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2014 will bring me a BFP!

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DulcetMoans · 28/12/2013 00:12

I seem to remember there was a year thread when I first joined for 2013 but that didn't go my way. I can't see a 2014 one but I am determined to get my BFP in 2014 and hoping positive mental attitude will help.

Thought if see if anyone wants to join with 2014 goal to get upduffed rather than a monthly bus - some of us just need a longer term strategy!

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PinkHat1 · 02/01/2014 10:30

Ps Bellaboo I won't be stopping to avoid a Xmas baby. On fact I couldn't think of anything more lovely! My birthday is in 7 days so quite like the idea of a Capricorn baby :-)

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 02/01/2014 10:36

can I join.

dp had a vasectomy reversal in Nov and we started ttc straight away, got to wait till Feb for his 3mth sample before we find out if it's actually worked but the Dr was optimistic so keeping fingers crossed.

Lottiedoubtie · 02/01/2014 10:40

Thanks everyone.

Feeling a bit more rational this morning! Still no AF. I'm going to test with FMU tomorrow which is (I think) 14dpo and when AF is due.

But to be honest I'm approximating a bit, so I might be way off.

If I'm still doing this next month I'm going to stop guesstimating I think! Time to get serious..

Lottiedoubtie · 02/01/2014 11:19

Ps- no, no stopping to avoid an Xmas baby here either. The chances of actually giving birth on one or two particular days is pretty minimal.

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps · 02/01/2014 11:30

Eh no we won't be stopping. If you've read the thread further up you'll see that many of us are struggling with various infertility problems and that any baby on any date will be a giant blessing.

MissHobart · 02/01/2014 11:59

I'm with you Unicorn ! No stopping till I have a baby! Grin

I don't care when it's born so long as I have one, two, three?! Hmm

Jessewalt · 02/01/2014 12:13

Can I join too? Feeling pretty blue. Currently just started cycle 8 of ttc 1 and no hint of a bfp. Went to a new year party where several friends announced pregnancy and my best friend was suspiciously not drinking (she already has 2 children).
I was so sure I would be pregnant by now. The most difficult thing is that I would really like some initial investigations done. I don't want to lie to my gp and I am sure they will agree to do some basic tests. I can't help feeling there is a problem. Trying very hard to stay positive.
I can't really deal with joining the monthly buses as I feel continually disappointed, so this is much better - I like the long term goal.
Good luck to all!

Treadlightly · 02/01/2014 12:26

Can I join too?
We've been ttc dc2 for 2 years now.

Had al the tests & so far it's just unexplained secondary infertility. :(

On my 4th cycle of clomid now but feeling really disheartened. Everyone I know seems to be pregnant or have a tiny baby.

Got to stay positive, 2014 will be a lucky year for us I'm sure

Helen87 · 02/01/2014 13:27

Hey everyone. Wondered if someone could give me some advice please! I finished on the pill at the end of Oct then had 8 weeks without a period and then an 11 day bleed. So basically I have no idea when I will ovulate this month. I have ordered some ovulation tests but I dont know if I might be a bit late to start testing this month?! I started light spotting on Fri 20th Dec, is this classed as the first day of my cycle?

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps · 02/01/2014 15:04

Helen my advice would be to give it time to settle down and record what's going on. It might take a little while to settle down. Seems most folk on here settle down pretty quickly (unlike me...been off hormonal contraception for 18 months and my last cycle was 77 days!).

MissHobart good to know someone else has the same opinion Hmm

I'm going dry for January, get back on the healthy wagon!

Jessewait I don't join buses either....mainly because they are a load of shite and to actually keep up with them you have to be there typing every single day and whilst TTC is a huge part of our life at the moment, we've also got an ongoing life too! Far too depressing, especially when the one shag wonders join the bus, have a shag and are upduffed as soon as possible!

fausher · 02/01/2014 15:10

Thanks. Hoping for the best.

Helen87 · 02/01/2014 15:28

Unicorns- thanks for the advice. That's crazy isn't it. Were you on the pill? My cycles were normal before going on the pill but that was 10 years ago and I was only 15 so it could have totally changed now!

