I appear not to have placemarked when I thought I did...mega catch-up done! My tuppence...
Re gender: - we're not finding out. I'm not on a team, nor do I care for pink (especially) or blue differentiation. DD has a red car seat and a black sorry, charcoal pushchair. Doesn't offend me anywhere near as much as the hot pink Minnie Mouse thing complete with black tutu that we were given when DD was born. If she wants to dance, she can wear a tutu then...
Re chairs: - I have a sliding chair from Tutti Bambini. I love it, it's currently in the conservatory and I use it for sewing. I fed DD in bed or on the sofa mostly, especially in the early days, it was more useful once she was in her own room.
Re sleeping: DD was in a carrycot (with a proper mattress), in with us until 5m at which point we tried sticking her in her own room to see if that would help her sleep at all. It didn't, and it was shortly after that we started co-sleeping from whenever she woke up :)
Glad to hear the scans are going well, I have my 16w appt tomorrow, at 17w. Movements nice and regular now, right side and just below my belly button. I love it :)