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My toddler died today

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acquiescence · 01/10/2019 14:12

My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

OP posts:
unamullian · 01/10/2019 15:43

Oh my god I'm really sorry! That is my absolute worse nightmare. I can't even comprehend what you must be going through! Sad

Cliffdonville · 01/10/2019 15:43

I'm so sorry, sending you love and prayers x

spiderlight · 01/10/2019 15:44

So very sorry - just awful :( Flowers

linentowel · 01/10/2019 15:44

I am so sorry. I have no words.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 01/10/2019 15:44

So very sorry. Can't even imagine what you are feeling 💐

Maykid · 01/10/2019 15:44

The same thing happened to me 35 years ago, also the younger sibling. I send you my love. You will get through this but it will take time. Be kind to yourself.

whocaresalot · 01/10/2019 15:44

I am so sorry Flowers

twinnywinny14 · 01/10/2019 15:45

Take time to grieve in your own way, whatever that may look like. Remember you are important in all this and you need to look after yourself too x

Miljah · 01/10/2019 15:45

Words cannot begin to describe. I am so sorry for your terrible loss Flowers

saffy1234 · 01/10/2019 15:46

Things like this make me question my faith.
I am devastated on your behalf and so sorry this has happened to you x

Mopmum35 · 01/10/2019 15:51

Oh my gosh, no words. I'm truly sorry Flowers

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 01/10/2019 15:51

I wish you and your family strength and love going forward from today OP.I am so so sorry. It seems so inadequate I wish I could say more or anything to comfort you but I really cannot find any words to ease your pain and distress..I am genuinely sorry for all of you.

GoBrookeYourself · 01/10/2019 15:52

I am so, so sorry for your loss- this is one of those times where there are no words. Sending you love and prayers Flowers

Loveislandaddict · 01/10/2019 15:53

Sorry for your loss

ScrimshawTheSecond · 01/10/2019 15:53

Flowers I'm so sorry.

Cruse may be able to help, especially with how to help your son through this.

www.cruse.org.uk/get-help/for-parents

randomusername · 01/10/2019 15:55

I cannot imagine the heartbreak. 💔 When do you find out what the cause was? I hope finding it out will provide some sort of comfort. Take advantage of all the support you can get.
Best wishes to you and your family in this difficult time.

ilikemethewayiam · 01/10/2019 15:57

I felt sick when I read the title! I can’t imagine anything in the world worse than losing a child. I’m so sorry OP. Sending you love. Flowers

BowiesJumper · 01/10/2019 15:57

I am so, so sorry. The worst that could happen - I can't imagine it. All the love in the world to all of you xxx

Billballbaggins · 01/10/2019 15:57

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers

OpiesOldLady · 01/10/2019 15:57

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. It's cruel and unfair and I wish it could be different for you.

Just try to take one moment at a time. One foot in front of the other, and don't forget to breathe.

LionKingLover · 01/10/2019 15:58

Sending you so much love. There are no words for such a devestating loss. Its heartbreaking to even read. X

hittheroadjack1 · 01/10/2019 15:59

Sending love to you all. I'm so sorry Thanks

CampfireZen · 01/10/2019 15:59

Oh, acquiescence,

That is just heartbreaking for you and your family.

I'm so very sorry your precious son has died, and send you strength and love.

Flowers
BambooBoobam · 01/10/2019 16:00

I’m very sorry Flowers

MonnaLisa · 01/10/2019 16:00

So sorry. My friend's baby died a while ago, he was only 20 months. There are no words. I am so so sorry and send you love and thoughts.

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