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Ds1 15 killed himself.

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Makinglists · 15/07/2021 10:06

Ds1 who was 15 killed himself. He spent a week in hospital but the damage was too great and he died on 11 July.
We are still near the hospital sorting things out (he was in a childrens unit away from home). The feelings are overwhelming, I can't think of returning to the house where I found him. We have another child who is 10 and he is with friends.
There were no signs he would so this - he was stressed about Gcses and recently lost his grandfather but he seemed to be handling it. His emotions seemed normal for a 15 year old.
Awful though it is I wondered if there are others this has happened to and can share their story so we feel less alone.
We are broken.

OP posts:
monkeyadja · 15/07/2021 10:50

I’m so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. I have two boys myself and I can only imagine your pain. Lots of love to you and your family x

Giggorata · 15/07/2021 10:50

I am so sorry for what you're going through and I wish you strength and comfort to cope with it all. 💐

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 15/07/2021 10:50

I'm so desperately sorry. Just about the worst situation imaginable.

I hope you manage to find some support from people in a similar situation. Sending you love Flowers

marton4710 · 15/07/2021 10:52

I am so very sorry and cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

TheDuck2018 · 15/07/2021 10:52

I am so very sorry to hear this, sending you much love x

CHISistoast · 15/07/2021 10:52

I am very sorry indeed, that just must be totally heart breaking.

viques · 15/07/2021 10:53

I am so sorry. There are no words but I hope real life friends and family are holding you and his sibling tight.

effiehabb · 15/07/2021 10:54

I am so sorry to hear this about your darling boy. I hope you and your ds are being supported. Look after yourself, sending you all lots of love Thanks

olidora63 · 15/07/2021 10:54

I cannot imagine the absolute devastation you are going through…am so sorry 💐

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 15/07/2021 10:55

Just terrible. I’m so sorry. I really am xx

Cheesecake53 · 15/07/2021 10:55

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EspressoDoubleShot · 15/07/2021 10:56

I had to acknowledge your grief and the loss of your son. I am so sorry you’re experiencing this. There aren’t adequate words, it isn’t right or fair

Has anyone talked you through the formal process? Have the unit debriefed with you
There will be Post Mortem and an internal review of events, it’s serious incident
What support have you been offered? School will support to your 10 year old too

I wish you well and this is simply catastrophic, take care of yourselves as a family unit. Take any help offered. And if people are annoying you it okay to ask them to go.

Annonymiss123 · 15/07/2021 10:56

My deepest condolences on the loss of your precious son. 😥

TenPenceMix · 15/07/2021 10:58

So sorry for your loss Thanks

Candyapple49 · 15/07/2021 10:58

I have sent you a PM x

AnathemaPulsifer · 15/07/2021 10:59

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have a son of a similar age who can have some very fixed ideas. I do worry that he might decide to hurt himself.

clary · 15/07/2021 10:59

I am so sorry to read this @Makinglists. I have no similar experience to share but please talk about him here if it would help, we will all listen. So sorry you have lost your lovely boy.

MadisonAvenue · 15/07/2021 10:59

I’m so sorry, my thoughts are with you

MrsVeryTired · 15/07/2021 11:00

So sorry for your loss Flowers

SirVixofVixHall · 15/07/2021 11:00

I have sent you a pm OP.

herecomesthsun · 15/07/2021 11:00

terrible, I am so sorry

WithASpider · 15/07/2021 11:01

I am so very sorry. I have teenagers myself and can't imagine the pain you are in right now. Much love to you and all your family.

Mumofone29 · 15/07/2021 11:01

So so sorry for your unimaginable loss, thinking of you and your family. RIP to your son. Sending strength 💐

stealingbeauty · 15/07/2021 11:02

Oh gosh. I am sending love.

Mummyoflittledragon · 15/07/2021 11:02

I am so sorry, struggling to find the right words of comfort. Big hugs. Flowers