Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

[dooscooby]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

freelance am so sorry - sending you lots of hugs and my very best wishes.

LAF hope you are having a better day today, is it your scan tomorrow?

moomin sorry to hear you are fearing the worst

Stitch glad you had a good appointment at last, even if it did take forever! Sorry if you have already mentioned, but where is back home?

So sorry freelance and doitnicely that you have had the worst confirmed, look after yourselves and best wishes for you and your partners x

Velvet is right about how sad things are at the moment, hopefully the upcoming scans will bring positive news for some.

Stitch I had gained a couple of says too so have just updated my own - no objections from me for the updated format

Tuesday 16 August

Bump 18+5 EDD 14/01/12
Freezingmyarseoff 19+6 EDD 6/1/12 next scan 18/8/11
Updiffed 19+5
Milkyways 19+4 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 22/08/11
Hairylights 19+0
Mamarara 18+0
Laylasmummy09 17+6
Pigletmania 17+4
ladybird33 17+4 EDD 22/1/12 Next scan 5/8/11
purpletoes 15+0 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
MrsSteph 12+4 Next scan 20/07/11
Stitchinline 11+6 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 18/08/11
Shellshock7 11+1 EDD 5/3/12 next scan 19/8/11

MIA
Lovemysleep 32+2 EDD 11/10/11
Hils74 28+6 EDD 8/11/11
Haffertee 27+5 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 27+2 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 27+0 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 27+0 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 27+0 EDD 22/11/11
Jigglebum 24+0 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 23+5 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 22+3
Hadrian 21+5 EDD 25/12/11 next scan 15/08/11

On the grads thread too:
Owlbooty - baby#1 41+2 weeks EDD 7th August
PrettyVacant - baby#1 38+3 weeks EDD 28th August
OrangeGloss ? baby#1 37+2 weeks EDD 4th September
Wombat33 - baby#1 36+3 weeks EDD 10 September
Daisybell - baby#1 36+0 weeks EDD 13 September
PinkFondantFancy - baby#1 34+0 weeks EDD 25 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 34+0 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 33+3 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 32+4 weeks EDD 7 October
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 30+1weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 30+1 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 30+0 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 28+4 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 28+3 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 27+5 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 26+2 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 25+5 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 25+4 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 25+3 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 25+0 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 24+1 wks EDD 5th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 21+5 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 21+5 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 19+6 EDD 5th Jan

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwoo, Lily06, doitnicely

doitnicely I'm really sorry to hear about your mc :(

freelance I am so sorry to hear about your news :(. Like I've said before, your positive attitude is lovely, and I really really hope that your next pregnancy has a happy ending. You most definitely deserve it. For now, I hope you physically recover from this quickly so you can move on with your life again and start treatment and plan things appropriately. Thinking of you x

Thanks for updating the list stitch - I seem to have gained an extra two days, so I'm updating my dates too.

Tuesday 16 August

Bump 18+5 EDD 14/01/12
Freezingmyarseoff 19+6 EDD 6/1/12 next scan 18/8/11
Updiffed 19+5
Milkyways 19+2 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 22/08/11
Hairylights 19+0
Mamarara 18+0
Laylasmummy09 17+6
Pigletmania 17+4
ladybird33 17+4 EDD 22/1/12 Next scan 5/8/11
purpletoes 15+0 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
MrsSteph 12+4 Next scan 20/07/11
Stitchinline 11+6 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 18/08/11
Shellshock7 11+3 EDD 5/3/12 next scan 19/8/11

MIA
Lovemysleep 32+2 EDD 11/10/11
Hils74 28+6 EDD 8/11/11
Haffertee 27+5 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 27+2 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 27+0 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 27+0 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 27+0 EDD 22/11/11
Jigglebum 24+0 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 23+5 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 22+3
Hadrian 21+5 EDD 25/12/11 next scan 15/08/11

