October baby bus take 4! 20wk scans and big pram buying plans!

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Welcome all to the new Fred. FB group runs along side this pm me for details.

phew! thanks. i did have an mmc 6 wks before this so that is my excuse for the bump as its my first!

batfish thats what mine sometimes feel like, like a little flick inside and sometimes i can just feel it rather than it doing anything.

Hi ladies and welcome to the ladies who have just joined.
I have been feeling some movements for the past few days, but last night was definite kicks, I could see my stomach move around my belly button, it was amazing! It's all becoming real now. I have my 20 week scan tomorrow, I'll be 20+4 anxious as usual.

ooh cool good luck for the scan. i feel for you i get massive scanxiety! are you finding out the sex?

as if you can actually see kicks! wow thats fab!

Scanxiety - love this! This word should be in all our vocabs! I'm terrified of movement, it's always freaked me out (scared I will feel it and want to "get out") but also worried and sad I still haven't felt anything! X

I've got scanxiety.... 20 weeks tomorrow, 20 weeks scan tomorrow evening. Fx for me please

Good luck coolchic and stinkersmum!

ladypug I keep feeling a little bit claustrophobic on behalf of my baby - keep thinking how horrid it would be to be trapped in a little bag But then I guess they don't know any different! It's very bizarre.

It's so weird, I'm quite an anxious person anyway but I keep thinking Argh there is so far to go! Feel like when they lock you in a ride at the fair and it starts to move! Hope time speeds up soon - I don't handle waiting well! X

I feel the opposite ladypug like time is moving so fast and I'm not ready! Feel like we have so much to do and we are over halfway

swap please Batfish, I want to feel like time is too fast :-)

OK done I think I will feel better actually when I've spoken to work about taking more than my 3 months mat leave because that is on my mind a lot, it's on my to do list this week.

Batfish, does your DH get any paternity leave?

He gets a whole day! What a joke, might not even cover the labour! He is going to taken a week's leave though. How about yours? Equally as shit I imagine!

Yep, one day 'compassionate leave'! I'm having the baby in the uk though. He does get plenty of paid holiday though so hoping labour isn't too quick and he can get here when I call him

good luck tomo stinkers.

i feel like its dragging too but just been sat thinking about when we move and after scan next wk when we can properly buy things and thinking OMG when everythings in babys room i think its actually going to hit me what were doing lol!

maternity / paternity leave sounds hard where you guys are. hope you can get something sorted.

God that's awful! I'm only having 3 months too but that's a choice (well sort of!) I would like longer but just don't think it's feasible! I keep thinking at least I'll get Christmas though which is nice x

Thanks Ginger. I don't work so maternity leave isn't an issue for me. And as shitty as ksa is, the salary my dh commands means I don't have to work.

Scanxiety lol! We've already been told it's a girl Ginger, I guess it will be confirmed tomorrow. Good luck Stinkers.
I actually lifted my top off when I felt the kicks and I could see my stomach moving, not like foot sucking out type but visible movement. I also feel time is dragging Ladypug.

Thanks cool. It does feel like time is dragging but at the same time I'm quite alarmed we're already half way through!

im planning 6 months with the hopes of taking 9 but all depends on dps job at the time.

does anyone else think they may get bored on maternity leave?

oh stinkers well thats a blessing then!

I think I might get a bit bored ginger - it's so hot here (mid 40s already), so being outside during the day is not a good idea. Also it's illegal for women to drive here so I can't just nip out. I'm at the whim of crazy taxi drivers until dh gets home from work. I can envisage many trips home to the uk for the next few years....

oh i never even thought of the heat or the driving situation.

its good that you can get back to the uk though for visits.

im sure we wont have chance to get bored but it does cross my mind occasionally.

To all those who are expecting dc#1, are you as obsessed as I am imagining how your dp/dh will react to being a father? I just cannot picture my dh with the baby. Not in a sad or worried way. I just simply cannot picture it....!!

I'll put down a year on my maternity planner but hopefully go back after 6 or 9 months depending on how I feel then. I don't want to limit to 6 months and find myself in a situation where I don't feel ready to leave the baby, it's a tough call!

This is dc#1 for us Stinkersmum and I think about what kind of father dp will be A LOT! Not because think he'll be rubbish or anything, I just can't predict how he'll react to certain situations. It's one of the many things I'm really looking forward to and slightly dreading at the same time. I'm sure they'll surprise us in all the best ways.

im a bit scared about dp tbh. hes a bit of a binge drinker. my whole wkend has revolved around his drinking escapades and then rows following them as hes not a good drunk. trying to keep quiet at the mo and just hope hes getting it out of his system

if you take the wkend drinking away he'll be a fantastic dad i just dont think he realises yet that that part of his life will have to change at least for a while.