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DLA wait times part 32

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Emma2345 · 23/02/2024 17:06

New thread as this 1 is nearing the end now

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Anxiouslywaitingmum · 26/02/2024 14:05

MrsRawl · 26/02/2024 13:11

Sorry not necessarily helping you but this is the same problem we have. Our son masks at school completely and when he gets home it is an absolute nightmare. Soon as he leaves the school gates he’s difficult, the emotional outbursts are so hard to deal with. I didn’t even get school to fill any of my form in because when I spoke to his teacher she said there’s no point me filling anything in because it won’t support your claim: which is really disappointing. I’ve even shown school recordings of him at home, senco even said what he does is definitely stimming but still wouldn’t add any extra to my form to help with the claim, which isn’t giving me much hope as it’s just my word. So frustrating isn’t it.

I'm in the exact same position. There was no point asking school to help with the form as my son masks at school and all emotions come out as soon as hes out of the classroom door.
I'm worried so much it'll be a decline. We struggle as a family massively

xxAmy · 26/02/2024 14:05

mummyof3girlsx · 26/02/2024 14:01

@xxAmy I’m 17 weeks xx but was told all last week it was going to the DM anyday last week so let’s see what they come up with today

I hope you get some good news today! Il be thinking of you and that terrible hold music 😭
keep us updated with your call 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

bonz2023 · 26/02/2024 14:06

STEPH691 · 26/02/2024 14:04

@bonz2023 @mummyof3girlsx never told me what holding pile I was in what about you? Xxx

No just waiting to be looked at and I should here by 5th March x

Charmazing · 26/02/2024 14:06

Hi all :)

scan date 27/10/24 one text at 15 no letters.
Like everyone else I’ve been following this thread on a daily basis and checking my account.
The wait is so stressful!!!!
I thought I’d give them a call before I officially give up!!!
I’m currently on hold (1hr 5min to be precise) let’s see what they say!!!

Good luck to everyone calling today.

my5to1 · 26/02/2024 14:07

@mummyof3girlsx im 17 weeks Wednesday, last week I was told it will be 20 weeks and not to call back 🙄 too scared to bother again 🤞🏻 you get a decent person

Debs243 · 26/02/2024 14:09

Got my first text this morning so 2 letters one text scan date 15/11 x

Anxiouslywaitingmum · 26/02/2024 14:11

@MadHouse24 @MrsRawl My son is the same as your children.
Have they been diagnosed with anything?
After a long 6 year fight my son was diagnosed with ODD last year. A hard fight as he masks at school, he's very clever and knows where to and where not to be himself.

Gemmaoscar · 26/02/2024 14:12

I don’t wana ring for them to tell me
its a decline the last few weeks have been longer than pregnancy it’s gota be over soon surely xx

Lolly966 · 26/02/2024 14:15

xxamy we have the same scan date 20/11 x

MadHouse24 · 26/02/2024 14:16

@Anxiouslywaitingmum they are very clever aren’t they! My eldest has been diagnosed with ADHD and has suspected ASD and she still masks at 14. My youngest is waiting assessment which was a battle to get due to her masking but is being assessed for ADHD and ASD. I have another daughter that is diagnosed ADHD that has no ASD traits at all as she does not mask at all now, she is full blown ADHD for everyone!!!

mummyof3girlsx · 26/02/2024 14:18

Ok well I got through after an hour and 15 mins.. to a lady who sounded like she wanted to be in bed, she said hasn’t gone to a decision maker yet probably looking at another 6 weeks!!!! I am DEFO 100% sure they just say whatever they want to get you off the phone because I spoke to 3 seperate people last week who was really nice and all told me it would be going to DM by Friday last week.. I give up 🙈 @bonz2023 @STEPH691 @xxAmy

Gemmaoscar · 26/02/2024 14:23

@mummyof3girlsx 6 more weeks no way that’s crazy I think they lie to get you off the phone no one gets a straight answer the system is a mess x

my5to1 · 26/02/2024 14:24

@Charmazing 🤞🏻for you keep us updated

Anxiouslywaitingmum · 26/02/2024 14:24

MadHouse24 · 26/02/2024 14:16

@Anxiouslywaitingmum they are very clever aren’t they! My eldest has been diagnosed with ADHD and has suspected ASD and she still masks at 14. My youngest is waiting assessment which was a battle to get due to her masking but is being assessed for ADHD and ASD. I have another daughter that is diagnosed ADHD that has no ASD traits at all as she does not mask at all now, she is full blown ADHD for everyone!!!

