May 2009 Part 3 - brains still pregnancy addled so we forgot we needed a new thread !

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Hope this will do

JustgotBFP due 1 May (36 will be 37 when dc arrives DS age 4)
Sahbear due 1 May (DS age 14 mo)
farrahgillani due 1 May (1st Child)
Brightsideoflife due 1 May
Reggiee due 1 May (ahem 30 April but want to stay - DD age 22 months)
Aquababe due 1 May (DD age 2.9)
Evergrounded due 1 May
Momino due 1 May (DD age 2.5 and DD age 1)
Llareggub due 1 May (DS age 22 months)
Loulabela due 1 May
AAL due 1 May (DS age 4)
Olderbutnotwiser due 1 May (DD age 21, DS age 19, DS age 16 DS age 4, DD age 2)
MissyK due 1 May (DS age 3)
Heverhoney due 2 May
SpangleMaker due 3 May (first child)
LoobyLou36 due 3 May (first child)
Inni due 4 May (DS age 2.9 and DD age 1)
Ceeceeanne due 4 May (DD age 9)
Bantam73 due 5 May (2 DCs ages 2.5, 16.5)
Chicadee due 5 May (DD age 6.5)
Overtiredmum due 5 May (DS age 3)
Hopefullypregnant due 5 May (DD age 10.5m)
Gibsongirl due 6 May (DS1 age 5 and DS2 nearly 2)
BrownieBells due 6 May (DS age 2.9)
lauralou1 due 6 May (first)
Minimenace due 7 May (DS age 11 mo)
Detsy due 8 May (UK, Cheshire - DD 11 months)
Carol7 due 9 May (DS age 16 DD age 12)
Febes due 10 May (DD age 9 months)
Jennster due 10 May (DD age 2y7m, DS age 13m)
Missblythe due 10 May (DD age?)
Superdenki due 10 May (DS age 2.5)
Pinkcandyfloss due 11 May (DS1 age 5 and DS2 age 1.7)
Mootie due 11 May (DD age 2.4)
Flippineck due 12 May (DD age 17 months)
Ses due 12 May (first child)
Millionsaway due 13 May (DD 20 months)
Mammajamma due 13 May (DS1 age 4, DS2 age 22m)
Gateau due 14 May (DS 16 months)
Wobblypig due 14 May (DS 1.11)
Looneywoman due 14 May
Nikkiemadisonandbump due 15 May (DD age 2)
Frazzledoldbag due 16 May (DD1 age 7, DD2 age 2)
Nauseous due 16 May
Daisydoo due 16 May (DS age 19m)
Bluebell82 due 16 May (dd age 7 months)
umamimama due 16 May (dd age 16 months)
Bigtree due 17 May (first child)
Divediasy due 19 May (DS age 5 1/2 3rd preg)nucal scan 04/11 hosp 05/11
Bekkaboo due 19 May (DS age 2)
Tigergem due 19 May (DD 18m)
GreenFingeredMummy due 20 May (DD age 15m)
Jonesy68 due 20 May (DS age 5.10)
Mags98 due 21 May (first child)
2beautifulgals due 22 May (2 dds?!)
halfmumhalfbiscuit due 23 May (DS age 2)
Swottybetty: Due 24/05/09. DD 6mths
Moonlit due 24 May (DD age 2.6)
Agooboo due 24 May (DS1 age 6 DS2 age 2)
Dandelioness due 25 May (DD age 3 1/2)
Alapala due 25 May (DS 1.5)
MatthewandBumpsMummy due 26 May
citybranch due 27 May (DS age 21m)
Imnotok due 27 May
pulapula due 27 May (DD 3.10yr, DS 16 mths, Sheffield, booking in 20 Oct, dating scan 7 Nov, nuchal scan 13 Nov)
Runningmonkey due 27 May (first child)
CoteDAzur due 28 May (DD age 3)
MrsEvs due 28 May (DD age 4, DD age 2)
Jools1 due 29 May (first child at 39)Dating Scan Nov 11th
Fryn due 29 May (first child)
MsG due 30 May (first child)
Bluebutterfly due 31 May (DS age 3.5)
DorisIsAPinkDragon due sometime! (DD1 age 3 DD2 age 14mths)
FiKelly due may sometime (DS age just over 2yrs)
sebandelliotsmum due sometime in May ds1 5 and ds2 20 months.

momino DS was 2 in august... he doesn't go to nursery but is due to start some pre-school sessions from next easter.

Just had a thought... is a doula for just normal delivery.. i would love the chance at a VBAC. I wonder if they'd still be my support is I ended up having another CS?

i think a doula is for any birth: vbac, natural, c section. not sure though. that's a great idea.

RE Nuchal Scans - Most primary care trusts don't offer this scan between 11 and 13 weeks because it's quite expensive. Unfortunately it's always about the money. In my primary care trust 2.5 years ago, we paid 100 pounds to have this done at a NHS hospital by a specialist in the field. Luckily this time around the Nuchal scan is being offered on the NHS. Basically the Nuchal scan measures the fluid in the neck. This indicates the probability of Downs Syndrome etc in the 'baby'. A normal scanner can only tell you basic information (which of course is important to), number of babies, confirm the EDD or give you a more accurate EDD according to the babies size and of course how many babies there are. If you are offered a dating and Nuchal scan count your lucky stars!

moonlit my MW this am said that EDD dates confirmed by nuchal scans are very often more accurate... may be more advanced scanning equipment? I was offered a dating scan yesterday but as we had our nuchal scan the day before on monday I didn't see the point in going as they confirmed all nes dates would have been confirmed the day before... although if it had been next week I would probably still have kept it just to get another look see at the LO

Yay! my Seraphine maternity jeans have just arrived... much to my surprise. I phoned yesterday to check if they'd come in yet to be told they'd be a few more weeks! The best bit is I ordered the right size (wasn't sure what to go for) and they're a great fit, no saggy bum and soooo comfy. Just tried them on and they're staying on

yes, i think a doula will basically stay with you whatever birth you plan/end up with. you pay for the support, which should also cover a bit of support before, and more importantly afterwards (looking after older children, cooking meals etc). worth investigating fikelly, given your situation.

