Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

[Bunnygirlie]

Ladies, Time for a new thread for us oldies (well not that old) TTC number 1 and our MN friends who have their BFP but are still coming along for the ride :-)

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF due end Nov
Winkle, ttc 15 months, BFP due 19/11
Zombies, ttc 2 cycles, erratic cycle, PCOS. Next POAS not before 15 December.
Pipbin, ttc 15 cycles, BFP due 27/11
BraveLilBear TTC cycle 1 after early mc, BFP due 18/11

Aquarius, 32, ttc 8 mths, bfp due mid dec
Happylass TTC cycle 3 BFP due 8/12
Janey, 38, six weeks pg
Rach, 34, PG 7+5. Booking appointment on Wednesday.
Quod, 33, six weeks pg
HazleNutt 8 weeks pg

Sorry if I missed anyone :-)

Welcome golden. I too got fed up of joining monthly threads when I met a girl who was desperate for her seventh. No kidding!
You are never too old.
Well I had mw app yesterday and she made me feel so much better. Said most of her patients are over 35 these days and pg is not high risk just because we are elderberries. Told me to be positive unless proven otherwise and as far as she can see I'm doing well but may be eating too much and was told to slow down or I'll end up an elephant

strike through fail

Oh I'm definitely going to get that chat - in eating for four out here! And coming back home for Christmas won't help. Mind you, think of all the booze calories I will be saving... More Quality Street for me!

Def not high brow - but when your brother you adore buggers off to the other side of the world, and takes your gorgeous nephew you have no choice but to save and visit them. And much as I like Singapore, it soon gets boring. Air Asia are the equivalent of Ryanair so a few days elsewhere is very cheap!

Last night in Thailand tonight - then a boat trip, tuk tuk, plane and another plane home - then straight to central london for bloods and scan. Got the fear!

Ps bunny where are you? Nearly time for a new thread, and we all know it's your job

Yaaaaay! Just got my LH surge at noon. Yesterday's OPK at 5pm was only a very faint line. When should I assume my LH started (I am obsessed with the 24-36 hr window between LH and ov)? I guess what I'm really asking is do we need to have sex tomorrow aswell as tonight? We DTD Tuesday, Thursday, 1am this morning and are doing it again tonight. Seriously think DP will commit Hara-kiri if I make demands on his bleeding knob manhood tomorrow, too.

That's a tricky question golden. I had smiley on sat and only shagged on fri and sat. As it turns out I didn't conceive until the wed so I guess it depends how strong the swimmers are! Might be safe to demand one more tomorrow but you might also be ok like I was!

Hi Golden and welcome!
I am currently 13+4 and my dating scan suggests conception was on Wed 3rd October. I got the LH surge on the morning of Tues 2nd October and apparently the swimmers should already be waiting and ready to pounce at the first sight of the egg so I would suggest a shag tonight should be enough, but for peace of mind I would probably try to get one in tomorrow morning as well. When I got my BFP I was also temping as well and my BBT didn't go up until Fri 5th October so it wouldn't surprise me if conception was actually on the Thurs 4th. I guess what I am saying is I would shag as much as possible over the next 3 days bleeding nob permitting to make sure all bases are covered!

As we discussed names, what do you think about about Louisa? I like Louise better, but this would be pronounced differently in French and Estonian, Louisa would be pretty similar.

Oh and bought some maternity trousers already - if your regular trousers are not that comfy any more, do it, even if you are just looking a little chubbier and not actually showing yet. Ahh, the comfort!

I really like Louisa
I am going to bite the bullet and order some.

Thanks, Bellissima and Rache. I have heard that Clearblue smileys can be 'innaccurate' in that they indicate an LH surge before its actual arrival. How else to explain you ovulating four days after your smiley, Bellissima? I use the cheap One Step internet OPKs and always get my positive the day before ov. I have no doubt I'll ovulate tomorrow but with DP being out at a badminton tournament all morning I think I'll pretty much rule out sex tomorrow. There will be plenty of semen in situ when the eggs are released anyhow (yes, I said eggs. I'm on Clomid and two juicy big bastard follicles were there on the scan!)

Rache, I, too, am temping and charting and I would say you ovulated on the Thursday if your temp shifted on the Friday, meaning you ovulated 48 hours after your LH surge. I have read so many reports that ov can actually occur as little as 12 hours after an LH surge or as late as 48. That is a huge window of hours in between for guessing when's best to shag.

