Struggling with likely inoperable cancer diagnosis while waiting for confirmation

[EmeraldJeanie]

I'm struggling. My husband is in hospital and been told after MRI likely inoperable cancer. If confirmed (biopsy Tuesday and they seem certain) then week til confirmation of something they are sure about and then chemo/ palliative care. Also procedure on Monday before biopsy Tuesday.
He looks the fittest man on the ward. He walked 15,000 steps round the hospital grounds yesterday. He is masking for our boys - sixth form and university age but talking about finances/ dignitas with me.
I am signed off work with stress. We are both late 50s.
This is all rather outing for anyone who knows me but perhaps that doesn't matter.
I need to buck up. I am losing weight and slim anyway. This limbo awful and yet knowing for sure will be awful too.

Thinking of you and your family ❤️

I’m so very sorry for you loss. Use any and all support you have around you

Hold your boys close. You'll get through the next few weeks together. I'm terribly sorry.

I’m so very sorry op. Thinking of you

I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

I am so sorry for your loss Emerald. You are welcome to my hand to hold shoulder you need it. Cancer is a filthy disease xx

I'm so sorry. Sending you and your boys lots of strength xx

I’m so sorry for your loss

I am so very sorry to read this Emerald.

We had a sudden death in our family three years ago, and I have first hand knowledge of the grief, numbness, trying to put one foot in front of the other
Please be kind to yourself and accept all
offers of help, even though you might initially want to decline. People, neighbours, friends and family often offer practical help as words escape them.
I found I had to take it one hour at a time as one day at a time was too much to fathom. Be as gentle to yourself as you would be to a friend in your position.

Please come back if you need to talk, or just say things here that you can’t in your real
life.

I am thinking of you. I have been where you are with three young kids. Sending strength.

I'm so sorry @EmeraldJeanie, there are no words. How quick and how cruel.

@Sunshineandoranges reporting your post - not in anger, just to help get it flagged, hope that's ok x

Oh come on, read the latest OP post with threads like these, ALWAYS.

OP, I am so so sorry for your loss x

I’ve been thinking of you. I’m so shocked and sorry to hear this news. How brutal and heartbreaking for you and your children. I’d hoped you would have more time.

OP I am so sorry to read of your post and update today. My heart goes out to you. Take good care of yourself and your boys. xx

I’m also sending you and your boys my sincere sympathy on the death of your husband. I will be thinking of you in the days ahead, Emerald.
I have just been to the funeral of a dear friend who died very recently, it is a very hard time.

So sorry to hear how dreadfully quickly this all happened. Wishing strength to you and your boys.

OP I’m so sorry for your loss. That was really quick and really unfair.

I hope you don’t mind me reporting the thread so that MNHQ could add at the top of your post to read your recent update so that posters don’t comment on your OP alone ❤️

I am so sorry for your loss. Xxx

I’m so sorry OP

Oh my god, I’m so sorry. 💐

Sending you love and care xx and for your children too

Wicked disease; Im so sorry for your horrible loss. Nothing else I can say apart from be gentle with yourself. Sending love.

My DH also died very quickly, whilst we were waiting for test result. It’s a massive shock, you can’t take it in. My family were amazing and supported me through that awful time.

Lean on your family @EmeraldJeanie let them look after you. 🌹

So very sorry for your loss xx

Oh Emerald I am so, so sorry

You and your family are in my thoughts x