I had a planned cs last time, and basically DD went to nursery for the day (worth you seeing if your DS can get a pre-school place on the day if you do decide a cs), and DH picked her up at 5pm and brought her to see us, and then we put her in extra days that week so that DH could visit us and manage the house). will probably do the same this time.

I had my 12 week scan almost 2 weeks ago, it wasn't a nuchal scan though, I haven't been offered one, I never had one with my daughter either (she's 2 1/2) I'm having a blood test testing for downs in two weeks though. Should I be looking at a private nuchal scan? I'm quite confused.

Jael X

Jael - in my area, they only offer the triple test (bloods) so I'd have to go private for a nuchal fold scan.

The MW said that both will give similar results, but the triple test normally takes place later than a nuchal scan. People often opt for the nuchal in case there is a bad result as they would rather take action sooner.

If you have a nuchal fold scan, they normally do the blood tests aswell, so you end up with a combined risk score - I would guess that means more accurate but don't know for sure.

I'm not sure I'm going to have either test

Jael - I didn't realise they could test for Down Syndrome with just a blood test. My Primary Care trust offers a Nuchal scan with a combined blood test. Which apparently gives more accurate results. We would have gone for a Nuchal scan whether or not we had to pay for it, because my DH has a history of genetic diseases in his family.

FiKelly - You are absolutely right, I was going to say the same thing as a side note. The Nuchal scanner is far more advanced and would give a more accurate EDD. I always annoy the sonographers with these questions and read about it on the net, it's just the nerd me

I'm having a seperate scan as the nuchal one is private, it is not offered as standard in this area.

So I had the standard booking scan, and then am paying for the other one and the combined scan/ blood testing next week.

The combined test of nuchal scan is a lot more accurate than the blood test alone - which is very innacurate - and also done earlier. The NHS bloods are done at 16-18 weeks, take a couple of weeks for the result, then if you need an amniocentis that takes longer still - so by the time a diagnosis is finally made you might be 22 weeks or more. Very very difficult decision then (well always difficult, but worse than at 12 weeks).

I am back from my scan today and have been dated as 12+2 weeks.

My hospital does offer the combined test which is the most accurate type of screening test at 80%. However didn't have the nuchal or the blood test done either. DH not happy as he thinks at 41 I should have had it done but I wouldn't have any diagnostic tests done so no point really imo.

we had to pay for our combined nuchal scan and blood test. not free here either.

definitely going to do more research on doulas see if it solves our birth plan dilemmas..

dandy know how you feel! i won't go into any details of our experience last time either with all our first timers here.

Hi all,
still having boob pain but a bit less today. My stomach has definitely changed shape - someone in work made a comment about my weight today so I think there's been gossiping going on!

My scan is next Weds when I'll be 12+6 I can't wait. As long as everything is ok (fingers crossed) I'm going to make it official with work. I have to give an estimated leaving date. Any advice when did/does everyone plan to work up to? I was thinking of trying for 36/37 weeks to give me as much time with the babs as poss.

dandy my only local friend that ds sees and plays with her ds on a regular basis is expecting #2 in march. i know a few other girls from post natal classes with ds but they work shifts around their dc's sometimes day sometimes night. i don't see them so often because of this.. just don't want ds to feel abandoned.

Has anyone elses 'morning sickness'got worse? Its getting really bad in the evenings and today going round the supermarket was awful. Its frustrating, seen as I'm over 12 weeks I was hoping it would die down not get worse!! Looks like its going to be 16weeks before I feel vaguely human again, like last time!

I do feel guilty moaning as I heard yesterday that a good friend of my has miscarried. She was due on the same day as me

FiKelly, Have you thought about a home birth - that way you wouldn't need to find anyone to look after LO. Your DH would be about in the house with him. Just a thought.

Oh, and if it is at night, LO would be in bed.

agooboo i wanted a home birth last time but due to circumstances out with my control i ended up with an emergency cs. now because of last time i have to go under consultant led care which means hospital. not even able to do local midwife led centre.. they won't have me! would have loved a home birth..

daisydoo i'm still suffering with all day nausea. mine got worse last time just before it went altogether at 14wks. think i'm going to be same this time too.

My MS has got worse (now 11 weeks) after pretty much disappearing in week 9. No throwing up but feel sick and tired and am really moody/grumpy/fed up.

However, I take it as a good sign, along with my expanding tummy, my calcium cravings (mmm laughing cow cheese triangles), and my constipation. Only 2 days til scan now...

dandy re our previous experiences... there is a birth trauma thread here on mumsnet.. I wouldn't advise our 1st timers read it but my story of DS birth is there for anyone who wants to know. It's the birth trauma support thread... i'm not posting the link so 1st timers won't be tempted to have a peek without thinking about it first!

I'm a day off 11 weeks too and am feeling sicker than ever and more tired - am so ready to be feeling better! It went on til 5 months with DD2 - really hoping it's not that long this time

Not to mention I now have the dreaded 'roids from the constipation - sorry if tmi!

Yes I'm suffering with nausea too, It went away for about a week but is back. Its worst in the afternoons between about 3 and 5pm.

Fi Thank you for being so lovely and protective of us innocent first timers