Hazle, I quite like Louisa (reminds me of Little Women) but Louise reminds me of Thelma as in the feminist road-trip movie, Thelma & Louise (especially if you say it with a Southern drawl).

Belissima, DP's tests showed he has fast Michael Phelps-esque swimmers, however his 3% morphology leads me to believe that the majority of them are three-headed cyclopses

Now 9dpo. Halfway to the inlaws. Had indigestion like cramps. Just stopped at the services and I have red spotting.
My spotting is normally brown ......

Golden, I was using cheap OPKs and charting when I conceived. I like the cheapies because they gave me warning that OV was approaching. The month we hit gold my pattern was:
Day 15 - v v faint line on OPK. Action stations manned.
Day 16 - dtd first thing. DP flies to Sweden. Faint line on OPK in pm.
Day 17 - strong OPK line in pm, DP returns from Sweden (!) dtd last thing at night.
Day 18 - temp has started rising, OPK line fading.
Day 19 - temp above the cover line to stay. FF reckons OV happened on CD 18.

I am yet to be date scanned so it will be interesting to see if it correlates.
It was a month when DP was away a lot - we were v lucky with our targetted shagging.

The other thing of note was it was the first time we had used conceive plus lube, and I maintain that DP's swimmers needed a drink and a snack on their long journey.

Pip that sounds promising... Is it a Boxing Day BFP you are due?

Quod, thank you for sharing. So, you had sex -1 and -2 days before ovulation, am I right? If we DTD again tonight it will be -1, -2, -3 & -5 days before ov. I think I will wait until the early hours of the morning to have sex so that I can count it as Sunday AM on my chart - the day of ovulation itself!

I'm using Pre-Seed because a) Clomid dries up cm and b) I've read sperm will not live beyond a couple of hours without the most fertile of cm being present ie. egg white. I tend to believe this, I am afraid

Yep exactly. Though the -1 was on the cusp of being day 0, as you are planning. And who knows how long it takes for OV to translate to temp rise? So many variables. Oh I forgot to mention that DP was also away abroad until the midnight of CD15 which meant I was hoping OV would hold off until he got back - we had a tiny window!

Hi golden,
I'm not quite as up to speed on this as quod - although I think we ovulated on the same day, and got pg the same month. Anyway I used clear blue ov predictor sticks. DTD on the say before I got a smiley face in the morning, and then the evening of smiley face too.. And it worked . Also used conceive plus, not because I needed it necessarily but because like quod I thought they might like some refreshments en route....

Say = day.

And I have been date scanned. Basically DTD sun night, got mon morning, DTD mon night, got pg Tues (I think - assuming scanner got it right!)

Quoid. AF/BFP due Boxing Day. However, we are at the inlaws and I have no stick to pee on.
So if AF doesn't show then it'll be the 27th.

Janey I am a day ahead of you then with my ovulation. What is your EDD? It will be interesting to compare on Monday.

Hello ladies, I've had a name change (was Golden but the moniker was making me feel old ). Thanks, Janey and Quod for sharing your timings. It cheers me to think people are getting pregnant without necessarily having sex exactly at ovulation. The stress of trying to time it perfectly is so counterproductive, I know, but I seem to be obsessed. To be fair, it is my way of trying to take some pressure off DP - if only I could see into the future I might not have to subject him to such a rigorous regime prior to ov!

Very of those who, like Pipbin, will know within days whether they are going to have a baby! Mind you, I'm of all of you young under-40s

I'm here I'm here, what have I missed?!?!?!?

Had work do last night so had a few drinkies, needed to let my hair down after another hideous month of FTC (failing to concieve). Hangover not too bad though so been trying to get festive and get the decs out, haven't been feeling very Christmassy what with the lurgy, building work and of course the stress of TTC but not long now so need to try

Hi all, (belated) welcome Vivienne. Bunny glad to hear you're getting some fun in.
I'm on an empty early train heading for last day of work before I get some Christmas going on. Not much to report from me at the mo as I'm off ttc schedule until cyst is dealt with. Booked in for gynaecologist on jan 4th.. Fx they can fix me quick! Also dtd JUST FOR FUN this week! (Sods law I get the BFP this time when I'll be waiting for operation etc ).
Happy festivities everyone, big fx for all scans, POASs and OVs.

Welcome vivienne!!
bunny will you be doing the new fred honours?

Very worried about mc rates for women with PCOS and trying to not read up too much on the Internet. Apparently it can be as high as 60%.

Step away from the google Zombies, all will be fine

rache you give good advice. I should "step away now, and no one gets hurt" :)