TTC 10+ months Part 13

[buzzybee123]

A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

gail you asked for advice and you got it, if you don't like the answers well don't ask the question I don't think it has anything to with being 'hardcore' its your choice, but the joy of these threads is that everyone is entitled to their opinions and that is what you got, perhaps you need to ask yourself why you are so desperate to be having sex straight after a medical procedure, good luck

lemon you're lovely and don't let anyone tell you anything different :) < wags finger>

gail YES I find it creepy that you had sex after an ERPC!!! There are other ways to express love without having sex. You asked the ladies on here about their experiences and you got their advice, life would be boring if all thought the same

Hello ladies.

A bit of a funny day on here! Having done some mumsnet detective work I can conclude that gail is actually viv, apparently returning to mumsnet after being banned for some reason. Have I got that right gail? Seems pretty odd to come back on thread and pretend to be new, only to get annoyed with people that you've been chatting to for some time. Makes me wonder why you were banned in the first place. This is a really lovely thread that has provided a lot of us with support and encouragement and I would hate to see it become less welcoming because of things like this.

Okay. Rant over. I am otherwise in a very good mood as it is now half term. Hoorah!!

gail or viv actually makes alot of sense :) I have a right and an entitlement to comment on topics on this thread as I see fit, perhaps you should have kept that little gem about the ERPC to yourself.

madness you are right about the thread :) I thought half term was after the 15th?? But yay to being off work I have had a half day, and there is something quite satisfying about finishing the day at lunchtime

..and there's me just enjoying the 2ww sex ban

Sorry ladies viv has name changed many a time on MN after offense caused and returned to threads after name changes. I would have felt like a shit mentioning it before, as everyone was getting along and none of that occurred on this thread. Sorry though.

Loves to all.

Probably different dates up north buzzy. Half days are lovely. i always feel like I'm being very cheeky being out in town in the early afternoon

Oh, I know that feeling of being a bit cheeky. I really like wondering around town whenever I am off. Particularly something like a Tuesday morning... Although I am always surprised by the number of people out and about!

doll!

How are you doing?

We weren't banned by our clinic. I've read mixed advice on the internet. We haven't seen any action since a couple of days prior to EC. I had so much traffic up my chuff lately I really wasn't up for any more! But my libido was crazy yesterday though and I really think I would have gone for it if I hadn't ended up working until 11pm!

anyway back on track.............

euro and doll how are you both feeling, one more week to go :)

rabbit how are you feeling today

critter I love these poetry trips you have, they sound great

gin hope you are starting to feel like yourself

pout can I ask if you have to mix your drugs up first?? I might need some advice when mine arrive

well I was planning to get lots done this week but work has been crazy, next week just as crazy, I need to call Shehata to get him to write me a prescription soon

I am keen for the meet up but have just realised that I have agreed to meet up with some friends on the 23rd of this month, hopefully it won't clash

x posts with a few people

madness I only know its half term here when certain colleagues are off I had to come home and wait for my bathroom delivery. I did let Kayla out onto the balcony to try and keep Pam and Pete away as they clearly have designs to try and nest again

lemon I remember being down Oxford St one Wednesday morning and being surprised about how many people were there, I kept thinking my taxes are paying for these people to shop down here, in reality they were most likely tourists

And everyone else on their odd day off. It is a lovely luxury feeling. Maybe I should plan one, work has been really busy and I have my last assignment for the course that finished last week due in on Sunday, so NO time. But soon, I hope!

And whoosh, gail disappears.

buzzy I'm a bit sad. I woke up this morning feeling absolutely certain that my little embie didn't make it. I had been having "symptoms" and felt madly hormonal up until I went to bed yesterday. I just think it is all over now. It was 9dpo when it all went wrong in November after a week of nausea and symptoms.

I have been rubbish at organising the meet up (although tbf to myself, I have had quite a lot on recently ). I will try to get round to messaging those who were interested over the next few days.

A friend warned me today that a mutual old schoolfriend is having IVF at the moment, and her OTD is... tomorrow. So she is 4 days ahead of me (there used to be a gang of 5 of us at school, so that is 2 of the 5 cycling at the same time and another one who already has IVF babies!). She posted something on FB last night about there being "one more sleep to go" so the mutual friend felt that she had to warn me. I doubt she would be posting that if she wasn't sure it had worked. Meh. I'm rather sick of being left behind. And this would leave me as the last of the 5 of us without kids.

I'm always amazed how many people are around whenever I am off during the week too. I guess you have SAHMs, shift workers, restaurant workers, performing arts types, retail where you get a day off in the week but have to work the weekend.

Hope you are doing ok.

euro I actually was given a sex ban this time and I'm making the most of it along,by the way, with a smoking ban (this is the middle east after all). last time I just got a raised eyebrow about "working outside the home".

buzzy thanks for asking, I feel ok, I mean it's impossible to say, I just push it out of my mind.

Thinking about rabbit though. You ok? Any thoughts following Mr Big? I have no experience of IUI or clomid to add, in brief I didn't see enough reason to try, but that's just me.

euro and doll its not over till the bit*h arrives. For some reason it feels like a long 2ww and I'm not even in it I suppose its best to get a heads up on the friend

Oh euro hang on in there. We all know how hard it is to keep the faith but your friend having a positive outcome doesn't mean that you won't too.