On the grads thread too:
Owlbooty - baby#1 41+2 weeks EDD 7th August
PrettyVacant - baby#1 38+3 weeks EDD 28th August
OrangeGloss ? baby#1 37+2 weeks EDD 4th September
Wombat33 - baby#1 36+3 weeks EDD 10 September
Daisybell - baby#1 36+0 weeks EDD 13 September
PinkFondantFancy - baby#1 34+0 weeks EDD 25 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 34+0 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 33+3 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 32+4 weeks EDD 7 October
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 30+1weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 30+1 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 30+0 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 28+4 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 28+3 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 27+5 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 26+2 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 25+5 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 25+4 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 25+3 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 25+0 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 24+1 wks EDD 5th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 21+5 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 21+5 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 19+6 EDD 5th Jan

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwoo, Lily06, doitnicely

X posts with shell, so posting again!

Tuesday 16 August

Bump 18+5 EDD 14/01/12
Freezingmyarseoff 19+6 EDD 6/1/12 next scan 18/8/11
Updiffed 19+5
Milkyways 19+2 EDD 08/01/12 Next scan 22/08/11
Hairylights 19+0
Mamarara 18+0
Laylasmummy09 17+6
Pigletmania 17+4
ladybird33 17+4 EDD 22/1/12 Next scan 5/8/11
purpletoes 15+0 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
MrsSteph 12+4 Next scan 20/07/11
Stitchinline 11+6 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 18/08/11
Shellshock7 11+1 EDD 5/3/12 next scan 19/8/11

MIA
Lovemysleep 32+2 EDD 11/10/11
Hils74 28+6 EDD 8/11/11
Haffertee 27+5 EDD 14/11/11
Ninunina: 27+2 EDD 15/11/11
delilahbelle 27+0 EDD 22/11/11
Mattsmama 27+0 EDD 17/11/11
Banana87 27+0 EDD 22/11/11
Jigglebum 24+0 EDD 8/12/11
Minnie74 23+5 EDD 12/12/11
Lucky 22+3
Hadrian 21+5 EDD 25/12/11 next scan 15/08/11

On the grads thread too:
Owlbooty - baby#1 41+2 weeks EDD 7th August
PrettyVacant - baby#1 38+3 weeks EDD 28th August
OrangeGloss ? baby#1 37+2 weeks EDD 4th September
Wombat33 - baby#1 36+3 weeks EDD 10 September
Daisybell - baby#1 36+0 weeks EDD 13 September
PinkFondantFancy - baby#1 34+0 weeks EDD 25 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 34+0 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 33+3 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 32+4 weeks EDD 7 October
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 30+1weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 30+1 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 30+0 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 28+4 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 28+3 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 27+5 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 26+2 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 25+5 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 25+4 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 25+3 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 25+0 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 24+1 wks EDD 5th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 21+5 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 21+5 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 19+6 EDD 5th Jan

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... ladybee; digi; A&R; barbie; MumTum; Knitter, Kat2504, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwoo, Lily06, doitnicely

Thanks for the well wishes lovely ladies xxx

Freelance so sorry to hear your news, hope everything goes aswell as it can for you whether it is an ERPC or natural :(

Good luck to everyone else

Just popping by and so sorry to read the sad news doitnicely and freelance I hope we see you back here soon with some good news. Take care of yourselves.

Also hello to every newly up the duff. This place is great and hope to see you on the grads thread in no time...

moomin just wanted to say that I had brown discharge from 6+3 with this PG until 16 weeks, pretty much non-stop with a few stonker bleeds and a clot (turns out my placenta was low for a while but has shifted itself up now). I also had periody cramping from 6+3 - 9 weeks and that low heavy feeling of being about to come on. My EPAC nurse told me that this can be really common. Doesn't stop you driving yourself mad with worry though. Completely understand why you are feeling anxious about this but thought it would be helpful to hear some news where (touch wood) all is going well now - I'm 25 weeks today.

