement this week. Trying to stay positive and happy!

JennyOfOldstones · 20/02/2014 11:55

I have been feeling ok m33r have set myself a deadline of the summer holidays to take the next step, which will be persuading DP to get tested and if he is ok I will start my tests. I was worse before Christmas, kept thinking 'if I get pregnant this month we can tell people at Christmas' etc. So the new year was a nice clean slate. Looking for a new job has distracted me nicely. Every month seems so long though, it must be so frustrating for you missing ov day. There is something to be said for things being out of your hands, I have a few friends who got pregnant while waiting for IVF referral.

Jesse for me its births at the moment, I have one or two friends popping every month and it is so difficult isn't it? Especially when they are second and third babies.

Jessewalt · 21/02/2014 11:00

The dreaded AF has started again. Interestingly, my progesterone on day 22 (calculated day 21 wrong - oops) was 43.0 which is apparently quite good. But I started spotting the next day? Doesn't make much sense. Also period was early. Disappointing really. Don't really understand what is going on. At least I ovulate. Husband sperm analysis a week on Monday. Can't pretend I am not worries about this. Oh well, just need to wait and see.

Jessewalt · 21/02/2014 11:01

Ps I also hate Facebook, every time I see someone posting a scan picture, I want to delete them as a friend! Need to control the jealousy!

JennyOfOldstones · 24/02/2014 09:49

jesse a pregnant woman sat next to me on the train this morning and it put me in such a bad mood!! I can still be happy for friends but strangers, no.

Well I went for reflexology and had a few sore spots, my adrenal and pituitary glands and also my heart which was interesting as I do get palpitations but didn't tell the therapist. She also found that my left fallopian tube was possibly blocked, it was so painful I nearly jumped off the table! And it is still throbbing now!! So that might be a problem...

Can't really go to the docs on that basis though!!

gwenabee85 · 01/03/2014 12:27

Just checking in, have been trying to stay away for a while! How's everyone doing? I'm currently cd18, ewcm (tmi) and have been dtd every other day from day 8, my apps are both saying tomorrow is ov day so we're giving up after the weekend for this cycle! Not sure how many months we'll be able to keep this up Blush