My toddler died today

[acquiescence]

My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

I haven't for the words to say how sorry I am for you xxx

You poor poor thing, I’m so sorry.

I am so very sorry.

That's just shocking OP, I cant even imagine how you are feeling but am glad you have friends and family around you and support on here with names of helpful charities etc.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

The Lullaby Trust offer bereavement support: www.lullabytrust.org.uk/bereavement-support/

Also Bereaved Parent Support: www.careforthefamily.org.uk/family-life/bereavement-support/bereaved-parent-support

Did the hospital offer any support or guidance? You can also visit your GP / HV who can put you in contact with local support.

Thinking of you and your family x

Oh no, what a simply dreadful thing to happen! My goodness, it is so difficult to even contemplate.

You must be in shock right now. I do hope you have some good supportive people around you.

I don't know what to say to you, aquiesence, but am sending you and yours much love.

I have no words. All I can do is send love to you and yours.

I am so so so sorry OP

I'm so very sorry

Sincere condolences. When my friend's child died, she got a lot of support from the Compassionate Friends.
When you feel able, contact them.

www.tcf.org.uk/

So sorry for your loss. X

This is so awful. Sending you all lots of love

I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't imagine what you are going through

I am so sorry, thinking of you x

Forgot to add...

Bereavement support helpline for The Lullaby Trust: 0808 802 6868

They offer bereavement support following the sudden loss of a young child.

So sorry to hear this.

Whatever you need to do and however you need to grieve is OK.

It might be different from how others around you grieve but nobody is wrong.

Your older child will grieve in their own way too and it may be difficult to handle at times because foru year olds don't know how to say things gently when they are getting their head round a bereavement.

Accept the support that is offered that works for you and say no if it doesn't. Ask if you need it.

Use MN to say the thing you might not want to say in RL.

There are no words. So very very sorry to hear of your loss. May your little boy rest in peace. Sending love x

Oh god, I'm so very sorry. I too have a toddler and a 4 year old, I cannot imagine what you are going through. I do t even know what to say but sending you strength for this horrible time xx

Some things stop you in your tracks and make you hold your breath. This is the saddest thing I've ever read. I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine. I send you much strength and love for you and your family.

So sorry

I have no advice to give. I just wanted to say I’m so sorry.

I am so sorry.

0800 282 986 or 0808 800 6019 If from a mobile, this is the number where you can ring and talk to people who understand what you are going through as they have lost children. I found them invaluable, I remember the need to find people who knew what I was going through.
I am so sorry, we'd don't know each other but you are in my thoughts and my heart is breaking for you.
I found my gorgeous boy, Ted in very similar circumstances PM me if you'd like to chat at anytime in the future.

You poor, poor love - I am so sorry that you have lost your beautiful baby, life can be so cruel
Sending you kindest thoughts

I am so sorry, @acquiescence - you are in my heart and my thoughts.