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Ds1 15 killed himself.

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Makinglists · 15/07/2021 10:06

Ds1 who was 15 killed himself. He spent a week in hospital but the damage was too great and he died on 11 July.
We are still near the hospital sorting things out (he was in a childrens unit away from home). The feelings are overwhelming, I can't think of returning to the house where I found him. We have another child who is 10 and he is with friends.
There were no signs he would so this - he was stressed about Gcses and recently lost his grandfather but he seemed to be handling it. His emotions seemed normal for a 15 year old.
Awful though it is I wondered if there are others this has happened to and can share their story so we feel less alone.
We are broken.

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TheVeryHungryTortoise · 15/07/2021 11:37

Oh, OP Flowers This is heartbreaking to read.

My boyfriend at school lost his 14 year old best friend to suicide. I remember the shock waves and sadness through his friendship group at the time because they didn't know that he was feeling that way. Please know that there is nothing that you could have done differently as a parent.

I hope you can all access the support you need at this time. You will be in my thoughts.

loveliesbleeding1 · 15/07/2021 11:40

I’m so very sorry,you must be devastated and I am sending you strength and my deepest sympathies to you all❤️

FiveShelties · 15/07/2021 11:40

I have no words to help in any way, but I just wanted to say that I am so very sorry.

Erinrose82 · 15/07/2021 11:42

Read this earlier and just couldn't reply but I can't run. I am so very very sorry and my heart goes out to you x

frustratedwiththepandemic · 15/07/2021 11:43

Oh my goodness, no parent should ever go through this. Sending you lots of hugs and best wishes. May he rest in peace xx

Echobeachsomeday · 15/07/2021 11:43

I'm so so sorry 💐

3littlemonkeys82 · 15/07/2021 11:44

I'm so very sorry for your loss x

My eldest had suicidal thoughts and self harmed for a while as a teenager. It's such a difficult time for our young people, I do think they make snap decisions though, you really can't always see what is coming as they don't know themselves x

Please talk as much or as little as you want to on here, everyone will understand that you will go through waves of emotion.

My heart goes out to you 💔

user764329056 · 15/07/2021 11:45

I am so sorry, am thinking of you ❤️

Lindy2 · 15/07/2021 11:46

I'm so sorry for your loss.

LysistrataVickers · 15/07/2021 11:48

OP I have no words that could possibly help but I am so so sorry for your loss Thanks

JaneJeffer · 15/07/2021 11:53

I'm sorry for the loss of your son Thanks

EKGEMS · 15/07/2021 11:53

I am so very,very sorry, my love. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Tal45 · 15/07/2021 11:53

I have a 15 year old, I can't even imagine. I'm so, so sorry x

Redhotchilis · 15/07/2021 11:55

I am so so sorry, I am in tears reading your messages.I have no words that can help but wanted you to know you and your family are in my thoughts. Flowers

TheDogsMother · 15/07/2021 11:56

I am so very sorry for your loss. Heart breaking Flowers

Introvertedbuthappy · 15/07/2021 11:58

I am so so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. I'm a mother of 2 boys myself and I can't even imagine the pain you are in. I am sending you and your second son lots of love. I lost my cousin at age 20 to suicide. It's a very different kind of grief.

GirlInterrupted · 15/07/2021 11:58

So sorry for your loss. You can talk here all you need to. XxxFlowers

notmyturnagain · 15/07/2021 12:00

Heartbreaking, I am so sorry ThanksThanks

DataColour · 15/07/2021 12:02

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Todaytomorrowyesterday · 15/07/2021 12:05

So very sorry for your loss Flowers

Mrsorganmorgan · 15/07/2021 12:13

I am so very sorry. What a huge loss. It certainly puts moans and groans in perspective.

longtompot · 15/07/2021 12:13

I am so sorry @Makinglists Be gentle on yourself Flowers

HauteGirlSummer · 15/07/2021 12:19

My deepest sympathies. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through. Your poor DS 🥺 Sending lots of strength your way.

ParkheadParadise · 15/07/2021 12:25

Sorry for your loss.
The hospital should be able to refer you to support groups for bereaved parents and siblings.
Sadly, I know the pain of losing your child.
Take Care

Roselilly36 · 15/07/2021 12:26

There are no words OP, other than I am so sorry for your loss. A friend of mine was in a similar position. Just try to get through each hour, don’t look to far ahead. Sending you a hug Flowers