TTC 10+ months Part 13

[buzzybee123]

A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

[buzzybee123]

very true euro

[MuddyWellyNelly]

euro that is indeed true. But I came to that conclusion about 18 months in, and don't need any more time to realise just how lucky I'll be to have a baby . C'mon already!

I am jealous of you and critter having drinkies in DC. And critter your life sounds fab :)

[CritterPants]

Agreed, we need a 10+er badge of honour for when the miniature versions do finally turn up! That Tuesday night will be perfect euro - I'm already looking forward to it. It's crap luck about the weekend as apart from my early April week away, I don't have any out-of-town trips planned til June!

nelly you and I will have a Scottish meet up one day, I'll make sure of it. Talisker whisky will be involved.

And one day I will make it to London when you're all having a big 10 plusser meet up and get to meet all the gang! Oh happy day that will be.

[EuroShagmore]

I had my lap years ago, but I felt very very tender and sore afterwards and could not possibly have contemplated dtd then!

[EuroShagmore]

If you really want to have a go, you could try the turkey baster method?

[mrsden]

There is no way I would have wanted to have sex the day after a lap. I was sore, bruised, feeling sick, weak etc. in fact my op was almost 3 weeks ago and we still haven't done it yet. But everyone is different.

[mrsden]

You might find ovulation is delayed anyway because of the drugs. My af came later than expected.

[mrsden]

The general anaesthetic, painkillers, sedatives etc.

[mrsden]

I have no idea whether it does delay it or not. But I know stress can delay it for me and the op was a time of stress. They also gave me lots of ibuprofen and that can delay ovulation. Honestly, I wouldn't make plans, see how you feel. I was in quite a bit if pain afterwards and it took me 10 days to feel myself again. It might be a small and routine proceedure but it is still abdominal surgery. If you do manage it the day after then I will be in awe of you!

[mrsden]

Also, I bled for a couple of days afterwards. It was a bit like a mini period. I don't think everyone gets this but the dr said it was normal because my uterus had been shoved about!

[rabbitonthemoon]

Running in here to say gail there is no way AT ALL I could have had sex the day after my lap! I was sore, bleeding, miserable and am not a grit my teeth and get on with it person (and I would have needed gritted teeth). My cons says it makes a difference for 3 cycles. Good luck with the lap, it took me a good week to feel back to normal, mostly due to the GA but on a grand scale of ttc things, it's not so bad.

WAve to the fluffy tailed ones, back soon.

[lovesLemonDrizzleCake]

Same with me gail, there was absolutely no way there was any sex the week after my lap. I did get a BFP the IUI cycle after the lap cycle (but mc). If you think you can do the deed, you amight not be taking the lap seriously enough. Even if there is nothing at all wrong with you, the GA takes some time to clear, I had spotting for a few days as well, like mrsd and the gas made me fairly uncomfortable doing anything more strenously than lazing about and feeling sorry for myself for about 4 days.

Waves from a very busy lemon!

[lovesLemonDrizzleCake]

I really have no idea why you would want to have sex after that, but people are different, so fair game on you. For what is it worth I felt a hell of a lot better physically after mc than after the lap (psychologically is was the other way round). Btw will you report back on the success both of DTD that night and on the result of that shag.

[mrsden]

I'm that you could want to do it the day after an Erpc. But, an Erpc doesn't actually involve wounds in the abdomen, my wounds were really quite tender for a few days afterwards, I couldn't have anything touch them and I wasn't able to lie on my side or front.

[EuroShagmore]

So you turn up on the thread, ask a question, to which you receive a unanimous answer (from people taking time to post their experiences for your benefit), tell us you are going to reject that unanimous advice because you "must be hardcore" and then have a flounce?

[buzzybee123]

sex after your ERPC !!!!! I was too devastated to think of sex after both my ERPC's I was trying to get my head around what I had lost, but if you feel that desperate good luck to you

[lovesLemonDrizzleCake]

Gail as I had a natural miscarriage I continued bleeding very heavily for about a week afterwards, we're talking the level of blood loss that makes you unable to leave the house for the first days. So obviously, there was no way we could do anything of the sort. I can get consolation sex, but having had no experience of an EPRC, I assumed the results would perhaps be quite bloody.
Incidentally, if you're surprised me and the other ladies needed time off after the lap, to put stuff in perspective I went back to work as soon as the blood loss left up a little after the mc. That was after 3 days.
I just asked you to report back, because I was curious to see whether you would be able to manage. Considering you called yourself "hardcore" in the context of sex after EPRC and were aiming for gritted teeth sex post-lap. I don't think you have any right to be offended by our comments. Each to their own.

[lovesLemonDrizzleCake]

Okay, you obviously made me feel weird by your response gail but meanwhile I think euro and buzzy have confirmed what I thought.