I am also fascinated my critter's poetry weekends. Wish that I could come to the states as well. I don't think I'll make it back to North America until maternity leave chooses to grace us with her presence. Then I can justify a long haul flight to visit family

Back to the being out and about on a weekday topic.... When I was recovering from the surgery and infection last year the GP told me to go for a walk every day to get my strength back up. One day I walked down to the chemist to pick up a prescription and realised that I was off on sick leave, standing in a queue beside the methadone window. I live in a colourful neighbourhood to say the least!!

Critter - how confusing, I wonder if you have indeed ovulated. Ovary twangs occur pre and post ovulation. Sorry for this gross question but would you say your cm has gone very creamy since the possible ovulation date - that can be a good sign that ovualation has been and gone. Nothing wrong with looking toward IVF. I am of the opnion that both natural ttc and ivf / iui can work along side each other. IVF does not have to mean last chance saloon if that makes sense.

On that note Nelly - did you say your cycle were a bit more fertile since IVF? Crossing everything for you.

Doll - I have been thinking of you lots. It is normal to expect the worst and it is mostly what I do too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about ttc and one day drawing a line. But now is not that time. Good luck. xx

Buzz - your positive thinking is catching. How exciting to think adoption as well as IVF is on the cards. There is no way you won't be a mum!

will post again

Oh did I miss some fireworks today? Is this the Viv that posted for a few days, when I was away I think? OK I'm kind of glad it's turned out this way because the posts were a bit antagonistic, just subtly so. What a weird thing to do .

euro I hope you are wrong! It's too early to know for sure - just look at Joy. (Where is Joy by the way? Still really really hoping all is well there. And all the Grads, who promised not to leave us .) And doll too - it's not over yet.

I am being a bit rubbish at keeping up with the thread at the moment. I am convinced my period is about to arrive. I'm on CD21, after a 40 day cycle last time (post IVF). I have had a tiny bit of brown spotting since day 17. Normal cycles are about 27 days so who knows what the blazes this is.

Anyway it is Friday night and there is about to be opened, hurrah. Not sure I'll have much chance to check in over the weekend, so I hope it's a good one :)

Guys if you are feeling like getting 'kreativ', there are lots of places that do similar writing retreats in the UK. Arvon courses are amazing, in particular - they do them for all sorts of writing courses - not just poetry - food writing, plays, memoir, children's books etc. Quite pricey but really wonderful - I'd totally recommend them. They tend to be 5 days - Monday evening to Saturday morning.

euro and doll - I totally agree with buzzy, hang in there - this is a really long 2ww and it must be incredibly stressful. But it isn't over yet. I wish I could say something to make the horrible wait easier.

madness at methadone counter!

Waves to all - can't wait for the weekend to start, it's been a long week!

Sarlat I most definitely didn't say it was more fertile . Oh no no no no no, I'd never make such a sweeping assumption. I did however possibly say I had way more CM, which in normal, bus-dwelling insta-differs, might be cause for celebration. . But as per post above, I think in retrospect my cycles are fucked.

xpost sar and nelly

nelly hello! I know what you mean... those earlier posts could be a tiny bit odd in tone... like when you meet someone who seems really nice but you instinctively feel as though you don't want to get on the wrong side of them. Hurrah for Friday night wine, that's going to be me in a few hours! I'm toying with the idea of giving up booze for Lent again. Your spotting sounds very interesting. It sounds like something is going on - don't want to fuel mentalling but I would be very curious about that. Have you had any other symptoms apart from feeling PMTy?

sar how are you my lovely? You must be on a 2ww now. Very interesting about the ovary twangs - I did not know that they could occur post ovulation. My CM hasn't really changed - but to be honest, there hasn't been a lot of it. Every now and then I will feel like some has appeared and scuttle to the loo to see if it's EW, but nada. I think I will just keep temping for another month and then probably go back to the doctor in mid-to late March to get started on the Pill in preparation for an April/May cycle, if nothing's happened by then. In a way, it's been good, because I think I'll be more private about IVF this time round - not with you guys of course, but I won't talk about having it to my friends/family/colleagues like I would have if I'd done it in January. Because I had a period, everyone thinks we're going to try naturally for six months, so I will have breathing space without every conversation revolving around it.

sar I am keen on the idea of adoption, I'm not keen on the process, but needs must so best to get on with it, I believe it is alot easier than it used to be, and I have no intention on waiting until after IVF, I imagine most couples still try even though they have started the adoption process, I like the idea of being a mum to a child that isn't mine, giving them a better family life and future

critter how you deal with these cycles I just don't know, what a total pain. You always seem very good humoured about it. The breathing space it a good thing. IVF is enough to deal with without managing the expectations of lots of other people.

wanders in scratching head at what the feck has gone off on here today I saw the opening gambit about sex the day after a lap (which did make me raise an eyebrow & snort a bit) but then British Gas came to fix the boiler and I missed the rest. I am sorry lemons and buzzy if you were offended/upset. lemons you handled your MC with so much grace and strength and I was genuinely in awe of you.
Was it really viv ? Why??? Must admit when she arrived I did think it bad form to have the hump because a former thread buddy had got her BFP

euro don't lose hope yet. Who knows what is going on in there.

Nelly Snap on the feeling like AF is about to arrive anytime. Some cycles are just plain strange!

doll at the sex ban.

buzzy You have me worried about your question about mixing drugs. I have been shown how to do the Bureselin (sp?) and there's no mixing, just drawing it up straight from the bottle. I had a quick run through the pen thing too and there was no mention of mixing. Just adjusting the pen to the required dosage and stick yourself with it

madness I did laugh at your uplifting stroll.

Waves to critter and sarlat and everyone