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps · 02/01/2014 15:35

Was on the implant not the pill. But before that been on the injection, the coil for 24 hours and the pill. Body is messed up!!

I'd recommend the 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility' book. That's really helpful!

Helen87 · 02/01/2014 15:39

Ah right, sounds complicated! I really had no idea how much hassle it could all cause until I came off it. I'm sure no one told me!

Thanks for that, I'll have a look for it :) I'm trying not to get obsessed but it's hard! My closest friends all have little babies and they all got pregnant within 3 months of trying. But obviously not everyone gets that lucky!

PinkHat1 · 02/01/2014 15:51

Jesse I can't keep up with the buses thread which is why I decided not to join in this month. Also glad this thread was created.

Helen not sure if I can suggest anything different to Unicorn. Have you tried temping? That helped me work out whether I was ovulating or not.

Flofly1 · 02/01/2014 15:59

Hello - I would love to join this... I joined the BFP 2013 - got pregnant in Jan and then miscarried - since then..... nothing.

First sample of husband's sperm has come back with low motility - he is being retested.

Trying to be positive for 2014 but it's a bit of a knock at the beginning. :(

Great thread though.... could do with some chums!

Helen87 · 02/01/2014 17:24

Pinkhat- I've not tried anything yet really. I'm not sure if it's too soon or if it's a good idea to start working it out from this early after coming off the pill?! I might see if I have a more normal cycle this month and then take it from there. I'm hoping it goes back to normal but I've read so much saying it can take ages.

Is it complicated? Had a quick look online at the book Unicorn recommended and that seems to go in to a lot of detail!

PinkHat1 · 02/01/2014 18:08

You could wait until your cycle returns to normal before temping? I don't find it difficult at all. Only tricky bit is making sure you take your temp exactly the same time every morning otherwise results can come up as inaccurate and harder to figure out your ovulating day. I'm no expert as I've only been doing it for 3 months! Though I'm sure some if the ladies on here could offer some useful advice too?

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DulcetMoans · 02/01/2014 18:45

Hi flofly! That is a downer to start 2014 but hopefully it gets better from here. Identifying the problem is the first step, if there is an issue with DH SA then they can hopefully start the process of helping you get there

Is that book good unicorns? I've heard it mentioned a few times but not looked it up. I've read Zita West which was informative but... Still no BFP!

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sazzlehopes · 02/01/2014 21:13

I'm happy about this thread and the long term goals rather than keeping up too much with the buses...
I am definitely not worrying about when I fall pregnant...last year I naively sat out two months for fear of a Xmas day baby and another child born in January. Ds is born beg jan...now after 13 cycles I couldn't care less when i have a baby!!!

OneInAMinion · 02/01/2014 21:13

I'm having a dry January too unicorns - hopefully it's good practice! Wink

I was just wondering what the consensus is on clomid? Our gynaecologist said she doesn't prescribe it unless blood tests indicate clear ovulation problems as it's not proven to be effective in those circumstances, but other people in our boat (unexplained infertility) seem to be taking it following medical advice. Should I be pushing for or not?

OneInAMinion · 02/01/2014 21:16

My b'day is the week before Xmas & I love being a December baby...my family & friends spoil me rotten so I don't feel forgotten & an anytime baby would suit me just fine Smile I'd even take just having 1 despite thinking/hoping that we'd have a few kids.

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps · 02/01/2014 21:37

What is wrong with a Christmas baby?! I'm one too and its rather nice. I'm exactly the same as OneInAMinion.

Yep book is good. Makes much more sense. If you buy it then get a digital thermometer too. Its been good because now I've started seeing the fertility clinic I've been able to show them the different cycles and when I believe I have or haven't ovulated.

robindeer · 02/01/2014 22:48

Can I join too? Been TTC for months now, GP suspects pcos but has advised patience. Not getting any younger though... I'll second the recommendation for 'taking charge of your fertility'- I wish I'd read it years ago! It's really useful (and reassuring!)

twinklestar2 · 03/01/2014 00:03

Dulcet - I finally conceived after 2.5 years and a failed IVF cycle. Currently 8 weeks pregnant from a frozen cycle of ivf. It's been a long horrible road so feel very blessed, just hope this goes ok, still a long way to go!

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