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Struggling with likely inoperable cancer diagnosis while waiting for confirmation

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EmeraldJeanie · 06/06/2026 08:55

I'm struggling. My husband is in hospital and been told after MRI likely inoperable cancer. If confirmed (biopsy Tuesday and they seem certain) then week til confirmation of something they are sure about and then chemo/ palliative care. Also procedure on Monday before biopsy Tuesday.
He looks the fittest man on the ward. He walked 15,000 steps round the hospital grounds yesterday. He is masking for our boys - sixth form and university age but talking about finances/ dignitas with me.
I am signed off work with stress. We are both late 50s.
This is all rather outing for anyone who knows me but perhaps that doesn't matter.
I need to buck up. I am losing weight and slim anyway. This limbo awful and yet knowing for sure will be awful too.

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RiskyBiz · 26/06/2026 22:57

Really sorry for your loss ❤️

SabbatWheel · 26/06/2026 22:58

Only just seen this thread.
I’m so sorry @EmeraldJeanie x

Minasama · 26/06/2026 22:58

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ChillWith · 26/06/2026 22:58

Oh my God. I am so sorry for your loss. Your post only appeared on my timeline today. You must be in utter numb shock. I really hope you have some family nearby that you and your boys can lean on right now. Sending love and a very big virtual hug too

SunshineCatcher · 26/06/2026 23:01

I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband.

rhabarbarmarmelade · 26/06/2026 23:02

So shocking...I feel for and with you and your boys

Lougle · 26/06/2026 23:02

EmeraldJeanie · 14/06/2026 20:05

I haven't always been kind to dh. I've taken him and our life for granted. Yet now I can hardly function.

In case you're reflecting on this, amongst everything else, I firmly believe it's what makes relationships real. We are imperfect, we take each other for granted... It's like old comfy slippers. I hope the memories that linger are the ones that make you smile, in time.

whengodwasarabbit1 · 26/06/2026 23:04

Sending a hug. I'm so sorry for your loss x

Aberdeenantler · 26/06/2026 23:04

So, so sorry x

VivaDixie · 26/06/2026 23:04

Oh Emerald - I have only just stumbled upon this thread and am devastated to see your last post.

I am so sorry you and DH didnt have more time together - cancer is so cruel and shocking at times like this.

Lifeonapigfarm · 26/06/2026 23:05

I'm so sorry for your loss.

NeatPinkFinch · 26/06/2026 23:06

Sorry for your loss OP.

nocoolnamesleft · 26/06/2026 23:07

I am so sorry. You must be reeling. Big unmumsnetty hugs.

Momtotwokids · 26/06/2026 23:07

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Sunshineandoranges · 26/06/2026 23:08

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HollywoodStarr · 26/06/2026 23:09

EmeraldJeanie · 26/06/2026 22:01

He died today

I am so so very sorry 😔

Sunshineandoranges · 26/06/2026 23:10

Oh i am so so sorry. I wish i could delete my previous post. I am so so sorry for your loss.

Fernticket · 26/06/2026 23:10

So so sorry x💔

Moveornot2 · 26/06/2026 23:11

I’m so very sorry x

PrincessMonty · 26/06/2026 23:11

So sorry for your loss, and for your boys. It’s terribly cruel

Weenurse · 26/06/2026 23:12

I am so sorry 💐

Wincher · 26/06/2026 23:13

I’m so sorry.

Diamondsareforever72 · 26/06/2026 23:13

EmeraldJeanie · 26/06/2026 22:01

He died today

OMG I’m so sorry! I have only just seen your post tonight and I clicked on all your posts.
I am truly so sorry for your terrible loss, actually in tears here for you.
You poor soul.
sending you a very gentle hug to you and your children. Xx

Sunshineandoranges · 26/06/2026 23:14

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babyproblems · 26/06/2026 23:15

So sorry for your loss @EmeraldJeanie
Sending you strength & light xxxxx