Big hugs to you all and most importantly mint magnums and mini pork pies
xx

Just nipping in to say good luck to LAF for tomorrow morning - hand holding available if required xx

Ah Freelance, so sorry to hear your news. Big virtual hugs. Keeping everything crossed for you that your next time will come around quickly, and it will be a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Thanks for the reassurance, Bigmac, it does help to hear that people can have some blood loss and a healthy pregnancy. I'm just taking things one day at a time at the moment, got a scan at EPAU on 25th.

Had my antenatal booking appointment today, saw Dr and midwife who were both lovely. I'm still worried, but feel calmer about it all than I did now. Think I'm too tired to feel too stressed!

FX for the scan moomin - sometimes it would be nice just to be able to fall asleep and wake up on the day of the scans wouldn't it. Will be thinking of you.

I was knackered at the end of my booking in - it felt really other-worldly to me, like I was there by mistake and that someone would hoik me out of the room any minute and tell me i'd got it all wrong.

Take care - like you say, one day at a time.

freelance/celery thinking of you. It is so hard, but I understand your feelings of just wanting to move on now. Nothing can bring our lost pregnancies back. I know that I wallowed around in grief for several months at the beginning of the year, so for you to have the fortitude to be positive is a testament to your character. I hear you about the pg/mc weight. I have put on a stone in the last year because of too much eating, drinking, and too little exercise.

I'm OK at present, biscuits and shell I've had a really busy day at work thankfully, so I haven't been able to obsess. No bleeding today either. So in about 12 hours or so, I'll know how things are going. I'll probably have an early night tonight as I've drained all of my energy worrying over the last couple of days.

milky perhaps after all of this is through, we can go into partnership and go onto dragons dens with our home HCG test. It does seem quite barbaric that the standard treatment on the NHS is no scans until the 12th week. Waiting 2 months to know what is going on is crazy. It would be nice to have answers. CBD leaves you guessing after the 3+ reading, so it is a long 9 weeks!

Thanks for all your comfort and support everyone. It means a lot.

Up early, can't sleep, freaking out about this afternoon .

Good luck this morning LAF x

Yes, I was tossing and turning a lot last night too biscuits I'm squeezing your hand. We will get through this together.

Fx for LAF and biscuits for today.

Hi guys. Sorry i didn't post sooner. I came on after my scan on Monday, and there was so much bad news about that I didn't feel right saying anything, I felt you guys needed support.
I'm really sorry for the bad outcome freelance, and hope next time comes quickly and sticks. Xx
Hope all goes well for you today Laf. I had some light bleeding 2 weeks ago. was terrified, and feared the worst, but all is going great now.
I'm actually 14 + 2 now, feels so great to be out of the 12 week stage, but it won't stop me worrying!
hope everyone else is doing well. Xxx

Excellent news Angela

Great news Angela

Good luck for today LAF and biscuits. Hoping for the best for you both x.

That's great news angela!

Good news, baby is good, measuring 8+6 which is 4 days ahead of my actual dates and has strong heart beat.

Thinking of you biscuits

Ah great news LAF so pleased for you.

Still 4 loooooong hours until mine :( Busy trying to fill my bladder......

Yay for LAF so pleased it all went well

Excellent news LAF! Congratulations! Did they find where the bleed might have come from?

biscuits Try to relax - I am sure it will be fine :)

Hi milky no mention of the bleed cause when I was scanned. Perhaps it was implantation bleeding, but I thought it happened earlier. I'm trying hard to relax a little bit.

I meant to ask questions about TEG when I saw the nurse, but I totally forgot. Hopefully, I'll be able to go back in 2 weeks. I'll make a list of my questions next time.

I'm toying with the idea of a private scan next week too.

I caved in and bought a pregnancy magazine at the train station. I'm not sure if I really accept I'm pg, but I want to believe.

I feel sick . Don't think I can eat any lunch