They are very clever and he's been like it since he was 3/4 years old!
My biggest worry is secondary school, he tells us daily to go and die, go kill yourself or that he shouldn't be alive.
I'm praying he gets accepted as the money will go towards private therapy or whatever he needs. Cahms have been next to useless.

mummyof3girlsx · 26/02/2024 14:25

@Gemmaoscar completely agree, when I rang last week as I was 16 weeks they had to check another system (apparently) because as soon as they checked the weeks they said bare with me let me check the other system as your 16 weeks… she did none of that, she just said no, not with anyone yet, no updates.. probably another 6 weeks thanks. So rude x

Charmazing · 26/02/2024 14:26

So the wait is over, my son was awarded on 22nd Feb
LRM and MRC for ASD.
Awarded up until September 2029.
Apparently a payment of £1865 will be authorised tomo, fingers crossed o should get this by the end of the week.
My next payment is on 26th March.

PS I’m exactly 18 weeks on Friday.

Gg1990x · 26/02/2024 14:26

Hi, was just wondering if anyone knew is DM/CM the same thing?
I called today for an update scanned 1/11 as was told waiting on CM to see it? But said all new claims are taking 18-20 weeks. And I asked if possible if I could be texted if a decision gets made. I hate waiting its just so bloody MEH! Fingers crossed all beginning of November's get sorted this week 🤞🤞🤞 x

STEPH691 · 26/02/2024 14:31

@mummyof3girlsx oh that’s a joke can’t believe she said 6 weeks that would make 22 weeks unbelievable how they speak to you. It’s horrible when you get someone who really can’t be bothered. Hopefully she didn’t bother looking and it’s with the DM xx

Gemmaoscar · 26/02/2024 14:31

@mummyof3girlsx it’s ridiculous how long it takes if it’s a decline I’m Gona scream seriously it’s taking so long then u see scan dates after ours being awarded nothing makes sense x

Marie156 · 26/02/2024 14:33

Mellieg11 · 26/02/2024 14:03

hey just a quick question. I read about birth certificates on a previous thread. I didn't put my sons in I'm sure it wasn't required on the form. Was i meant to ?I'm panicking now

I didn't put my daughters birth certificate and was worried about this but no it's not always needed they never asked for it with me

mummyof3girlsx · 26/02/2024 14:34

@Gemmaoscar @STEPH691 100% they just say what they want she didn’t even check I’m telling you, she said how can I help? I said I’d just like an update as I was told it would be going to dm last week so some confirmation.. she said nope not gone to anyone yet probably another 6 weeks, anything else? I was shocked! First rude person I’ve had tbf x

Holllymum · 26/02/2024 14:35

Debs243 · 26/02/2024 14:09

Got my first text this morning so 2 letters one text scan date 15/11 x

im the same date also got a text this morning

my5to1 · 26/02/2024 14:39

@Charmazing yay congratulations! Love a good news post 🥳

ThemysteriousH · 26/02/2024 14:46

Scanned 3/11/23 just been told it’ll be around the first week of April and I’m the queue for the DM. I’m fuming.

sjm100 · 26/02/2024 14:55

ThemysteriousH · 26/02/2024 14:46

Scanned 3/11/23 just been told it’ll be around the first week of April and I’m the queue for the DM. I’m fuming.

I'm 06/11 and was told this morning I should be going to DM this week, surely you should be around the same, I'd be fuming if I was told April too thats 22/23 weeks 😱

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