Moosy sorry i missed your post. Unfortunately i have far too much experience of death, and all i can say is that it does hit you, and never really when you expect. DP recently lost a childhood friend during a life critical liver transplant, He too felt waves of sadness. Is there anything you can do to help yourself? Maybe write down all your good memories? That may be a comfort to her family 
Rugby
for early starts that is not good, DS same re sleep and over tired, i he hasnt had enough sleep his sleep is disturbed although touch wood never earlier than half 6, thats bad enough! Hope you get a better night tonight!
A doing better with cast still not bounding around but seems more comfortable, cast 2-4 weeks ideally 4 but depends how much it has to be replaced