My toddler died today

[acquiescence]

My baby died today. I found him in his cot this morning. He was completely well yesterday and has no health problems. They are completing a post mortem today.
I don’t know what to do. Why would a healthy child just die? I have a 4 year old and don’t know how to handle it with him. Any advice welcome, I’m obviously a mixture of completely numb and a mess.

Sending you so much love. So so sorry that this has happened. Praying for peace and healing for you, your fam and friends.

I’m so sorry

Oh my gosh.... I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry x

I'm so sorry OP, sending love to you and your family xxx

I am so so sorry and I truly hope you have lots of support around you.

I'm so sorry. Use this thread for support, have you anyone in real life?

I'm so sorry sending you love l. I can't imagine how awful this is.

Do you have family or someone to help with the 4 year old? Don't feel you have to manage everything through this xxx

Love and prayers to you and your family

Oh OP I'm so, so sorry to hear this.

As for right now, do whatever it is you feel you need to do.
Drink something sweet and warm (tea, hot chocolate..) to help with the shock.
Wrap yourself in comfortable clothing.
Cry, rage, scream till you can't anymore. Or sit silently if you feel that's what you need.

Do you have any support? Could anyone take your 4yo for a bit if you feel that would help?

No request will be too big right now. Just take it second by second.

Please look after yourself, we're all here.

I’m so so sorry

Oh no! I an so very sorry.

No useful words. Just hugs and a hand to hold.

Fucking hell. Sorry OP. I don't know what else to say. Life can be so cruel. Look after yourself x

My heart aches for you OP. x

I am so so sorry this has happened to you. My 13 month old died very suddenly in January so I can understand some of the shock, hurt, anger you are feeling.
If you need any advice on what happens next I am happy to try and pass on some of the things I learnt, including what you need to prepare for over the next few weeks. We also had to deal with a coroner and of course the awful formalities that come with this.
Hope you are surrounded by loved ones today. This is something no parent should ever have to go through :(

I am so sorry. Words are so inadequate at times. I’m sure you are in shock.

I hope you have some real life support?

I know you won’t want to eat but make sure you keep drinking. Hot sweet tea. Sips of water. Even a couple of bites of toast or something will help.

Thank you. I have a wonderful husband, good friends and supportive extended family so I am fortunate in that aspect. Extended Family are all far away but will travel to be with us soon and we are at a friends house today who is looking after us all and being very kind.

I'm so sorry. I hope you have lots of support around you.

Ps , really don`t know how to handle how you tell your 4 yr old.
I told my G/sons when they lost their unborn siblings that Jesus needed angels to be with other babies that died.
They just said oh okay G/ma that makes sense but it still hurts our hearts.

Again sending love.

There are no words to bring comfort, I know, and you are in shock. Please surround yourself with supportive real life people and of course, MN is here to offer support.

@acquiescence I'm so so sorry for your loss. I know it's so early, but if you choose to, ask someone to take handprints and footprints. These may be so precious in the future for your family. Thoughts and prayers

So very very sorry

I am so so sorry. x

So very sorry. I hope you have support around you. Sending a virtual hug.

I am so so sorry. You're in my thoughts.

I’m so very sorry for your loss xx