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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

Message from MNHQ: Please note, very sad update further down the thread

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Zzz1234 · 04/11/2020 20:08

That's great that she's home (I was thinking she'd been kept in when you didn't come back), lots of cuddles and taking it easy for a few days

carly2803 · 04/11/2020 20:20

@sobsanta

Update: she's home, she has antibiotics and a really bad bout of tonsillitis. We're all exhausted and she's asleep on the sofa with us where we can keep an eye on her for now. Thank you guys!
glad she is okay OP!

gentle hugs to your lovelygirl x

Thurlow · 04/11/2020 20:20

Phew! She'll be bouncing about by tomorrow evening then!

sobsanta · 06/11/2020 16:02

A horrible update. Our beautiful toddler died in her sleep sometime in the early hours of this morning after she appeared to be getting better yesterday. She was dead when DH woke up to get her as she wasn't snoring or talking to herself as usual but DH and the paramedics worked on her for over an hour before pronouncing. She was found on her back in her sleeping position of a starfish and we hope that means she went painlessly after quickly. We are heartbroken and awaiting an autopsy to find the cause of death.

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Peridot1 · 06/11/2020 16:05

Oh my God. I am so sorry. That is horrendous. I really don’t know what to say.

What a horrible thing to have happened.

poppet31 · 06/11/2020 16:06

I have no words but couldn't read this and not post. You are in my thoughts ❤️

PG2018 · 06/11/2020 16:07

So so sorry for your loss Thanks

Hm2020 · 06/11/2020 16:08

I’m so sorry to read this Flowers

sobsanta · 06/11/2020 16:09

Reading my post seems so curt but we are utterly devastated. Being home without her feels wrong. We're surrounded by her things and her loss is everywhere.

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Mopani · 06/11/2020 16:09

So so sorry for your loss Flowers

TokyoSushi · 06/11/2020 16:10

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry.

Pumpertrumper · 06/11/2020 16:11

Oh my god I’m so sorry OP there are no words.

I felt sick just reading it.

There aren’t enough words in the world.

Flowers
bestbefore · 06/11/2020 16:11

Oh god I am so sorry that's awful. ThanksThanks

HollowTalk · 06/11/2020 16:11

That's so sad. I'm so sorry. Flowers

Pumpertrumper · 06/11/2020 16:11

I don’t think there is any greater loss than the loss of a child

ContraIndicated · 06/11/2020 16:12

I’m so, so sorry. How unspeakably awful for all of you.

Clymene · 06/11/2020 16:13

Oh what an awful, awful thing to have happened. I'm so very sorry.

bilbodog · 06/11/2020 16:14

So sorry to read this - my thoughts are with you 💐

Littleroundsponge · 06/11/2020 16:15

This is heartbreaking, I'm so very sorry for your loss Flowers sending you love, hugs and my deepest sympathies

Werk · 06/11/2020 16:15

Oh goodness OP, I am so terribly sorry for you. What an awful shock.

Lululatch · 06/11/2020 16:15

I’m so sorry to read this. What a truly terrible thing to happen.

Confuzzlediddled · 06/11/2020 16:16

I'm so sorry for your loss. Flowers I wish I had words of comfort

Joditaylorfan · 06/11/2020 16:16

Oh how absolutely awful for you. Utterly heartbreaking. Huge hugs. Keep on talking with your DH. Tell us about your daughter, if it will help. 💐

afaloren · 06/11/2020 16:17

I’m so desperately sorry for your loss.

Eileithyiaa · 06/11/2020 16:17

Oh my fucking god I am so sorry Thanks